By Lori Lines

Growing up, our parents or primary guardians seemed larger than life. They could tackle any task, answer any question, and do no wrong. In a child’s eyes, the adults that nurse them when they are sick, help them navigate the world, and shower them with love, are perfect. As we grow out of the ages of innocence, we may start to perceive of the humanity of our guardians. Imperfect, questioning, wounded, and in need of healing. It is difficult for some when they realize that their parents are human and fall short of their ideal of what a parent should be.
 
It is often not until we are older or parents ourselves that we can fully embrace the fallibility of our parents with grace and compassion. Though for some, this understanding is hard to find, and no matter how pure and well-meaning their parents’ intentions are, their children feel resentment, heartache, or spitefulness towards the people they once so idolized. 

This manner of viewing elders and caregivers from childhood is often encouraged. Viewed as respectful and considered a sound way to model qualities that children should aspire to, putting our parents on a pedestal is a dynamic that we are conditioned to accept.
 
As we grow, we may adopt the same way of viewing all adults, superiors, and advisors. In school, we may idolize our teachers and coaches. We emulate and aspire to be like our more successful counterparts, managers, and bosses in the professional world. When we seek guidance and healing from counselors, therapists, and lightworkers, we also raise them up on a pedestal of reverence and admiration. 
In fact, the more spiritual an individual’s purpose or vocation, the more we tend to revert to the conditioned response of idolization. Just as we did with our parents in our youth, we encumber our spiritual teachers, healers, and mentors with high expectations based on our own idealized versions of who we think they should be. This idealized version is often a projection of who we think we should be or who we believe these lightworkers are supposed to help us become.

Some believe there are benefits to viewing lightworkers and spiritual healers in this way. Often, by painting the mentor with the brush of projection, it enables us to better visualize who we wish to become. The idealized guide can serve as an inspiration, motivating transformation, because “if they can do it, so can I.”
 
Yet, like our parents, lightworkers are fallibly human. They are their own works in progress, seeking healing from wounds and trauma and illumination along their path of enlightenment. Unfortunately, this humanity is often overlooked. Then again, who can see it when they are so high aloft the pedestals they have been placed on. Sadly, when they fall short of our projections of perfection, they are villainized. This villainization is rooted in the same resentment, heartache, and disappointment of our youth when confronted by our parents’ imperfection. Instead of being a reflection of our hopes and dreams, the lightworker becomes a projection of our unhealed wounds.
 
As unfortunate as the whole dynamic sounds, it can serve as an opportunity for healing. When these wounds rise to the surface to be slung resentfully at our parents, healers, guides, mentors, and leaders, we can instead use them to reawaken to our divine purpose of release, renewal, and enlightenment. When these people “let us down,” it is often because they “fail” to possess qualities that we wanted to see in others or manifest within ourselves. It is essential to ask ourselves how we can be the embodiment of who we long for others to be, how can our journey of self-actualization help us grow into the people we have always needed.
 
We are on the precipice of transformational times and ascending the matrix. It is more critical than ever that we must be who we need for ourselves. While it can be encouraging to grow with others and motivating to be inspired by others, we must learn to follow our own path, trust our own intuition, and manifest our own growth.

It is time to embrace your own sovereignty! Shake free from the doubt and the fear of not having all the answers. The time is now to turn the same faithful trust you held in your parents, or the lightworkers you’ve encountered, inward. Trust yourself and the journey even if you don’t have all the answers because no one does. After all, the whole reason for your journey is to discover them! 

In love and truth,
​Lori Lines

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By Lori Lines

Four principle bodies define our personhood.  The wholeness of your existence can be parsed into our physical body, mental body, emotional body, and spiritual body.  The classifications are self-explanatory.  The physical body governs sensory experiences, bodily needs, and desires.  The mental body encompasses the cognitive processes and frameworks through which you experience your existence, such as value systems, world views, and beliefs.  Comprising your emotional experiences and states is the emotional body.  Finally, your higher self, inner divinity, and authentic ascended essence is the spiritual body.

When we are balanced and aligned, our spiritual, mental, and emotional essence inform and are informed by each other.  Our physical body is the embodiment and expression of mind, heart, and soul - an elaborate orchestration of chi.  While the physical body is essential as our means of self-expression and transportation during this lifetime, of the four, it is the lowest common denominator.  

Imbalances can lead to systemic disruption.  For some, physical needs and self-serving desires take precedence.  In this case, when the mind, heart, or spirit needs healing, the drives of the temporal body block progression and growth.  An illustration of this is when two people feel a strong corporeal attraction that feels so novel and strong it can be falsely attributed with karma.  

Granted, there are many pre-destined connections with labels such as "soul mates," "twin flames," and "karmic connections" scripted in the book of life.  However, we can only discern them when spirit informs the body.  When body informs spirit, we can be misled to hang on to destructive circumstances, energies, and behaviors, obstructing the intended flow of energy throughout the four bodies.  This limits our mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and expansion, keeping us stuck, unable to move into the direction of our highest good.

This is when it's necessary to take a moment, at this point, to reconnect to our soul purpose.  We have come to this lifetime to self-actualize, achieve enlightenment, and ascend. Every experience and every relationship that has been placed on our path is meant to facilitate this practice.  It may not always be clear how to navigate the situation or why a particular person or circumstance was placed on our path, yet we are still accountable for trusting the process and learning.  If you are resistant or allow yourself to be distracted by physical desires, you can manifest negative karmic ramifications by blocking your soul's progression.

The highly marketed and pervasive notion about the Twin Flame connection, for example, is so profound and meaningful that we must pursue it at all costs, never faltering along the journey, is an example of blocking our spiritual progression.  This notion can contribute to the tendency to use fate as an excuse to resist spiritual advancement, fail to fight physical desires, and refuse to release destructive energies, people and situations that may be hurting us. While unique in many ways, the Twin Flame connection is like every other relationship in that it is meant to serve our path towards individual alignment with the higher self.  When a relationship, Twin Flame, soulmate, or otherwise, fails or ceases to support our journey, we are responsible for either healing or releasing it.

Divine wisdom dictates that even in our "failures" or "missteps," we can still find growth and empowerment.  Revisiting the example of the Twin Flame connection, when things don't work out, instead of seeking "healing" through dogged fidelity and destructive tenacity WITH that person, we are meant to learn independence, release, and self-preservation leading to freedom and liberation.  We are not intended to live co-dependently.  We are designed to honor our own personhood so that we are filled with light and  radiate this light out to others within our sphere.  Even when we are not in relationships, independence and liberty to pursue enlightenment on our own terms are vital.   While our spiritual partners can support and inspire our progression towards completion, they are not meant to complete us.  As discussed in a recent article, it is crucial to show up whole to all relationships, sans our baggage, to avoid lowering our individual and mutual vibration.

There are many ways people can be unavailable; emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or due to previous or current attachments.  Fundamentally, whenever we stubbornly pursue a relationship that serves neither our own nor our partner's soul growth any longer than is necessary, one or more of the four bodies will be misaligned or unavailable.  For a connection to fulfill your needs, both parties must be present in all four bodies.  This is the only way to elevate the associated vibrations and support the delicate balance of chi that breathes life into your holistic self that sustains the four bodies it is founded upon.

Keep in mind, letting go of someone we love who is emotionally unavailable may erroneously feel like a lack of fidelity or commitment, yet it is a revealing sign of dedication and loyalty to your life purpose and soul mission. 

Always stay true to yourself without exploiting another.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

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By Lori Lines

​Everything is energy, the emotions this article elicits, the thoughts it invokes. Your energy is an amalgamation of all the subtle energies you are made up of. Have you ever noticed that your annoying neighbor or irritating co-worker always seems to find you when you are having a bad day? That is because universal order is based in part on like attracting like. We naturally attract the energies we manifest.
 
Polarity is another universal law. The balance of oppositional forces is represented by light and dark, yin and yang, feminine and masculine, positive and negative. Within each of us exists light and shadow. Enlightenment is realized not in the absence of our shadows but when our light illuminates all that exists within them.

Spiritual growth is not a linear, quantifiable path. Viewing energy as a spectrum, some people's energy is more burdened by their darkness (lower vibrational frequency).  In contrast, other people's energy is elevated by their light (higher vibrational frequency).

Every interpersonal dynamic, platonic or romantic, has its own energy. It is the sum of both parties' energy. When two people who radiate more light are paired up, we admire their connection – "two peas in a pod," "meant to be," "soulmates." When two people who generate more darkness come together, we often dissent – "misery loves company," "match made in hell."
 
Then there are relationships when opposite energies attract and a positive vibration is entwined with a negative one – "toxic," "enabling," "codependent." Think back to when you or someone you know was in such a relationship. Do you recall watching the "positive" person becoming increasingly focused on the "negative" person's wellbeing? Did their energy fade? Did their spark diminish? That's because the person filled with light was being pulled down into the other person's darkness.
 
It's important to remember neither party is inherently good or bad based on this dynamic. We often glorify people who are self-sacrificing as heroic, compassionate, and kind. In turn, we paint people with lower vibrations as malevolent, "energy vampires," and "toxic."  It is the dynamic that is toxic. What many don't realize is this type of dynamic is damaging to both people. It's as dysfunctional to pour all your light into someone else's darkness as it is to allow another's light to chase your shadows. It deters from your higher purpose by either distracting from your growth or undermining the need for growth altogether.
 
While it may be easier to spot imbalances in others' relationships, there are some hallmarks you can look for in your own relationships. Does the relationship leave you feeling increasingly run down? Has your own growth become stagnant? Do you find yourself reverting to unhealthy, unserving mindsets or behaviors? Do you maintain this relationship out of love and affinity or concern over how the other party will fare without you?

 It's never too late to become aware of these unserving dynamics and regain balance! We often feel a commitment to people based on how long they've been in our lives. "I've known her since grade school," "we have been together for 10 years". The calendar is not always a good measure for a good, balanced relationship. It's about how people show up within the relationship dynamic, whether you've known them 50 years or three months, doesn't really matter.  Ask yourself, if a food you have eaten since you were a child was making you sick, would you keep eating it because you had been doing so your whole life?  What if you found a new food? Whenever you ate it, you felt satiated, refreshed, and nourished. Would you disregard it because you only knew of it for a brief time? That's because what matters most is how good it made you feel. Relationships are the same. The length of the relationship is not important. What is essential is how well it nourishes both parties' spiritual bodies, serving the greater good.
  
If you find yourself in a chronically imbalanced dynamic, it's imperative to set boundaries. Focus on boundaries that make yourself a priority again, that stymie the energy vortex you have unknowingly been sucked into, and clearly delineate where your energy ends, and theirs begins. If someone refuses to honor these energetic boundaries, you may consider cutting them loose so they can no longer serve as an anchor that prevents you from taking flight on the wings of change.
 
It isn't a complicated relational perspective. When you break it down, the principles are founded in simple math; a negative will always diminish a positive, and the sum of two positives is always greater than the parts!

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

"Why does this always happen to me?" "How do I always attract the wrong people?" "Why me?!" Most of us have either heard or have even said something like this at some point in our romantic lives. Our tendency is to blame bad luck or the "losers" we meet when things go south in our relationships.
 
Just because we do it doesn't make it right! To find the love, devotion, and unity we seek in healthy relationships, we must challenge ourselves to consider our role and the underpinnings of our belief systems, that drive us, in what went wrong. In other words, we need to examine what we did, or the energy we brought to the relationship to begin with, to cause the undesirable effects. 

Asking yourself what role you played in the distrust, betrayal, frustration, disconnection, or ultimate breakdown of your relationship is a hard question to ask when it is framed in a way that is self-deprecating and guilt-ridden. It doesn't have to be this way. By asking yourself why you have chosen a sequence of cheaters, ignored red flags, didn't speak up when a boundary was crossed, or keep being drawn to the "work-in-progress" type, you will gain self-knowledge and empowerment, breaking these toxic cycles.
 
It can be a hard pill to swallow, yet we manifest an undesirable reality when we lack self-awareness. By allowing unserving belief systems and world views framed by trauma and heartache to go unchecked, unhealed, and unchanged, we end up with the same adverse results. Yet, when we understand the causal role we play, we are empowered to choose a different path, assume a different perspective, and choose different actions. By engaging in shadow work, release work, and accepting appropriate accountability, we can release the past, achieve a higher perspective, overcoming our self-imposed limitations and the confines of our comfort zones.
 
