By Lori Lines
Despite what we thought after our first childhood or teenage experience with unrequited love, rejection won’t kill you! Yes, the blend of shame, self-loathing, loss, and alienation can make rejection extremely painful, but the only thing that may die as a result is the ego’s comparative compulsions. We’ve all been rejected in our lives, and we have lived to tell the harrowing tale- but does rejection always have to be so painful, profound, or personal?
The Truth is a Double-Edged Sword
You see, rejection is a double-edged sword. It is manifested interpersonally (between two people) but is often an intrapersonal (within oneself) expression and experience. This double-edged sword is usually wielded by those who are triggered by ego comparison, but they are blindly swinging with no personal vendetta.
For example, the “mean girl” who gets laughed at for her reading skills and, in turn, won’t let the student with straight A’s sit with the group at lunch. Or the colleague who is used to being the boss’s “go-to-guy” and starts belittling the new employee who has also garnered the boss’s favor. In these cases, the people whose egos are threatened don’t have interpersonal issues with those they reject; they are indiscriminately lashing out at the discomforting ego comparison.
How is rejection a double-edged sword? When we are on the receiving end of its blade, it can cut to the core of an ego wound, and when we are brave enough to examine this wound, we can genuinely heal, gaining self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-worth. For example, the student who, at their parent’s urging, applies and is rejected by all the schools they reached out to discovers their true passion is culinary arts. Or the man seeking love who is in a depressing cycle of romantic rejection and finally realizes he is not ready for love until he heals his codependent tendencies.
Power is the Ability to Achieve Purpose
The truth is that rejection isn’t all bad; it can also be rather beautiful, purposeful, and powerful when you think about it. Sometimes rejection is a Divine gift of protection or postponement for something better. For example, the woman who desperately wants the man she is casually dating to commit. But Spirit has other plans, and instead, he rejects her. She is heartbroken over the abandonment. What she doesn’t realize is that he is a narcissist who would have emotionally abused her, but Spirit wouldn’t allow it; this woman’s destiny is to meet her soulmate six months later…
Rejection may also be a Divine intervention to steer us towards our greatest good and highest purpose- the ultimate path of ascension. Imagine a new graduate getting rejected for all the teaching jobs in his area. So, he journeys abroad and takes a teaching job in China. He learns about Traditional Chinese Medicine, Reiki, and QI Jong in his spare time and discovers his purpose as a holistic energy healer. Sometimes the slammed door of rejection is a necessary redirection!
Just as we must learn to accept our own rejection, we must be willing to reject others when circumstances call for it. Many people struggle with dispensing rejection because of their experience and emotions towards receiving it. When we view being rejected as personal, it can trigger thoughts and feelings of unworthiness, shame, abandonment, loneliness, inferiority, and ridicule. This makes it difficult for someone, with any modicum of compassion, to dole this pain out to anyone else- understandably!
However, when we understand that rejection is intrapersonal and rarely interpersonal, malicious, or targeted, we can use rejection as a healing tool, enabling us to protect ourselves and our boundaries. What’s more, when we are comfortable rejecting who and what is not meant for us, doesn’t, or no longer serve our purpose, we are better able to accept and move on after being rebuffed, allowing us to process, learn, and progress quicker and with greater ease.
Rejection is Divine Redirection
In all these ways, rejection can be a powerful and painless tool for
Ending Ego Comparisons
Depending on your point of view, rejection can become a key to unlocking a better you, a better path, and a better future. What changes it from a weapon into a key? Quite simply, how you perceive it. How you feel about rejection plays an influential role regarding how much you can benefit from it, whether on the giving or receiving end.
A willingness to see rejection for what it truly is, be it a lesson, opportunity, Divine protection, or emotional intervention, can create opportunities for growth, empowerment, evolution, and abundance.
Often, when rejection closes a door, it is because it no longer leads anywhere; honor rejection as a doorway to the path of enlightenment and ascension!
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Effects of stress, as a result of bad memories and experiences, grief and loss, are devastating. We cannot underestimate the need to let go of old baggage, old relationships, outdated belief systems, and people who have hurt us in the past. The majority of people have something that bogs them down emotionally, something that takes toll of their lives mentally and physically, and when we have not dealt with it, the consequences can lead to devastating effects. Old emotional baggage can be a result of several factors, it could be a nasty situation or a person which you encountered in life that hurt you terribly, it could be plans that you were holding onto that suddenly went awry, it could be a trauma that you faced while you were young and possibly this trauma has somehow not been released from your energy field. Perhaps you have tried many methods and none has helped. I'm here to tell you that one should not lose hope because there are many ways to release. One of the services I provide is to guide people with emotional baggage through guided meditation coupled with essential oils to help identify and release that which weighs you down from moving forward in life.
Essential oils have been proven, in my healing practice, to work and eventually empower my client(s) to lead happy, more fulfilling lives. But it's a process. A very rewarding process.