The issue with comfort zones is they are made to fit where we were, not where we are going. Remaining within our comfort zones leaves us doing the same things, with the same people or archetypes, in the same ways, limiting our spiritual growth and personal development. When we enmesh ourselves in situations or connections with a lower vibration than our own, they inevitably pull down our vibration. This drains our energy and creates stagnation. When we find connections and circumstances that match our vibration, we are uplifted, the shared energy is amplified. 

It's important to trust that we will find the right connections and not begin desperately seeking them. Desperation is a bullet train to disempowerment. When we convince ourselves we need a partner as a source of love, well-being or affirmation outside of who we are, we give away our power. We ignore red flags, settle for less, and sacrifice pieces of our personhood because we are so distressed over the thought of being alone. 

We must remember, we can be whole and happy alone. In fact, we must find inner completion and contentment before we can be part of a healthy relationship. When we cling to another for personal fulfillment, the result is neither will be fulfilled. No one other than you can validate, affirm, or complete your existence, meaning you will be unfulfilled, and so will your partner when faced with a task where success is unattainable.

Accountability is crucial in this instance as well. We must assume responsibility for our personal development, happiness, and sense of completion. This is foundational to self-actualization, empowerment, and well-being, yet there are also secondary benefits. When you are at one and at peace with yourself, you will be more attractive, particularly to like-minded individuals. No more low-vibrational energy drainers! Relationships where two complete individuals who love themselves and accept accountability for their lives unsurprisingly foster more growth, happiness, devotion, and fulfillment. Because these two people are not trying to make gains from a deficit, they are building up from a solid foundation on which to grow.

Too many people look at love as something to acquire, retain, and exchange, like a possession. Love is actually a state of being and a way of relating to each other and the world. As they say, love is a verb. Without action, it is merely a word. It is a series of behaviors, communicating, nurturing, supporting, connecting, trusting…

Of all the things we must do to love, trusting is vital. We've all been hurt. No matter the depth, the manner, or how long it's been since it occurred, these hurts can linger. Our hearts are like bruised or broken limbs. Even after the bruises have healed, we are sometimes still defensive and protective of them. We project judgment on to those who want to be in our lives, finding fault and making them wrong in order to protect ourselves. Memories of the pain linger and as they do so, we project our own wounds onto people, until we look within and completely heal ourselves and take accountability for our own sabotage.  Yet to be in love, we must move beyond the fear of being hurt and be willing to stretch out of our comfort zones.
 
While we may not be able to forget, we must be willing to trust. As we embrace our vulnerability, the ego that rejects accountability, refuses change, and finds refuge in casting blame, is silenced. Vulnerability softens your heart, allowing love to flow inward and outward, a life-giving wellspring. Of course, there are risks in opening your heart to the potentiality of hurt and pain, but the reward of learning to first trust yourself is well worth the inner work! 

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

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By Lori Lines

Projection is the subconscious act of transferring your own unwanted traits, emotions, and behaviors on to someone else.  Projective identification, sometimes referred to as projection as well, is the subconscious act of taking feelings from one interpersonal, connection, situation, or relationship and place it on to an unrelated one.  Finally, externalization is when we blame others for our circumstances and problems, falsely assuming a victim mentality.

It can all seem a little confusing to someone who isn't familiar with these terms, so here are a few examples.  An example of projection is feeling bad about not giving your all at work.  Subconsciously you feel guilty that you've been disinterested and unfocused at work.  Instead of assuming responsibility for not giving your all, you lash out at a blameless co-worker for being lazy and inconsiderate for not doing their fair share.  You took your negative feelings and placed them on your co-worker.

An example of projective identification is having left a relationship where you were undervalued and felt unheard, and you go to a skilled therapist and counselor.  You get frustrated with the therapist because they never hear you and often treat you with a lack of respect, unconsciously painting them with the same brush as your ex.

An example of externalization would be poor money management and thoughtless spending having you in a financial crunch.  Instead of assuming responsibility for your carelessness, you blame your innocent partner for always suggesting expensive activities.

Now that you know what these terms are, you may ask why we do them.  They are coping mechanisms to help us deal with uncomfortable and unwelcome emotional and mental experiences.   The above are examples of maladaptive coping.  There are different reasons why we engage in these particular maladaptive coping techniques.  They can be a means to avoid shame and damage to the ego-self.  Some people are trying to prevent fearful or unpredictable outcomes.  For others, it is merely a consequence of trying to block these unwanted thoughts, feelings, or behaviors out of their mind.  By deciding not to think about them, our quirky brains focus on them even more.  We have all engaged in this type of coping at some point in our lives, they are unconscious mechanisms after all, but a chronic or contentious tendency towards projection and blame can be very damaging to others, our relationships, and our spiritual path.

As I'm sure you can imagine, when someone is projected upon or blamed when they are not guilty of the perceived offense, it can damage their self-esteem and self-worth, if they choose to take it on.  Over time, when someone is met with a constant barrage of projection, it can build a toxic shame within them.  This toxicity can spill over into all areas of life.  This is why it is essential to consider and shape our interactions, our reactions with empathy and compassion.

The truth is, the avoidance of negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors thwart our own healing and spiritual growth.  We cannot walk in the light if we don't first acknowledge and accept the dark or shadow components of our past and who we are.  If we project that which is undesirable in us onto others, we never get the chance to open it to the light and to correct ourselves.  By projecting and blaming, we damage our sense of empowerment, our strength, and our self-worth.  We assume the role of victim and, by doing so, we cease striving to surmount our challenges and our traumas so that we can move forward in our lives in a healthy way.

Finally, the path to enlightenment is one of love, love of the self and love of others.  When we project and blame, it is a victimization and a rejection of who we really are, there is no room for self-love in this chronic pattern of denying our truth.  Also, as mentioned, by casting unwarranted guilt on others, we can do damage to their spirit, which wrongfully impacts their path and their ability to fulfill their purpose, love cannot be sustained in this circumstance, either.

Psychological projection, projective identity, and blame all stem from judgments.  Judgements of ourselves that are manifested as judgments projected onto others.  The first step in breaking the toxic pattern of maladaptive projective coping is to release judgment.  The ego-self is sustained by judgments, when you can observe your thoughts, your feelings, and your behaviors with awareness, and without judgment, you are on the path to negative ego-death and enlightenment.

It is exciting to see a trend in my QHHT practice that many of my clients are beginning to recognize, and to take responsibility for,  their own role when they are projecting their own wounds into situations and relationships. As the article states, we all do this from time-to-time, but when it becomes a habit of deflecting the underlying issues, projection can take a very dysfunctional turn.

This trend is showing me that the collective is allowing these underlying wounds to float up to the surface so that we can finally have the opportunity to deal with these shadow parts of ourselves in order to finally make the changes needed and put them to rest.

In love and truth,
​Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Sometimes we meet someone, and there is an instant and intense magnetism.  Occasionally, this magnetism is more than just attraction and immediate rapport.  This may have happened to you already, or you could be in the throws of attraction right now.  These connections can become relationships that begin with sheer bliss, love bombing, and a wonderful sense of innocence but then they sometimes end in shattering heartbreak.  If you have experienced heartache such as this, you may be surprised to know it turned out exactly how you planned it!

This instantaneous, powerful pull we feel toward someone may mean we are experiencing a karmic connection. This is also known as a soul contract or agreement.  It is a commitment we made on the Other Side to teach/help one another achieve a certain level of enlightenment and spiritual awakening.  Whether or not each person chooses to go within and take the lesson for what it is is up to each relationship participant.

There are specific telltale signs that help identify a karmic connection.  The first was already discussed as an intense, undeniable draw toward a person at first sight.  This immense allure is followed by a honeymoon period of happiness, delight and attachment.  Afterward, the intensity of emotion and connection to that person will remain, but, more often than not, the passion's fire may become too hot to handle.  These relationships are recognized by how challenging, frustrating, and rocky they can be.  The highs are high, and the lows are the pits!

If we are observant and aware, throughout these highs and lows, we will notice the same issues will keep presenting themselves, perhaps under a different cover or in a different relationship, but the insult usually adds to the same injury again and again.
Whether we need to learn self-love, self-worth, humility, empowerment, or to release what no longer serves us, we will keep being pulled through the relationship tests and patterns until we have learned the original lesson we are meant to learn about ourselves.

Another telltale sign of a karmic connection are all the mixed emotions and angst we feel while in relationship to another.  "I love them; I can't stand them,"  "I'm done; I can't walk away."  Karmic connections are full of interpersonal and intra-personal conflict as well as compatibility.  That is because our spirit doesn't feel right walking away (the pull) before the lesson is learned, but it is quite painful to have to keep reliving the same hurts, which can be quite confusing especially if there is a level of compatibility.  Until the karmic contract is fulfilled, and the lessons are learned, we will always feel like we have unfinished business that will weigh on us until our spirit deems it's finished.

According to the Vedic philosophies, there are seven relationship types.  Each relationship type corresponds to one of the seven primary chakras.  Relationships relating to the lower chakras, the root, the sacral, and the solar plexus are full of challenges and result in more unhappiness than the higher chakras.  As such, karmic connections often arise when one needs to heal the lower chakras.

The root chakra represents our sense of security, stability, and provision.  Root chakra relationships are wrought with issues of the unhealthy ego, jealousy, insecurity, and survival.  The emotional instability within one or both partners leads to intense highs and lows in the relationship bringing up selfishness, and emotional barriers. Karmic connections that are intended to heal the root chakra are meant to teach us inner balance, the ability to provide for the self, and the need to develop a secure sense of belonging within...regardless if the relationship is meant to be healed or not.

The sacral chakra is our pleasure center.  It is the home to our creativity, our passion, our emotions, and our desire for creature comforts.  Karmic sacral chakra relationships are laden with issues surrounding selfishness, greed, self-preservation and worry.  The self-serving nature of one or both partners leads to alienation, self-centeredness, obsessiveness, compulsion and a lack of passion and balance. These karmic connections that are designed to heal the sacral chakra are meant to foster emotional maturity, empathy, patience, and an appreciation for life's pleasures.

The solar plexus chakra is what feeds our self-worth and our self-confidence.  Solar plexus connections are generally the happiest of the lower chakra relationships, though these connections are not without trials.  These karmic connections are affected by issues surrounding shallowness, false appearances, lack of authenticity and the desire for admiration.  The lack of humility and a compulsive need to keep up appearances (even when the relationship has outlasted itself) can lead to a tendency toward "one-upmanship" and an absence of partnership equality.  Ultimately, resentment and anger can develop if there is a perception of being held back or outshined.  Karmic connections designed to heal the solar plexus chakra are meant to foster a stable sense of self-worth, personal integrity, motivation for higher purposes, and responsibility for one's own fate.

A cosmic spiritual love and a deeply spiritual purpose of enlightenment is what brings karmic partners together.  In my own past life regressions, I was able to experience and witness a life-between-life where a very intense karmic connection and I were planning this current life to be intensely drawn together for the shared purpose to incite triggers and provide opportunity to heal ourselves, within, after the relationship was sabotaged.  The challenges that presented themselves in the relationship caused me to learn very painful lessons that I chose to acknowledge and to transcend.  Though the physical loss of the eternal spiritual partner can be devastating in this lifetime, it does not mean karmic relationships should last.  In the end, the polarities of energies will reveal themselves, and just as the two were magnetized to one another, they can also be repelled. It is rare, in one lifetime, for these partners to return and fully integrate into a physical spiritual partnership, unless both find themselves on the same page of enlightenment, learned through their individual experiences,  at a later time.  

I often go back to the memory my regression provided, with my spiritual attachment, at our time of planning. I remember his presence and our cosmic conversation while we were in the ethereal realm,  and I feel such a satisfying love that his soul provided me to feel within myself. There is no greater sacrifice of the self and for the other, to incite such transformative pain. And, after the pain is transcended, when the uncovering of that spiritual truth of love is felt once again, there's nothing greater or more satisfying when you know you've passed the test.  The test leading to experience oneself as fully whole and balanced without the same triggers that the partner once incited. There is no greater love, between souls, such as this.

The danger of the karmic connection is to cling to the familiarity, the intensity, and at times, the codependency. As heartbreaking as it can be, know when it is time to walk away.  It's important to do so in peace, knowing you and your karmic connection share such a profound sacred love that you decided it was a journey worth traveling and a loss worth enduring for the sake of mutual enlightenment.

In love and truth,
​Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Entering the realm of higher consciousness is  spoken about with positive intentions, however, the spiritual journey of expanding consciousness can be gritty and painful as we are bombarded with truth about the way we have been living under a type of spell or dream in an unconscious way.  

Of course, we are not aware we've been living in a dream world until we experience a series of catalysts that wake us up. Some of us wake up like a bandaid ripped off, exposing our wounds, while we are left to deal with the aftermath of pain, disappointments, guilt, remorse, fear, and even depression. It is where the dark night of the soul can enter, encountered with our darker side, where exposure of traumas and fears are commonly felt.

Some of us wake up over a period of time and its subtleties are barely perceptible when one day, we are compelled to look back at our life progress and see, really see, how we have evolved from where we began to where we are now in our souls evolution. 

Suffice it to say that waking up is a journey to a new reality that's based in truth we've never perceived before. And, when that time comes, those who are near and dear to us may or may not be on that same path as this new reality we suddenly find ourselves living.

To be supported and encouraged by those we love and trust would be a wonderful aid in the process of waking up, yet you may find yourself feeling alone and isolated. At this crucial time in one's spiritual evolution, one may feel judged and mocked by those once thought would champion you.  In fact, this is very common.  Yet, this sense of isolation can be a side-effect and a further catalyst for awakening.  However, all is not lost.  Interpersonal relationships can still be navigated during awakening, once we come to understand and accept certain principles.

One principle is you will lose people.  People come into our lives for a variety of reasons. Even close friends may decide your notions, your belief systems and your new paradigms to be too "far fetched" for them.  They may even determine that you aren't the person they have come to know.  Or, as you ascertain new truths that change your vibrational frequency, you may decide that they no longer resonate with you and, sadly, may have to let them go.  

Once you accept that everyone is responsible for their own spiritual journey, even if they do not understand you or they haven't figured out they are on one yet, you will be more at peace when others walk away, eventually.

Another perspective you may want to consider is that you aren't here to change anyone's mind.  When we try to do this, it becomes a waste of energy, especially when others are not ready to hear you out.  Some people that seemed so reasonable before you began awakening, suddenly judge you or dig in their heels when you try to express yourself while their paradigms are challenged.  There will be people who will be dismissive and disagreeable no matter what you have to say. And, you know what? That is OK!

My suggestion is not to argue with people who are committed to disagreeing with you or who are committed to misunderstanding you. Because they will. Believe me. In no longer attempting to sway others to your new way of thinking is not spiritual bypassing; this is acknowledging that it is not your duty to change a closed mind.  There will be people who will be open to have these discussions with you, to open to hearing what you have to say, all the while checking into their own triggers. And if there is not, then it's not time...even more reason to go within, to journal, to meditate, to explore your new reality on certain matters, and to connect to your newly-found higher consciousness.

An important distinction to make is your spiritual itinerary is your own. It does not need to align with anyone else's until you have integrated your newly found self and have become more confident in who you have become.  As you expand your consciousness, coming to new realizations and connecting the figurative dots like never before, you will want to share the invigorating and revitalization energy with those close to you!  But, I would not recommend it unsolicited.  Not everyone has the same timetable of spiritual awakening.  You could present frightening ideas, that challenge another's reality and their ego.  This doesn't make these people unevolved or "lesser-than," it simply isn't their time. And, it may never be their time.  I always try to err on the side of being respectful of that.

What's important to remember is you are not alone.  Even if your friends and family don't see eye-to-eye with you, there are people and communities that you can become a part of when you are ready, there is spiritual literature you can read and mentors you can learn from.  Just be prudent and discerning of the information you ingest and the people you trust, as during a spiritual awakening process one can feel disoriented, vulnerable and unclear, therefore, one might attract those whose vibration is the same, rendering them to be untrustworthy in the long-term.  And, it must be said, that not every philosophy warrants credence.  

There are a lot of credible, loving people who may not have experienced your unique journey but have experienced the highs and lows of spiritual awakening, when they, too, felt alone.  Your journey is as unique and personal as you are, yet it is communal.  Know that many people have walked a path of awakening that have become self-realized and even more enlightened. Those are the people to seek out, of course, with an eye toward discernment.  And rest in the knowing that the collective consciousness is awakening overall.  

In love and truth,
Lori 

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By Lori Lines

 Many clients mention the yearning for connection with like-minded people because, in this age of social media, political divisiveness, and information overload, we are disconnected more than ever. But that doesn't have to be the case, if one is open and willing to put down the smartphones, close down their laptops, and take responsibility for making a few changes. 

Several years ago I moved back to my hometown after being gone for several years. Though there were still a few people I knew from my old school days, I had grown in a different direction and I didn't have much in common with most of them anymore.

After settling in, I decided it was time to find my soul tribe of like-minded individuals. I attended a few meet-up groups before I settled in on one. From that point on, I met a few wonderful, like-minded folks that have become a core soul-group...these people have been there through thick and thin and I feel so blessed to have them in my life.

Attracting our soul group is an important part of the journey to accessing inner peace and a more productive and joy-filled life.  Finding that group of individuals who truly "get" us can completely enrich our lives.  

What I've learned is by understanding who you are and sharing similar values and beliefs helps ensure that you will be able to speak for hours and enjoy your connections.

While finding them can be challenging, here are some tips to help you attract your soul group and enjoy a more satisfying life:

• Know you want it:  If you are looking for your soul group, then you need to put it out there, take some action and let the Universe know that you are looking for a change.  If you understand and believe your tribe is out there waiting for you then you will discover them or they will discover you! I always go by the theory that what you want, wants you. So, go to places and do things that interest YOU.

• Make room in your life for new:  Sometimes it's necessary to let go of people and things that, for some reason or another, weigh us down. Take an honest look at your life. Is there someone or something pulling at your energy that is a source of aggravation?  Have you outgrown certain people or situations? Do you hoard physical and emotional remnants of past loves and friends that are no longer? Is there enough time and energy to give to new friends and new adventures? Sometimes we have to let go and clear the emotional, physical, energetic clutter in our lives to make the space for new. Letting go does not mean you can't like or love them anymore. Letting go does not diminish anything or anyone, it just means you are moving forward in your life.

• Be Authentic. Meaning, be comfortable with YOU:  This may take some work before you get out there and take action. Before your people can discover the real you, you need to know who you are and to be comfortable with who that is.  Be happy with the way you look, embrace your personality, know your worth. Also, can you BE what you are looking for in another? If so, you are ready.

• Careful of the ego:  While you do need to embrace and love yourself, it is important to keep your ego in check.  To find your soul group, it's important to understand how you belong and can work together as equals with other people. Since I'm innately shy, I've trained myself to remember that if I feel uncomfortable, the other person is probably just like me, blurring that sense of separateness that can get in the way of getting to know someone special. 

• Don't Judge:  This can be hard for some.  Just as we should keep our ego in check, we should not judge other people based on superficial matters such as what they are wearing, what kind of work they do, or what their hair looks like.  By looking only at superficial matters, we are missing out on who they are, their personality, and the energy that can be reciprocated in friendship. Discern, don't judge.

• Be proactive:  Once you have found your soul tribe, keep in touch and make an effort to get together on occasion.  You will know when you've found the right fit, so make sure to set regular meet-ups; staying in contact will only boost the benefits for you and for them.

• Know that it takes time to find the right fit and it's OK. Don't despair if you are not attracting what you want just yet. As a friend once told me, "sometimes you have to tell the Universe 'no' enough times to hone in on what is right for you."

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By the way, if you are interested in going deeper into understanding your relationships, you might want to schedule an intuitive guidance appointment with me so we can delve into specifics. 

In love and truth,

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

As I awaken spiritually, I've come to observe that many people have misconceptions about what equality in a relationship is. Some think equality means matching every little thing that one gives another such as the expectation that if one puts a quarter in a shared jar, the other is expected to put a quarter in that same jar, for example. When both place their quarters in the jar, the perception is both are being equal.  This is an unrealistic expectation where relationships are concerned. This is not what is meant by equality.  In reality, equality in a relationship means balance.  A balance of energy exchange and effort that is meaningful for both parties involved.

So, how do we get to a point of balance in a relationship?  

It begins with the self first.  It's about finding your own sense of value and worthiness, within yourself, and knowing what that is and being able to communicate it to your partner.  When we understand who we are we have a sense of our own worth and therefore, anything our partner (who also knows their value and who they really are) gives has meaning for the good of the relationship.  It's as if you stand in your true self saying, "this is who I am and this is what I offer" and then authentically BEING what you offer. It's a place of meeting toe-to-toe and eye-to-eye.  This is balance.

No longer will it work to seek for love that is so unapologetically contrived in our society. True love exists in the time and space of being who we really are and the only way we are actively being who we really are is when we are standing in the presence of ourselves - because being in the present moment is being in a space of love. 

It is the only way true love can be expressed for when we are standing in presence, love will use us to experience itself. Deep?  I know, but it's true.

Now, more than ever, we are encouraged to let go of anything we believe to be true and just be present.  Meaning, in allowing life to live you, life will become much easier because in each moment, we are reborn and we tune in to a very enlightened state of be-ing.

Being who you really are (love) is a constant stripping away of the beliefs of what you think you are.  Think about it.

Wishing you many blessings as you practice presence,

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Over the last year, I have noticed something. I'm not really sure what to call it.  It's not a trend, for that implies it's not been there before. Let's suffice it to say I woke up to it recently.  

I have a few friends, colleagues, and acquaintances.  More of which I've been in contact lately because of the many spiritual and physical changes that have been manifesting in my life.  With that said, when normally speaking to friends, colleagues, and acquaintances about the issues of the day, I noticed some (not all!)  speaking at me instead of listening and speaking to me.  I realized I would throw out a sentence or two, barely able to complete the thought, when it would trigger one to run with it, assuming all kinds of stories and attaching their own filtered meanings and judgments to what I had to say. 

This has, in the past, left me feeling abandoned, holding the bag, wondering, "what just happened?"

I would then stop, wait for them to finish as their rhetoric continued on and on and on.  As I was allowing them the floor, and searching for the opportunity to get my word in edgewise, I could feel my energy draining from my whole being as their dialogue was morphing into their own problems, their own internal chaos spewing, their own perceptions projected onto the issues (now forgotten) I brought up that exist in my own life.  To an empath, the absorption of all this energy can be heavy and transmuting it can be cumbersome to say the least.

In my world, there is truth in the quote by Stephen R. Covey, "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” 

Which begs the question, "where have I done this to others?" Yes, I have done this! And, I can remember specific times I've done so.  I have awakened, thank you very much, Universe!

As I continue to practice mindfulness (the art of staying present) these types of issues come to the surface. I have noticed so much that has not been seen or felt before as truth begins to seep out from all over the place. One thing is for sure, this mindfulness thing really works as I realize there's less need to complain or to commiserate with others when things are not quite going the way I might like them to go.

I have found, when I settle into my deepening connection to the still and quiet places within and listen, it knows and speaks the truth.  And, the more I listen, a gentle calm cradles me. I am now less inclined to participate in the soul-stealing idle drama of chatter (that has diverted me from so much) as the practice of presence has allowed me to maintain my connection as an extension to my higher-self.  I love watching meaningful moments unfold with my clients rather than trying to have a ready-made answer for them. The best anyone can do is to share their wisdom without attachment to whether the other understands or takes the lesson. When one is ready.

This, my friends, is where the good stuff is. This is the energy I conserve for my clients who are serious about their own awakening times. 

​And as I write that, I'm thinking, perhaps, things are progressing just the way they are intended.

Wishing you love, blessings, and peace.

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Many times when you are moving to a significantly higher ascension level you will find you have to let people go from your life who are no longer moving in the same direction beside you.  Just like one of my earlier posts suggests, you needed that person (or those people) to walk beside you on your journey to help teach you something or to help you heal something within.  Once you've completed your karma with them, you will know because they will no longer seem to have anything in common with you or you no longer see things in the same way as they do. Sometimes, no matter how hard you both try, it still doesn't work out to anyone's satisfaction. When this happens, we allow ourselves to get mired in feelings of low self-worth, judging ourselves as "failures."  Of course, this is an illusion that our society has set up for us to believe.  But, in reality, you have just completed something that you were meant to complete and now it's time to move forward. In other words, you are changing your vibrational frequency and they are no longer on your radio station.

Some of us go into denial when we stay in relationships too long.  Often, I have seen in cases such as this, when the relationship begins to get very toxic to both parties and real damage can be done to one's health and well-being.  These are relationships in which we are not meant to stay because we've probably outgrown them, in one way or another, and this causes more karmic pain to build up for both parties. Or, sometimes, the inherent foundation of the relationship needs to change, for example, you could have been romantically involved with someone and, when you both no longer felt the same way about each other, you can change the foundation of the relationship to a platonic friendship.  There are many reasons we are drawn to certain people in our lives, only to realize it has served its purpose for one reason or another.

The best way to handle these situations to mitigate your karma is to: 

1.) ACKNOWLEDGE and sit still in the uncomfortableness of the situation - feel it fully. That tightness in your heart or that sick feeling in your stomach or that fogginess in your brain  is a message that stuck energy is getting ready to purge itself.  This is where most people reach for their addictions. They don't want to accept the reality of WHAT IS and so they numb the feelings with sex, drugs, alcohol, food, work, exercise, etc.  It's obviously best not to reach for your addictions and to face WHAT IS NOW.

2.) EVALUATE yourself.  Who were you when you began this relationship? How much have you grown and how far have you come? What have you been through with this person in your life?  Where were you when you met?  Were you angry and vulnerable? Were you sad?  Perhaps this is where they were, too, and they are still stuck in that but you've moved on.  On what foundation was this relationship built?  How did this relationship help you?  And, how is this association hindering you now?  Do you get sad or angry when you see them?  Do you feel anxious? Drained?  Take your time with this one.  You might want to meditate on these questions, and more, and just see what answers bubble up from within you.  To help you see things more clearly, write the answers to these questions, and more, in a journal so that when you go back to read it, you can gain some clarity about how you feel and what steps to take next.

2.) GO INTO LOVE.  Most people do not want to hurt others intentionally. But what most people do not understand is that this belief is also an illusion. Now, you may not agree with me here, but if your intention is to be loving and to not be hurtful, whether they choose to be victimized and hurt is their issue to deal with, not yours.  We have no control over how others feel or react.  The best way to handle the situation is to face your own fears, move into love, and get truthful about where you are at that moment.

3.) COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS, HONESTLY. Consider letting the other party know you are in a different place in your life and you want to move on.  A lot of people I've known in the past have a really hard time with honesty. I've seen people looking for an out (through duplicity, affairs, etc.) or they even create a dramatic event placing themselves in a victim role to make someone else wrong. This is very painful and damaging to everyone and creates bad karma. Staying in your own power of love and just telling the entire truth is always better. It sets both of you free to move forward without shame or guilt.

4.) MOVE ON AND STAY OPEN.  Take responsibility for your own decisions and actions. If you say you've moved on, then move on. However, I always tell my clients in this situation to "NEVER say NEVER."  After a period of separation from an ex-friend or ex-lover, there is always the possibility that you are a vibrational match again. Sometimes old friends, old lovers, ex-spouses, can come back together in a stronger way, and build a new foundation based on who they are NOW after they've experienced certain lessons that have changed their outlook and self-awareness that did not work in the original relationship dynamics.  

Of course, in instances where severe emotional, spiritual and physical abuse were the norm, it would be advisable to proceed with caution, discernment and strict boundaries.

In the realm of Karma, the key is to live in a state of harmonious balance between polarities, always in love. 

By Lori Lines

Life on Earth is shaking everything down and shifting. Big time. Why? Because we are shifting individually. Individual shifts ripple out to shift the collective.  One thing I've become very clear about is that my intention, through my work, is to help people connect within, to their innermost selves. Their soul. Their true hearts desire.  WHO THEY ARE.  To inspire others to live from that place, within themselves, that is true and authentic, which is the marriage between the heart and the head.  

Just as I have been learning to do all my life, this is the path I am walking, which is unfolding before me in each moment, from the soul rather than attempting to force life from a wounded and fearful place. It is beautiful and intense and I wouldn't change my path for the world because this is why I'm here: To empower other people to do the same. 

Those who come to me looking for the more mundane answers which keep one stuck in old patterns and the past such as, "will she come back to me and will we ultimately be together?" "When will my career take off?" "Who is my soulmate?"  "Should I be with this one or that one?"  "Will my marriage last?"  "When will I have children?" And, the proverbial, "What's the lottery numbers?" It's very challenging for an AWAKENED psychic to support this thinking in their work. Sure, I can answer some of these questions, and I will be happy to do so but most who have these sort of questions have not yet awakened to who they really are.

Many of you have heard me say, "You are the one you are looking for." YOU ARE THE ONE and, if you remember nothing else, remember this: The love from another comes in harmony with the love that you realize you are. It's a question of how committed are you to your own path? How committed are you to being who you really are?  My mission, who I really am, is to want for you to know who you really are, and that is love. You are LOVE.  And, the sooner you recognize this, the better off you will BE.  THAT comes first. So, learn to BE with yourself in any moment, being love, being willing to dig deep within yourself and live in your complete surrender, faith and truth, in the moment.

So, in these times, I want to convey to you that you have no control over outward circumstances, you cannot force anything and, let me tell you, if you think you are in control you are living an illusion. Destiny has its own unfolding and where you can exert your will is how you choose to perceive it and move through it. How you perceive what is in front of you will make all the difference in your life.  Again, I will ask, how committed are you to being who you are in this moment? How committed are you to making the best of right where you are, right now? Also, if you KNOW something in your heart, do not allow someone else to talk you out of what's in your heart. Just let it be, do not hold onto it too tightly, but know it's there for a reason. You cannot control cycles of destiny but you can choose who and how to be during these times.

​There have been cycles of shedding and purging for most of us.  There are layers to this, in and of itself. For those of you who are carrying predominantly masculine energy (we all carry feminine and masculine energy within ourselves) and you are wanting that great love, you must find that love within yourself.  Any need for control and any need to rationalize things...the shift that's happening for the masculine energy dominating the planet and suppressing the heart, emotions and the soul, are bigger than the mind can ever comprehend - which is extraordinary and beautiful and, well, messy.

The mind must become the servant of the heart and that means letting go of control. Surrender this cycle and just enjoy the ride by staying present within it. You do not have to KNOW what is going to happen and stand in defensive alert. These warlike energies have been within you for eons (many past lives) and you are now being called to put down those defenses. Part of the shedding for the masculine that wants to "figure out the heart with the mind" is now happening in the collective.  Your hearts are asking to lead you through the veil of the unknown.  It is understandable to want safety in the attempt to understand things, yet, a greater experience  in love is on the other side of surrender.  

What I see in this is the collective masculine saying, "OK, the way I've been doing life in the past no longer works so I'm going to do this" to one degree or another. 

For eons, the masculine and the feminine have been at odds with one another, collectively. Our society has supported this and actually makes tons of money from the perpetuation of this paradigm.  Now, the masculine is being called to merge with his feminine, within himself, so as to unionize with the collective feminine.  His masculinity has a very important role to the feminine (as so does she to him).  And, for those of you asking, this is not going to take away your manhood. It will help you be stronger within your SELF! Because, let's face it, you guys have been in identity crisis for a long time.  When we let go of the need to control and learn to understand that which is greater than us (call it God, the Universe, the Divine, etc.) then we can enter into service of THE GREAT LOVE. That which is bigger than us. It's an expansion that's happening that merges us with the great love by moving into our individual hearts.

​A lot of times, we want the comfort of knowing what's going to happen.  Especially if we have felt our hearts have been broken, we have attempted to protect ourselves from feeling like we've had swords through our hearts.  This journey is asking us to pull the swords out of our hearts and to allow our hearts to bleed. The loss of blood allows room for the light.  There is no way out but through this journey. If you feel the call from your heart, from something bigger than you are, then you have to commit to the heart. Should pain come, let it be and allow the heart to break open instead of attempting to patch it together with your distractions.  When we resist and struggle, in this way, we just bring on more pain within ourselves.   If you have swords in your heart, you are encouraged to take those swords out, and just go through the experience because it is in the experience that you will heal and become much stronger in love and more of who you really are. Your foundation will become more solidly based.  When we do not allow this experience, we are distracting ourselves from who we are and our experience of true love. 

​So, for both the masculine and the feminine, where is your integrity? Do you choose to stand in your inner knowing? Do you choose to defend your experience and your knowledge of love?  Or, do you choose to compromise?  You are asked to really examine, whether you are being fair in all ways especially to yourself.  There are many of you out there who, partly because you're trying to figure things out with your mind and things may or may not be working out for you and those you love, are cautioned to check in with your integrity. You are being strongly encouraged to check in with what you really know and what you really believe and to only have the purest intentions in terms of who you are with.  If your heart knows one thing and you are choosing to be with someone else, it's not fair to anyone and it erodes the psyche. It delays personal growth and your own happiness.  One must have the patience to allow the heart to lead and to ride out the dilemma while feeling out your integrity.  The heart, the knowing within, will get you where you want to go. We are encouraged to get courageous enough to move into radical honesty.  What is your heart telling you?

The harmonizing with the masculine and the feminine is the realization that the broken heart opening is the path to freedom. Allowing the heart to break open and to allow yourself to heal is the commitment to the faith that you are on the path to BEING THE LOVE HERE ON EARTH. We cannot run from something that we think may break our hearts, for the willingness to risk heartbreak is the willingness to be alive and to feel deeply and to be opened more powerfully to a stronger lasting love.  Needing to know the exact map of the journey, is where we get into trouble. Not knowing and being in the now allows life to open us up to all we desire and it comes in incredible and remarkable ways.

The Divine is shaking everything up. We need to be looking at how we have operated in the past and to understand how it will no longer work. We are seeing how we've been lying to ourselves. So the question begs, what are you going to do now? 

The commitment to understanding who you are, through the path of love, is the key to creating a new world where we all are supported and nurtured in an authentic way. It's called Unity.

By allowing our need to control (our egos) to die and moving into the unknown, surrendering to the path of the heart, is creating something beautiful.  It already is.

May peace, love, and blessings be with you on your journey to oneness.

Lori

By Lori Lines

Divine Soul connections (Soul Mates, Twin Flames) of all shapes and sizes have assisted in breaking down barriers to soul truth and love.  Everything we've built up to provide for our comfort zones, that is not in alignment with our soul truths have begun to fall away.

Higher vibrations cannot co-exist with the lower vibrations.  We are now experiencing this clash.  It's only a matter of time before our higher vibration comes in to stay, creating new beginnings, rapidly.   Ultimately, this is for our highest good.  We are aligning ourselves to the higher vibration of love from the inside-out.

Monumental change must occur within, first, for it to manifest in the physical reality.  This clash can be a frightening time but know all structures within must change and grow for them to change without.

The ground is leveling.  Difficulties on our individual paths will transform as Divinely Inspired relationships heal and expand throughout the collective so as to ground the higher vibrations onto the earth grid for ultimate unity to take hold.

It is time to take positive action toward your goals and your dreams.  Make sure your attitudes and your beliefs are in alignment with what you already have thought you want to accomplish.  Release what no longer fits into the puzzle of what you want to accomplish as it will begin to feel like dead weight.

Writing down the limiting beliefs you've discovered, within you, helps to release this out of your be-ing and puts it in a concrete language for you to better understand.  Then, work on letting them go.

Peace,

​Lori

By Lori Lines

When placing blame on another, ask yourself how this is a reflection of you. How are you, deep down, judging yourself?

Within any relationship, energy vampires judge and blame others to keep us off balance (pushing the buttons of the belief we are unworthy) in order to impose their will and control. The ego likes to blame and project onto others. If your self-esteem has become low because of the judging and blaming of another, you are with an energy vampire who is trying to control you.

The energy vampire distracts themselves by focusing on you and wanting YOU to change, because they are not aware of how they need to change by providing love and stability for themselves. So, someone who is being critical and judgmental is just projecting the fact that they are internally being self judgmental and critical.

Take nothing personally by recognizing the deeper deception they are doing within themselves. Before you can heal others, you have to heal yourself. This is a situation that cannot be healed unless you heal yourself.

​Peace,  Lori

By Lori LInes

Did you know that if you are in relationship with a sensitive (empathic) person and you are not aligned with your true self, being connected with the empath is very draining and hurtful to them?

Why? If you're not in alignment with self-awareness, your emotional body is in pain due to a deep-seated lack of self-worth. So, you draw your feelings of self-worth from the positive energy the empath emits, feeding off and draining the energy from the empath.

If the empath is unaware of this imbalance of energy exchange, they can become very ill. This is an underlying form of co-dependency, therefore, it's important to become aware of what you carry in your pain body.

​Just like alcohol, drugs, food, sex, etc., it is an addiction, albeit covert, to another person for your own gain. Address your codependency to become more self-contained, contain your energy by focusing on the self, and you will find more lasting and fulfilling relationships. 

​ Peace, Lori

By Lori Lines

Message from Spirit:  Love is irrational and cannot always be mentally understood and we are asked to drop into our hearts and the wisdom of our soul.

We all have different wounds that are acted out and activated in our love relationships.  Many of you, who are wounded and who live and respond from your wounds, may feel triggered by those you love.  Fears may arise from wounds of the past and you may perceive and experience rejection, abandonment, etc.  Many may feel it is not safe to be in a love relationship any longer.

There is light seeping in from the heavens into you, whether you feel it or not at this time.  Believe me when I say, you will begin to feel it soon.  It is now safe to give and receive love as we are called to live from our soul rather from our minds, if we allow ourselves to do so.  All it takes is intention and then dropping down into our hearts to FEEL.

If you are feeling a purity of love for someone else that you just can't deny, it's more than probable that this is usually not one-sided.  We are called to accept the journey of the soul connection knowing that PURE LOVE is present.

Through your choices and perceptions, you will come to see that never have you been the victim but always the creator.  Sometimes we create wounding experiences (consciously and unconsciously) for our deeper self for our soul to learn and grow from experience.  

Know that, now, we are stepping into a time where we can really create beautiful things and an extraordinary amount of power is available to us to create ultimate fulfillment, if this is your hearts desire.

May we uncross our arms of ego and enjoy the love and joy that is now here. 

I am you, you are me, we are ONE.

By Lori Lines

Father's Day. I have to admit it's not easy to revere my own father. Many do not know this but when my mother was married to him and pregnant with me, he left us for another woman who bore two more of his children. Both girls. I'm convinced the stress of all this had to do with me being born 3 months early. And, I've heard there have been other children spawned from him somewhere in Texas. I'm sure by now he is no longer living.


Mom and I struggled significantly when I was growing up - the law deemed him a "deadbeat" dad. And, while this is true, the effects of not growing up with a father, who was loving and present, fragmented my life quite considerably. My past has been sprinkled with me loving men who were unavailable, who lied, who cheated, who took advantage, and who were wounded to the point of being unable to have healthy relationships. Of course, now I know this had little to do with me though I have been the common denominator.

But, even though I can't honestly revere my father (he never gave me the chance to call him Daddy) like many can, I have to say thank you to my father, not only for his DNA, but for the strength, wisdom, and empowerment I have found as a woman through such adversity. 

Almost seven years ago, I found myself in the same situation, as my mother and I, when I was growing up. I am now raising a daughter by myself with NO biological family, to speak of. And, it's been extremely difficult raising a child without a "daddy" who is willing to make sacrifices to be present for her in the way our society deems appropriate but most importantly, in the way my daughter would love him to be.

Isn't it ironic?

Although I have no idea why this father's day holds significance or is any different from the rest - for the first time in many, many years I've given thought to my father this weekend. I forgave him long ago in order to move forward, to heal myself from the pain and loneliness a girl can feel who never got the chance to know what it's like to experience that first love- of -her- life who unconditionally accepts her for who she is.  

And as I ponder my past and my father, it dawns on me that the significance of this moment is sort of a death. It is a death of old ways of being. It is a death of attaching my identity to who I am with anymore.  Like the older generation, many women found their power by identifying with who they were involved with. I got to see this many times when I lived in an affluent neighborhood where the women bragged about their husband's successes, all the while they appeared to me to be empty and devoid of any recognition of who they really were, their own love, their own innate gifts, their feminine power, and their intelligence.  As long as their husbands did well, they seemed to give their power away. At the time, I was no different. 

The tides have been turning for the feminine and the masculine in our culture. Relationship paradigms are changing and we can't help but change with them.

It took a man, whom I really loved, to hook into the wounds of my father and abandon our relationship so suddenly.  He possessed all the intelligence, the light, the love, the sense of humor - the absolute brilliance - that connected with me on every level of my being.   The sad thing is, just like my father, he didn't love himself very much at the time.  He didn't possess the foundation it took to recognize true love because he just couldn't receive out of self-love.  He couldn't see what I saw in him.  The timing was wrong but I know there's a reason we met.   He was mirroring me.  I saw myself.  And it took me four years of blaming myself, asking the wrong questions, and living under such a dark cloud to understand.

So, to my father and to the, then, love-of-my-life who hooked into my wounds only to help me heal them once and for all, I hope you have healed and have forgiven yourself by now...I hope you have found love and peace within yourselves...wherever you are. I know I've forgiven myself and I've forgiven all that you represented in my past.

Thank you for the lessons, for I turned out better than anyone expected and I love who I've become, despite your absence.

And to my late, beloved mother, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY. I love you for pulling double duty when it was hard and I couldn't fill your loneliness or quell your fears and frustrations because you didn't always know how on earth we were going to make it to payday.

To those of you men who are my awakened spiritual brothers  who have stood by me during my dark night of the soul, Happy Father's Day. You represent such love while straddling the balance of your masculine power and your feminine understanding until I was able to do this for myself.  You are amazing.  You've been my rock to hold on to when I just wanted to be swept away by the tides.

To the Magician who holds sacred space for me, you know who you are and so do I. Happy Father's Day. I love you, too.  

To those significant loving, healthy male mentors in my life who are no longer living: my Grandfather (with whom I had a very special connection) and my childhood neighbor who lent his time and attention to me while he raised his own children and who became a valued consultant when I needed advice only an evolved man could give a scared and vulnerable teenage girl...HAPPY FATHER's DAY to YOU TOO. 

You are all in my heart. You are all a part of me now.

And I allow the death of the old to go back to God.

I am whole, happy, healthy.  But, more importantly, I am balanced.

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

On love. There is only YOUR truth in each moment. Choose love. Unconditional love means loving for NO REASON. NO conditions. If we keep looking for love, for a reason to love, for permission to love, it isn't going to come. To love is to embody and FEEL the energy of love, within the self, without projecting a belief about love onto something or someone. When we do that we are really vampiring another's love energy because we are standing in expectation. That is loving with conditions and parameters. Just BE WHO YOU ARE AND THAT IS LOVE. Nothing to do. Nothing to say. Just make that the state of your be-ing without expectation, authentically, and you will experience love wherever you are, in space and time, without trying to find it outside yourself. Love crosses and penetrates all perceived barriers this way. And then you will see the truth: the barriers to love are only an illusion anyway. It's amazing how our society has defined love, put it in legal terms, put conditions and contracts on it, portrayed it in movies that we have bought into, all for the sake of what? To create a WANT and to make money from that WANT. Wake up people.


Love is sacred and knows no bounds. It is timeless. It cannot be controlled. It cannot be manipulated. You can't put a price on it. Yet, our society has hurt so many to the point where many have gone to sleep and forgotten who they really are.


The subject of love is so profitable. It's that carrot on the stick. It renders so many "searching for love in all the wrong places." I find singles groups, love workshops, and singles websites funny now. 
And, good for those of you who've "found love" in this way. It wasn't the avenue in which you "found" love that matters. What matters is you already knew you had it within yourself and you happened to meet your vibrational match. It was your time.


All these outside entities perpetuate the NEED for love, to fill a void - to make you think you are broken somehow - that's just an illusion, and the search rages on.
 
Truth is, love is right under your nose, within you, and it's free. Love is everywhere when you finally realize this.
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By the way, have I told you lately that I love you? It's because I can, about 90% of the time, BE LOVE. I'm shooting for 100%. How about you?

By Lori Lines

There is a purpose of Twin Flame physical separation.  The good news is there is always spiritual connection through the infinite energy of love.

Twin flames need separation when they need to recognize their own souls again.  When we incarnate on the earth plane we are brought up to believe in and to live our lives in illusion, 3 D thinking, and limiting beliefs.  Twin flames need to have a time of separation in order for them to discover their true selves, their soul identity and to work through solving the ego barriers and limiting beliefs.  This naturally takes time.  Even if one or both intellectually understands this phenomenon, it doesn't mean one is ready to reunite.

Often there is, first, an intellectual understanding but this new upgrade in awareness needs to be integrated within both twins at every level in order for them to truly embody their balanced soul essence.  

It is preordained that the Twin Flame will have an initial meeting in the physical, to experience the uprush of love energy through the chakras. Then, one or both Twins realize they cannot go on in the relationship, as it is, because of a fear the other will see them as they truly are,  and then one or both will initiate a time of physical separation where they are forced to look within to truly discover what is real.

Sometimes Twin Flames will go through a period of resisting this new awareness which is slowly awakening to their consciousness.  Many fear the unknown and they fear that if they embrace their true selves then they won't be accepted by those around them because, often, on the earth plane, we grow up believing we need to change ourselves in order to be accepted unconditionally.  So many Twin Flames go through a time of resisting their true selves, their true identity, because they associate their true selves as not being good enough.  How do they resist?  By indulging in their addictions and life distractions.

They fear that everyone, especially their twin, will reject them if they allow them to get close to them and see their real selves, but also because many of us have been conditioned to deny the self our whole lives.  May of us don't remember who we truly are so Twin Flames go through a period of separation so as to tune into themselves to find answers to what this "soul pull" is really about.

This leads them to discover their true selves underneath all the layers of masks and conditioning through family and society.  They have to go through this time in order to de-clutter and clear everything within themselves as well as those in their sphere that is no longer true.  Everything that is illusion.  Everything that stands in the way of our true essence of love.

In order to really embody the soul truth of this Earth, and this is not just about the Twin Flames (the couple), it's about anchoring the energies of true soul love onto the 3D plane of existence.  When the Twin Flame(s) go for separation they often feel the pull to each other more intensely and it does cause them to look inward.  Some people resist this more than others depending on how deep the core wounds are and how strongly the egoic protective barrier has been built.

Eventually, the pull becomes so great that they finally look within themselves and as they begin to discover more and, more importantly, to embrace themselves as they are, they become more of the embodiment of their soul truth which is love.  And, this act anchors more love onto the Earth plane to help awaken others.

But also, as only 3D illusions, outdated thinking, and old paradigms begin to fall away, they start to realize that the one thing that always remains true is the love they feel for their Twin Flame.  The love they feel in their heart, which forever stays the same and eventually grows stronger when everything else on the 3D level changes.  And, when they realize the love has always been there and has never gone away and has only become stronger, they begin to realize love is not how society has defined love.

This new realization, therefore, helps them to see what love really is and what love really is not.  What we've been told love is, by society, is an illusion.  Through the separation when they know the love still remains and is incredibly strong and getting stronger, they know that they need to follow their intuition more, follow their intuition more in order to experience the truth - to really experience true love.  They realize they can no longer follow their head or follow what everyone else is saying that love is.

The Twin Flame becomes more and more intuitive and embodies the new "template" or the new frequency.  The Twin Flame is tasked with embodying and channeling the truth about love and holding space for the transmission of the Twin Flame love frequency that is and will continue to break down old beliefs and paradigms about what true love is on this planet.

In other words, Twin Flames incarnate to this planet to awaken other people to what true love is.  They have already ascended this planet when they come to this realization for themselves.  They have already learned the lessons they need to learn and come from other dimensions to awaken others in order to raise the vibration on the planet.

It may appear that one Twin Flame has not learned all of the lessons of this earth plane but we all reincarnate.  Every time we are born we come into the world in a state of amnesia. Every time we incarnate we go through life lessons to help us awaken to the level of where we were  when we were last here.

But every time we go through adversities in life and come back to the vibration of true love we learn more and more as our soul becomes fuller and our capacity to love becomes even deeper and wider than before.

When we come to this planet we choose a shadow side and it's like we set up the challenge to question, "can I still love myself even though there's a shadow side?"  It's about self-acceptance.  This is the key reason Twin Flames go through a temporary physical separation - so they can learn to love and accept themselves again in a more authentic  and real way.  They are much more than they've been told they are and what we have told ourselves we are through our ego identities.

We all need to go through certain situations and to go through some karma and meet other soul connections so as to awaken us to remembering who we are again in each lifetime.  Therefore, we grow more each time.  Because if we knew and remembered everything about our soul-selves, then we would not have to go through adversity, but those adversities help us grow more.  As souls, we are compelled to grow and this happens no matter how hard we resist through our egoic distractions.  Everything in the Universe is in expansion and growth all the time. 

So, Twin flames will go through this separation in order to break through all the barriers of illusion and all the misconceptions we have about ourselves. The misconceptions that we are not good enough.  It's about clearing the way for the soul to shine through us.  This needs to occur, in both twins, who endeavor to radiate from the soul.

When we project our ego identities, our 3D illusions on a day-to-day basis - unconsciously and unaware of ourselves, then that's what we attract into our lives back.  We attract others who will also be wearing masks of deception, who will be inherently dishonest and unaware, living in their own illusions.

We can only truly reunite with our Twin Flame when we are truly radiating from our souls, radiating truth on all levels.  This is the only way we can manifest the truth back to us, the truth of our soul back.

If we are not in alignment with our soul, then we cannot manifest our true reflection in our Twin Flame.  Twin Flames are a mirror reflection of each other.  So, if one is feeling like they are mostly healed or completely healed and the other still has a ton of issues or baggage, it's an illusion because they are reflecting back to you their own issues - perhaps manifesting in slightly different ways. But the core issues will still be the same.

So, if one is believing they are ready and the other is not, they are either living in an illusion and need to see the truth or the other person is not really their Twin Flame.

The good news is, if this person is your true Twin Flame, then if you truly begin working even deeper on healing yourself and embracing your truth, then as your reflection, your Twin Flame will also start to do the same thing.  It may take one Twin a little longer to catch up, but eventually they will and they will become a vibrational match to you once again.  

It is through your merged chakras and your ONE energy between you both when you start radiating this love frequency and it will travel to your Twin Flame and the more you embody light and love, the more light will shine on their shadows, too, to bring in more light.  Everything we shine that light onto, if it doesn't run, will turn into that light too.

If you truly prioritize your own healing it will have a positive effect on your Twin flame.  And, when you reunite (whether in this lifetime or another) you both will be the embodiment of love that will heal humanity bringing with it bliss and harmony among all.

As I heal myself, so shall you be healed.  What a divine privilege it is to be a Twin Flame.  Wouldn't you say?

​© Lori Lines, All Rights Reserved. 2016

By Lori Lines

I had heard the term Twin Flame but never really knew what that meant until I met my own Twin Flame in this lifetime.  More and more people are uniting (or reuniting) with their own and I want to provide this information to help others heal from their experiences and move up the ascension ladder to unconditional self-love.  But, first of all, I want to explain what a Twin Flame is and why this phenomena is becoming so prevalent in our world.

A Twin Flame is a soul that has been through many, many lifetimes and these lifetimes have culminated a very dense amount of karma.  At some point in the evolution of this original soul, it decided to split into two souls (or two energetic rays).  Each soul embodies energetic opposite polarity to the other. One soul encompasses a more masculine (yang) energy and the other encompasses a more feminine (yin) energy.  

Some Twin Flames occupy different dimensions from the other but more and more are incarnating into this 3 Dimensional Reality, so as to meet in the physical, for an intensely felt experience so as to accelerate the souls growth.  Twin Flames are inherently energetically connected for all eternity in every way and on every level.  

Each soul incarnated into a physical body in order to experience duality of the human existence to master the souls evolution.  The experiences one has provides opportunity for the soul to experience polarities so that the yin and yang can balance and harmonize into Union with the Creator.  It is the intention of the soul to awaken and to balance the polarities in this earthly realm. In other words, it is each Twin Flame's task to become whole and to balance their masculine and feminine energies, within, before they can be reunited wholly either in this lifetime or in another.  

I consider it an honor to meet the Twin Flame. From my own guidance, when meditating on my own experiences, I am of the understanding that the Twin Flame recognition and meeting is a rite of passage of sorts.  To me, this means that one has come a long way in clearing most of the karma that has built up in ones lifetimes and meeting the Twin Flame is the concluding opportunity to acknowledge, heal and ultimately clear their shared core issue(s) that have held them back for, perhaps, many lifetimes of repeating patterns, old limiting beliefs, and behaviors that no longer serve the common good. 

In my experience, the Twin Flame activation began upon the first meeting.  I believe the activation can begin in different ways depending on the soul contract of each person. The heart opens and the Twin Flames find that there's an automatic recognition of feeling at home with one another - as if they've known each other before.  A void is fulfilled because each augments the others' strengths as well as weaknesses.  Each of you feel as if the other "gets you" like no one else.  There is an unconditional love that is prevalent in each.  With that said, there is also intense triggering.  No one will get under your skin like your Twin because they are an energetic mirror to help bring up and release the walls and all that covers up who you really are.  And, as the relationship progresses, the polarity aspects become more defined and the relationship, if each soul is not fully awakened (which is usually the case), aspects of the relationship become the most painful, transformative experience that no other person could have triggered in the other because distortions in thinking bubble up for healing.  Because each is mirroring the other's shared core issues and each soul expresses their shared wounds in different and opposite ways,  they both commit acts and express themselves from a very wounded place which triggers and challenges the other's ego barriers to their own self-love.

The Twin Flame union is a Divinely Inspired relationship that activates and opens the kundalini chakra energies, waking the soul up to heal their shared core issues.  This can be a catalyst for the Dark Night of the Soul, challenging each soul to do their work and to surrender to spiritual energetic healing available, rather than resisting through their distractions.

I am told there are just under 4,000 Twin Flame activations, at this writing, dispersed all over the earth that are intended (once each Twin wakes up to unconditional love and acceptance of the self and others) to help channel the unconditional love energy and ground this into the Earth Grid.

© Lori Lines, All Rights Reserved. 2016

By Lori Lines

Channeled today: Can you feel it? Passions are being ignited. It is time to ask yourself, "Where is my deep emotional commitment?" "Where does my heart and mind go when I'm not distracting myself with the needs of others or through my addictions?" "Where have I betrayed myself?" The answers that bubble up from asking yourself these questions are clues to your life purpose. And, many of you are beginning to feel this more intensely.


If you have found yourself settling into a situation or you have settled for a relationship that you know deep down is not for your highest good, of any kind, you may find it no longer working for you. You may be awakening to the realization that this situation has become an obstacle to your true path. 
Dismantling the familiar can be a very frightening thing but as we move into further awakening, you are encouraged to let go of doubt. Let go of the fear that you cannot affect change. Let go of the unacceptable after really examining every aspect of your life. If you are afraid of losing something materially by making necessary change in your life, know that this is a false belief you have created that, in itself, is no longer serving you and is now limiting you. 


Release your guilt, regret, overanalyzing, and worry about certain outcomes. In doing so, you will be creating the space to forgive yourself and others for the uninformed choices you've made. 
How to do this? Take time to put yourself in a meditative state. How do you FEEL about what comes into your mind and take note. After you have become clear about how you FEEL, you are now clear about what your deep emotional commitment is. Learn to accept, learn to receive, and learn to be grateful for lessons learned up to now. Then, reclaim your personal power by taking action.
It is time to trust the Universe ALWAYS provides when you are operating in personal integrity and you are walking your true path. It is time to be happy.

© Lori Lines, All Rights Reserved. 2016

by Lori Lines

Because of the work I do, I have had many occasion to face, up close and personal, the dark side. This is not limited to those with whom I've come in contact, but, within myself.  None of us are immune to the dark side.  It's part of the human experience and, if you ask me, I believe we are here to experience duality in order to make the choices of which side we want to be on.  Of course, being in the light and being in the dark can become very convoluted.  So, what is "dark?"  Dark is the absence of light.  One thing I've learned is that anything that is dark holds us back from love, freedom, or life.   Darkness can show up as a limiting belief or a lack of openness.  It can show up as an attachment or an addiction which diverts our attention from light.  Dark can feel constrained, limiting, weighing us down from the realization of all that is possible.  It can show up as lies, deceit, manipulation of another, control, distraction, and withholding information.  It is judgement.  It clutches. It is stubborn. It takes no responsibility for its own happiness.  There are many variations of darkness and as our society progresses - what with all the messages from the media and the way our society is taught to trust and believe - we see many shades of gray.  Sometimes this results in depression, labels, confusion, a lack of direction or alignment with our own moral values.  Fear.  Sickness.  Mental instability.  

Light is the absence of dark.  However, I must say here that we cannot have one without the other in order to identify which is which.  Light is freedom, a lightness of being.  It is health and well-being and a positive energy flow.  It is vitality.  It is that which makes you feel alive and feeling good about yourself.  It is truth. It is transparent. It is information.  It is trust in the inner and the outer workings of the Universe. It is unconditional love of self and others and all that is.  It is embracing the darkness and its many shades of gray with compassion. It is the realization and true understanding of the interconnectedness of all. It is authenticity in each moment.  It is standing in one's own moral values that values all of life, in all it's forms. It takes the high road.  It takes responsibility for one's own happiness. Of course, again, there are many shades of gray and until we can see and embrace our light and continue to shine this in those shadow places that seem dark within ourselves, address the ego barriers we cause within and therefore, without, humanity will stagnate, grow darker, and complete itself.

If you haven't already figured this out, we are at a crossroads.  Many light/love workers are in our midst and the numbers are growing.  But, just as the light rises, the dark rises up in intensity to meet it. This is part of our human experience and, I believe, this is something that is changing.  What many don't seem to understand, however, is that it begins with the one you see in the mirror.

There is an Old Chinese Proverb that really resonates here. It is this:

When there is light in the soul,
There is beauty in the person;
When there is beauty in the person,
There is harmony in the home;
When there is harmony in the home,
There is honor in the nation;
When there is honor in the nation, 
There is peace in the world.

So, for those of you who are new to all this I want to share my experiences with what a light worker is as well as a dark worker and how they function on this planet:

Light Workers usually do not feel as if they "fit in" with normal society.  During childhood they feel as if they are different and misunderstood (sadly, by most of their own family members.)  This feeling of "not fitting in" is often compounded by suffering emotional, spiritual, sexual, and/or physical abuse from those around them. Growing up is very painful and lonely.  Some feel so different, it even crosses their mind that they may have been sent from another planet or galaxy.  I believe Light Workers choose to incarnate in “difficult” or “dysfunctional” families in order to set them on the path of seeking their own truth and light through self-exploration.  

Light Workers often have a nagging feeling they are here to fulfill a “Divine Purpose.”  Even if they are not sure what that may be.  There is a chronic, inner feeling of urgency, angst, and restlessness.  This feeling can be misunderstood and labeled as a “mental health” issue by society. From my perspective, I question if this is why mental health has sprung up to be so prevalent during this lifetime.  The Light Worker energy is very different and therefore, needs a label by society’s standards.  It’s the collective ego’s way to attempt to define and control this “strange” way of being.  Just a thought.

Most Light Workers embody a great deal of compassion for others. Many go out of their way to help someone in need...even to their own detriment.  There is an undeniable, almost compulsion, that bubbles up from inside the Light Worker to assist someone in need of wisdom, a good deed, a warning, or just an expression of love...even if the recipient is not open to it or repelled by it.  Sometimes, Light Workers have trouble saying “no” to others’ requests if they have not learned to set strong boundaries.

Light Workers are empathic.  This means they can actually FEEL other people’s emotions...especially if they are in pain.  In early years, the Light Worker may actually SUFFER this pain and mistake it for their own. As the Light Worker grows up, he/she begins to understand this and embarks on learning ways to discern the difference between picking up on others’ pain and what is their own.

Light Workers, being empathic, are on this earth to help transmute the pain and suffering of the world by taking it on and learning how to release it to God.  In so doing, they uncover and realize more of their own light and power to be expressed.

Light Workers often are lonely, however, most of the time they prefer to spend time alone or just with their partner and close family rather than to be around many others who do not understand them.  Oftentimes, a Light Worker may “fake” being social so they will fit in better rather than being judged “the different one” in the room.  Many Light Workers report feeling lonely - even in a crowd.

When a Light Worker is younger, their relationships tend to be very unbalanced. The vibrational frequency of a Light Worker attracts wounded people while the Light Worker continues to give.  Later in life, the Light Worker exhibits better boundaries with others because they get tired of being taken advantage of time and time again.  Once again, growing into and recognizing their own power of healing.

Light Workers crave the unconditional love and acceptance they are so willing to put out to others but rarely find it since their vibrational frequency usually attracts wounded souls.  Sometimes, many years of relationships that just don’t pan out becomes very discouraging to them.  Those who partner with a Light Worker need to either be one themselves or the Light Worker has to be able to accept, unconditionally, the vibrational disconnection that sometimes arises between these partners. The underlying salve to the latter is that of strong boundaries.  Otherwise, the Light Worker’s energy can become depleted and they can become ill...all while their "darker" partner becomes stronger and more powerful in ego.

Light Workers tend to have very little interest in such earthly subjects that the masses tend to obsess over such as gossip, nightly news, celebrities, sports, fashion trends, youthful appearances, acquisition, politics, etc.  These things are deemed just too dense, heavy, depressing and negative to the higher ascended Light Workers.  Many Light Workers are not materialistic, however, they may appreciate a few quality things that hold energetic meaning for them.  They are usually not impressed with status symbols.  As long as they have enough to live a decent life, they are usually satisfied.

Light Workers often hold the sacred space of idealizing the earth as a loving place.  Violence of any kind feels horrifying and incomprehensible.  They tend to want to make the world a better place while they are in human form.

Light Workers tend to be polite and kind to others even if others do not reciprocate. Many are sensitive and cry easily.  Crying is usually their way of releasing and transmuting the dark energy they have absorbed.

Light Workers don’t care to succumb to competitiveness and sometimes don’t feel the need to stick up for themselves.  They value love, peace and harmony above all else.  They dislike arguing unless they KNOW they are justified.  However, Light Workers can become extremely angry when they see any living thing treated with cruelty or unjustly.  I have seen some cry when a tree is sick or is cut down for the purpose of development.   

Most Light Workers are drawn to helping professions:  Social Work, medicine, healing of all kinds, teaching, helping animals and the environment, psychic work, writing, psychology, Feng Shui, ministerial work...anything pertaining to the well-being of humanity.  Even if a Light Worker is not involved in any profession such as these, they may partake in voluntary efforts or hobbies devoted to the well-being of humanity.

Light Workers’ careers can also be in creative fields such as acting, art, music, designing jewelry, working with crystals...anything that is sparked by imagination and creativity.  They usually are naturally gifted in one or all of these areas.

Many Light Workers are not religious in a traditional sense even if they are raised in a very religious household.  Religious dogma that promotes separation can be very hurtful to them.  They are deeply spiritual.  They know how to practice unconditional love.  They usually love to read books and/or listen to spiritual and personal growth topics.  Sometimes they feel drawn to subjects such as science fiction; ET’s and UFO’s; ancient civilizations such as Atlantis, Lemuria, and Ancient Egypt.

Dreams and the subject of dreams are found very interesting to Light Workers.

Many Light Workers have seen and sense Angels, Fairies, and other types of entities in the spirit realms.  Sometimes, they see and feel auras and energy.

Unlike most who have bought in to the fear of death by the messages our society perpetuates, Light Workers are not afraid of death because they know the spirit lives on even after the body dies.

Many Light Workers have had supernatural experiences such as seeing UFO’s, Ghosts,  apparitions, etc.  They are usually not surprised with these events as many others are - in fact this seems natural to Light Workers.

Often, Light Workers are drawn to all-natural foods that keep their vibration level high.  Many turn to organic, processed free foods or they turn out to be vegetarian or vegan, if their bodies function better eating this way.

Light Workers can be very sensitive to loud sounds, strong smells and crowds.

Light workers tend to see the truth.

Sometimes, Light Workers suffer or are in recovery from addictions such as drugs, alcohol, and overeating.  Even if they do not fit the true definition of the “addict,” they still may have the tendency to abuse certain substances. It is an attempt to numb the psychological pain and depression they feel at times that come from the dark forces.

Oftentimes, Light Workers have suffered from depression and if they have sought counseling, they may have been misdiagnosed or simply not found real relief because of their energetic sensitivities.

Earth and the human condition is very hard for the Light Worker.  In general, they find it difficult to live in this world.  Usually because of the violence, destruction, disrespect for one another and the environment, aggressiveness, greed, etc. They find this behavior unconscionable.

Light Workers yearn to go HOME, even if they don’t consciously remember where that is.  They have thought about suicide or simply wished to die when the pain has become overwhelming.  They have felt they do not belong in this world, yet they know they are here to shine light even when they are weary and the loneliness becomes too much.

The more evolved Light worker has no problem being alone. They enjoy their own company and have no need to be around people on a regular basis.  This is when there's no void to fill and they possess a self-love that, when they are with another, there's no taking someone else' energy. They are self-contained.

At this time in our evolution, many Light Workers feel they are awaiting a “call” or “orders” to do something or to be a part of something big for Humanity.  Much like a soldier stands in high alert, yet weary, for an attack, Light Workers have this innate feeling they need to be ready and waiting for orders from higher ups.  This is why humanity’s collective consciousness is opening and awakening to the understanding of the interconnectivity of all that is.

In recent years, and this process is still occurring, a Light Worker may find their social life shrinking.  Many old friendships have ended, many loved ones have passed over, etc.  If a Light Worker is married or is in a significant relationship with a person who is not a spiritual person or a Light Worker in any sense, they may find themselves wanting to end that relationship at this time.  In addition, there may be a strong desire to move to another location.  Perhaps, the Light Worker may want to relocate to a place they have never thought about before.

Many Light Workers are experiencing a loss of interest in their careers and have an “inner sense” that there is something else or somewhere else they are meant to do or to be.  However, the frustration lies in not knowing yet what or where that is.  Mainly, because it has not been revealed yet.  Light Workers are feeling completely fed up, tired of their old lives, and wanting big change.  Many are feeling as if they are just waiting, yet sensing something big is about to happen.  Generally speaking, this is where we are now.

All human beings, including Light Workers, have "dark" or "shadow" sides to them. This is the reason for our incarnation. To experience it, express it (in a safe place), heal it, and let it go. This is the reason for the human experience. Each time we let go of a shadow (internal and external baggage), we ascend to a higher plane of existence and we feel "lighter."

How to recognize a "Dark Worker"

Since I've written about Light Workers, I have received numerous questions about the opposite. If we have Light Workers there are, obviously, Dark Workers. How else can one distinguish one from the other if both do not exist? This is where we are in our evolution.

I don't like to give them too much credence, however, because as a Light Worker I don't get too caught up in their negativity. However, as a human being, we all have some of these characteristics and it is our job to recognize these characteristics that are embedded in ego, to not judge it, to heal and to release it.  In order to have light, one must be able to have experienced and have seen dark. I've made my choices because of what I've experienced and what I have seen. I can honestly say I have come face to face with, what I deem as, true evil.  Again, keep in mind, there are varying shades of gray.

Very few people restrict themselves to a commitment to being just a Light Worker or a Dark Worker. The difference between a Light Worker and a Dark Worker is this:

A Light Worker dedicates their lives serving humanity for the greater good.
A Dark Worker dedicates their lives to serving themselves.

It is this simple. It is this complicated.

It is a conscious choice one makes. A Dark Worker begins their life very much like a Like Worker. They often do not feel as if they fit in and at some point, their pain becomes so great, they build their ego barriers to the point of choosing to master their Dark side.

No matter which side is chosen to commit to, once the inner commitment is made, it is impossible to compartmentalize such a position. It becomes who they are and it spills over in their behaviors.

The Dark Worker’s mind is not aligned with their inner being.  They can be described as “fragmented.”  As a consequence, their logical thoughts are misaligned and they are not guided by their intuitive feelings but are guided, instead, by the irrational fears of their subconscious.  They give expression to all negative desires within their personalities which they have repressed and then project onto others.

Dark Workers unplug their thinking minds to their feeling hearts and they are quite capable of behaving like robots.  

Dark Workers do and say everything in their power to prevent themselves from receiving the very thing that they need the most:  love and compassion.  These things can be, but are not limited to, staying in relationships that are not loving;  resisting heart-centered relationships, choosing earthly desires such as sex without love, money, false admiration, their jobs - over real heart connections.

Dark Workers are forever trying to provoke Light Workers into doing battle so as to transform the interaction from a playful dance into a serious war.  I’ve seen this in the Spiritual community as well as the not so spiritual community.  They provoke arguments and disagreements designed to become the winner.

Often, the Dark Worker will use others to carry out their plans and agendas through the use of manipulation or fear.  They have to have others in their life to do this so the Dark Worker is not be held responsible when the plans do not work.

The Dark Worker never questions their worth. They KNOW they are superior.

Dark Workers rarely have long term, close-knit, intimate relationships.  They usually sabotage them.  However, this can be a symptom of the Light Worker, too, but for different underlying reasons.  Dark Workers sabotage relationships through betrayal and casting aside others because they don’t need them to carry out their agendas any longer.  Light Workers sabotage relationships because they do not feel worthy or they shine a light of love so bright into the shadow sides of others that the other uses their own shame and guilt to pull back or to leave the relationship.

Dark workers continue rippling out their negativity by complaining, commiserating, and lamenting over their problems to anyone who will listen.  Usually a light worker.

Dark workers usually have an attachment to a certain outcome and will do or say anything to reach that goal, eventually exploiting another.

The Dark Worker's ego will rarely allow them to see themselves as less than noble. Blaming others for their failings.

Dark workers sometimes use sex or money to reach their goals.

Dark workers usually revere money, status, appearances above all else.

Dark workers lie and cheat for personal gain.  They will often stay in an unhealthy relationship for personal gain.

Dark workers are usually not very intuitive or in sync with the larger, more spiritual picture.  Therefore, they will sacrifice true love for more earthly pleasures and to keep themselves from realizing their own light.

Dark workers are very uncomfortable being alone with themselves and facing their own truths. They must distract themselves in one way or another by exhibiting compulsive behaviors such as over-attention to business, work, substance abuse, sex, creating drama, shopping, gambling, exercise, passive entertainments, porn, relationships - among just a few.  Although these behaviors appear, on the surface, to be self-serving and vain, it really serves to undermine their self-worth.

Dark workers take delight in seeing the unhappiness and suffering of others.  Mainly because they have to create separation and duality so they can feel alive, superior, empowered, and important.  However, this is a false self they have subscribed to. 

Dark workers feel jealous and envy when others are truly happy. Again, they are contributing to their perceptions of duality.  Rather than being happy for others' good fortune, they seek to deny their own.

The Dark Worker rarely rests and usually suffers angst, anxiety, or a general malaise about themselves and their own lives.  

Dark Workers usually believe what the "establishment" sets up and tells them to believe.  They put a lot of emphasis on rank, power, degrees and certifications, big names, and fame.  Usually dishonoring their own intuition and truth.

Whether the Dark Worker is conscious of this or not, they seek to dim the light worker's path through creating chaos that can show up in many ways, such as picking arguments, possessiveness, jealousy, distractions, and other means.

Channeled by Lori Lines

As a collective, we are moving toward our Divinity. Some are there and some are not. So, when a soul mate shows up in our lives, there is a heart opening and the power can be so great we want to express that love. The more we express the love, the more Divine we become.

Many are choosing to turn away from that all-powerful Divine love because of fear. Some have no clue that they are fearful and they unintentionally sabotage the love relationship. That fear is expressed when we allow in the many distractions society holds for us. Because to love in this way, is to let go of all attachments that keep us from our true selves, allowing who we really are (the love we are made of), to spring forward in total happiness.

There are many layers to darkness.  We all have those shadow places within that attracts the same intensity without.  Darkness shows up in the people around us and the situations we find ourselves in. This is not by accident.   Darkness always rises up to meet the light as tests to mirror and illuminate those shadow places, within ourselves, that need to be acknowledged, healed, and released.  

With this knowledge of how most relationships are showing up, we can choose to embrace and to bravely gaze into this mirror, who has Divinely entered our arena, as a reflection of ourselves. The mirror is information and it is encouraged to use this information wisely, without the intention of hurting another.  And, when we heal ourselves, we heal the other, and then a bigger love can be expanded out to humanity.

I remember very little when I was a child but one thing, intuitively, stuck out for me at a very young age when I heard Robert Kennedy eulogize his brother as a "good and decent man who saw wrong and tried to right it, who saw suffering and tried to heal it, who saw war and tried to stop it."  At a very tender age, these words were deeply moving as I watched the funeral on television.

It was not until many years later that I recognized, in those unforgettable words, the precise description of the essence of compassion.

Compassion is the desire to alleviate suffering and it entails the courage to face it,  the wisdom to gaze deeply into it, and the resolve to respond to it in a way that brings relief.  Compassion is not merely a feeling.  More than just sentiment, it is born of a brave consciousness and a strong will.  It may arise as a tenderness of the heart, but it requires the support of a tough mind.  It is not pity, although the two are sometimes confused.

Pity is simply feeling sorry for someone. It is feeling bad because someone has to endure suffering.  But pity keeps its distance from suffering.  Pity often sounds like this, "so sorry things are not going well for you, and thank goodness it's not me."  Pity can't get past the element of fear.  It's really afraid of pain and suffering.  It wants to flee from their presence, fast.

Compassion doesn't keep its distance.  Compassion literally means "to experience or to endure with."  It is unafraid and willing to be with the suffering. To gaze into it.  Up close and personal.  The compassionate person can do this because it has learned to accept rather than to resist suffering.

People going through hard times can usually tell if they are being treated with pity or compassion.  When my mother was in the hospital, dying from cancer, I was often sitting with her as she received visitors.  I could tell when guests were uncomfortable seeing my mom, their friend, their loved one in bed.  And, I'm sure this did not pass unnoticed by my mother, when she was lucid, because she could read others like a book.  Ill-at-ease visitors usually felt compelled to talk, often, about anything other than her illness.  If her sickness was brought up, some visitors often spoke hollow words assuring my mother that everything was going to be alright.  The uneasy guest occasionally looked at his or her watch during the conversation and sometimes took the first opportunity to depart.  And, of course, we all have that one or two family members who avert compassion and "enduring with" by making the whole situation all about themselves.  These visitors were not uncaring, they merely found it hard to be in the presence of someone suffering.

On the other hand, those who seemed, to me, to bear the face of compassion did not appear eager to direct the conversation away from my mother's pain and anguish.  Yet, they may not have had much to say about it.  Words are sometimes used to hide our discomfort and suffering.  Sometimes we just don't know what to say, but it's better to be quiet than to utter vacuous words.

The compassionate person does not flee from pain or silence.  In many cases, the person who seemed to bring the greatest relief to my mother was one who was willing to stay by her side and listen when necessary.  Even without words, one can bring comfort to another by merely being physically present, maybe holding their hand, and being mindfully attentive.

Such gestures can strengthen others by conveying it is possible neither to resist nor to run away from suffering.

Compassion is not something we have to learn.  It is what we are.  The capacity for compassion is in our deepest natures as human beings.  To be sure, some of us manifest the face of compassion more plainly than others.  For me, the clearest and most common expression of compassion can be seen as the mother's love for her child.  As a recipient of that love as a child, I wasn't always appreciative of my own mother's attention and selflessness.  Having usually had them it was always difficult for me to think of life without them, or even imagine what great care was expressed at times.  But, I came to understand maternal love more clearly when I had my own child and lost my own mother during the same year.  Having my daughter, I've been able to experience, up close, the power of that bond.  Amazement is not too strong a word for my reaction.

I am certainly not the only one to consider motherhood as the prime exemplar of compassion.  Please don't think I'm romanticizing motherhood in this example.  I'm fully aware, me being one, that mother's don't always exhibit compassionate natures.  I'm also aware that fathers can be as compassionate as mothers, although, social construction of modern masculinity makes the expression of compassion more difficult for males.

When we fail to act in a compassionate way, as we often do, we've either been conditioned to avert suffering or we have suppressed the desire to relieve it.  Our frequent failure to be compassionate does not mean that compassion is not a basic part of who we are.  It simply means that our fundamental nature has been obscured and needs to be gently revealed.

Much in our culture works to separate us from our compassion and, hence, alienate one another and from ourselves.  Our love of competition, our fear of pain and suffering, our quest for pleasure and our endless forms of distraction all function to enshroud compassion.  But, if we continue with a daily meditation practice and if we practice presence in everything we do then we can subtly counteract those aspects of our culture.  

Being able to see suffering is the pre-requisite to deeper compassion.  For anyone with a television or access to the internet it's easy to see the overt manifestations of suffering.  But perceiving the deeper expressions of suffering isn't easy and requires the skills of attentiveness that the practice of presence sharpens.  Seeing the subtle and extensive nature of suffering permits us to be more adept at identifying it and becoming more familiar with it.

That familiarity, in turn, helps us accept it as a present moment experience which we need not run from nor resist.  Compassion requires the willingness to look at suffering, tragedy, and pain without aversion or attachment.

Recognizing the subtle nature of suffering also enables us to see how its clearly evident manifestations, like war and conflict, are interrelated with its less apparent forms such as greed, fear, and disappointment.  Common to all experiences of suffering, are self-centered desires that often outstrip the capacity for reality to satisfy them.   Insight into the conditions that give rise to suffering is necessary to being able to respond to the suffering constructively.

Recognizing suffering in our own experience is critical to seeing it in the lives of others.  Unless I understand the nature of my own suffering I can do little to help you with yours.  Paradoxically, then I can take my own conditioned tendency to focus on me and use it to turn outward to others in compassion.  As we practice compassionate presence, we begin to see this is hardly a paradox at all.  As we come to understand there is not my suffering and your suffering - there is only suffering.

Being compassionate toward others is based on empathy.  This is when we put ourselves in the place of others.  Knowing that I want to be happy and free from suffering, I can infer that other beings want this as well.  Knowing that about others, I ought to treat them accordingly.

The first step in being compassionate toward others thus involves imaginatively involving into the interiority of another person sharing his or her inner life, in a profound way, by recognizing that they are like me.  This basic empathetic principle is hardly a revelation to any of us.  The world's religions and philosophies almost uniformly endorse this precept and make it the cornerstone of their ethics.  It's the basis of what we in the west call the golden rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."  

Despite its ubiquity most of us find it difficult to remember to be empathetic which may be a clue why the principle is so repeatedly articulated in religious traditions.  I don't think it's necessarily because empathy is particularly hard for us, sometimes it arises in us spontaneously, perhaps moe than we ordinarily recognize...unless we are practicing presence.  But, just as often, we neglect to practice empathy because the illusion of self gets in the way.  In other words, my conditioned tendency to regard the Universe as revolving around me makes it easy to forget that the rest of you thinks that the Universe revolves around you.

When I am absorbed, seeking my own happiness by the usual frantic and misguided methods, I'm too preoccupied to appreciate that you're seeking the same freedom from suffering that I am.

Throughout my life I've had occasion to be sitting in hospital waiting rooms and to observe families of patients who were in intensive care units as family members anticipated word on their loved one's condition.  As the patient lay in critical condition, quartered away elsewhere in the ICU, anxious relatives waited in uncertainty, never knowing if the doctor would be walking through the door with news of improvement or decline.  Or, perhaps even death.  The days could be long and waiting often seemed endless.  Yet, although they can be grim places to visit, I sometimes saw things in these waiting rooms that inspired me immensely.

These were the times, and they were not rare, when I observed how the medical crisis would draw family members and loved ones closer to one another.  In the space created by grave situations that they shared, members of a family seem to become more sensitive and kinder to one another - offering to get a cup of coffee for one, recommending another go home for some much needed rest, speaking in soft and gentle tones to one another.  I even witnessed how two or three different family members, all total strangers, but united by trying circumstances, suddenly overcame any awkwardness to talk and commiserate with one another.  I can well-imagine that in other circumstances these individuals will have remained within the safe confines of their own family, without reaching beyond it.  Sometimes, families of course, stayed isolated from one another.  But, just as often, their common lot, freed them to cross the imaginary barriers separating them.  I often saw solidarity emerge between different families as members of one would share the joy or good news received by another.  Or, share the grief when the news was unwelcome.

While observing this outpouring of compassion and kindness in the hospital waiting room was encouraging for me, I was also a bit saddened that it required such a liminal experience to bring it out.  Why couldn't we be this way all the time - caring for one another as if we were always in the waiting room of the hospital?  After all, life isn't that much different from such places.  We are all subject to sickness and death, we are all liable to receive bad news about a loved one at any time.  We all spend a great deal of time in uncertainty.

Fortunately, there are ways to encourage a deeper empathy with others even when our circumstances are less dire than in the hospital.  When you're not feeling particularly empathetic with some of your fellow human beings, here's a simple practice to remind you of the common humanity we all share beneath the labels and identifications that divide us.  Any time you find yourself annoyed or alienated from someone, recite these words, "just like me."

Here's an example:  Let's say you are at the airport.  Which, by the way, is one of the greatest places on earth to practice mindfulness.  Where else do you have such wonderful opportunities to experience the subtle manifestations of suffering?  To practice patience, anger management?  To observe other people and even meditate?  If you are seeking an ideal place for testing your progress on the mindfulness path, there is no better place than an airport.  The bigger and busier the better!  Thank your lucky stars when your flight has been delayed or even cancelled.  Now you have an unrivaled opportunity to attend to what's really important in life.

So, you find yourself waiting in one of these several airport queues you have to go through to get to where you are going.  Just ahead of you, as you are rushing to get through security, is a bumbling passenger who has no clue how to negotiate this procedure quickly.  You know the one...the man or woman who forgets to empty their pockets and sets off the scanner.  The one who leisurely removes his shoes and belt, completely oblivious that others have planes to catch in the next ten minutes.  Or, consider the passenger behind you who's in such a hurry, she's practically pushing you and your stuff out of the way, cursing under her breath.  Need I say more?  Now is the time to practice your skills of empathy.  As you watch the bumbling passenger, you say to yourself, "just like me."  Here's a person who forgot to pack travel-sized containers and you can say, "I could've done that."  How many times have you been in such a hurry that you've forgotten things while packing?  Or the fella who forgets to empty his pockets? You can say, "just like me."

It is easy to get frustrated going through stressful queues that you can understand how someone could overlook that step.  And the guy who takes his time with his shoes and belt, "just like me."  Perhaps he suffers from such physical pain that he can't move any faster.  You can say, "I too, have struggled with debilitating pain."

And the pushy woman behind you?  "Just like me."  Perhaps she is late for a flight and eager to get home to her sick child.  I've been late for flights, and I know I'd be in a rush if my sick daughter were waiting for me.  Ok, true you don't know if the pushy lady actually has a sick child waiting for her at home, or if the slow fella has arthritis, maybe. Maybe not.  You don't know.

What you do know is that they are seeking happiness just like you.  And, probably doing so in the same misguided ways as you.  And, by the way, each of these examples I've cited come from my own experiences.  Not only have I been personally annoyed by the pushy woman and the bumbling man, I have actually been the pushy woman and the bumbling man, becoming nuisance to someone else.

Empathy indeed.

The "just like me" can be practiced anywhere.  It can be practiced when you are watching the news on TV, taking a moment to ponder why others behave the way they do, trying to imagine how you would react to such a situation.  Reflecting on ways we share a common humanity.  It can be practice when you drive, wait in line at the grocery store, or endure poor restaurant service.

This tool is extremely effective for establishing empathy with others.  Particularly those we find difficult to like.  Empathy and compassion do not require that we feel affection for one another. We can have compassion for our worst enemies.  Ultimately, the full pursuit of compassion practice requires that we cultivate empathy for some very tough characters, including those who we know to be perpetrators of horrendous violence or abuse.  Compassion cannot be selective. For most of us, the skill to be compassionate of such persons comes at the end of a very long road.  For now, though, let us try to work with the easier cases and gradually progress to the harder ones.

There is, however, one very tough character that you will have to work with before you can go away further with this practice.  Yourself.  For some of us, it may be harder to muster compassion for ourselves than others.  And, there is a saying attributed to the Buddha, "you can search throughout the entire Universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and compassion than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere.  You, yourself, as much as anyone, deserve your love and compassion."
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