For my clients who value full body and full emotional wellness, a chance to deal with a problem or a belief system which keeps one stuck that might have taken its toll in one's life has been gratefully accepted and welcomed. We are all aware that there is no greater wealth than good health and most people would do anything in their capacity to ensure that they achieve optimal health. Essential oils are meant to do just that: to help us in attaining our best form by raising our vibrational frequencies. Aromatherapy (therapeutic use of essential oils) is something that has been around for many years and has been tried and found to be effective. Those who have used these products have learned of their intense power and a special kind of energy that can only be found in these kinds of oils.
Therapeutic grade essential oils are extracted directly from the plant , so those who may be having thoughts of being harmed by the oil need not worry as they are suitable for human consumption. The fact that they are obtained in their natural form means that they have life force energy that can be used for certain intentions. Conventional wisdom concurs that the amount of energy contained in the oils is high enough to release all the negative energy stored in our bodies. Here's how it works on a spiritual, energetic level: Basically, everything is alive, everything is constantly changing and everything has a meaning. Our bodies are a dense culmination of Karmic energy and, therefore, each of us "vibrates" at our own frequency based on all that we have accumulated and released up to now. Therefore, certain organs in our bodies carry certain emotions through our energy systems called chakras. The way essential oils work is they seep into the emotions and can change our frequencies for the better. They are known to be transmitted directly to the part of the brain which is known as the emotional control center. This is the point where the decision on where emotions are to be stored in our bodies are made. This may seem like a very complex process but understanding it is easy especially when this has been part of life experiences.
When it comes to the application of the essential oils, you need to do it in the recommended way which ensures that you achieve the desired result. Be sure to follow the instructions and be assured you are on a journey to achieve full and balanced positive energy. When done in the right way, under the right regime you are assured that the feelings will be awakened, you will feel those feelings as you release them, and then you can be left with a feeling of courage, excitement, well-being and even joy.
It is also important to make sure you inhale by diffusing the essential oils appropriate for release, allowing the therapeutic aroma to massage your inner spirit. It is important to stay aware and allow your emotions to surface without attempting to distract yourself from them, to stay present with them - because the more you do this the quicker you will release negativity. Otherwise, this process will draw out very long and you may be discouraged to continue on. Note that this one process will not be wiping your slate completely clean, but will be making yourself ready to start afresh, once again, by clearing the way for new and better to come into your life.
If you have been carrying old baggage, it is high time you let it go, they will continue weighing you down unless you do something about it. Most clients say it is so refreshing to let the dead weight off their shoulders. Essential oils have been tried and tested and found to be very effective along these lines as you will not only feel energized but also feel like a part of some huge load that has been weighing you down has been lifted. There is so much joy in doing this as the quality of your life will be truly enhanced.
Applying essential oils for release will help you open the inner self as you will feel traumatic and negative past experiences melting right away. When this happens your inner voice will slowly come back, giving you the energy that has been hidden inside and, based on my own experiences with essential oils, it is an experience that has positively changed my life for the better. The sweet fragrance will stimulate your memories helping in reconnecting with authentic self. Once you have managed to open the true self , you will have successfully completed an important step in finding the emotional balance that perhaps has been so evasive.
What oils are best to use for release? Young Living Essential Oils offers several - however, it needs to be said that this is a very simplistic guideline for "letting go," releasing, and allowing the uplifting feeling of peace and emotional freedom to root into your psyche. Emotional health is a precious gift to our well-being because without it we are simply not living a life of fulfillment.
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By Lori Lines
This may, at first, appear inconsequential to those of you who have suffered great loss but I begin this article by telling this true story as a basis for where I was in my own spiritual evolution several years ago. Read on.
Many years ago, I came across this beautiful unique and expensive leather sofa when I was decorating my new home in Colorado. I fell in love with this sofa and it was delivered the next day. Over time, I lovingly cleaned it with leather cleaner and then spent hours conditioning the leather. It was gleaming in our family room as I admired it so. At the time, my daughter was about three years old, I told her never to get near the furniture with her art supplies. I kept a special place in our basement just for her, all set up with an easel, paper, play doh, paints and chalk...just waiting for her future masterpieces. One day, she found one of my big permanent markers that we used to label our moving boxes. You know, those really big fat pens with black permanent ink? And, as I was preparing lunch for her I noticed how suddenly the house seemed quiet. I looked around for my daughter but I couldn't find her. I called out her name and I heard nothing. Then I saw her. She was happily drawing a new masterpiece, with that black pen, all over my new light tan sofa!
Our beloved leather sofa was ruined. I immediately went into denial thinking it could be cleaned and returned to it's pristine status. Then I became angry. And, then I was crushed. The beautiful sofa in my elegant, newly decorated family room, was a massive piece of three year old graffiti.
Fortunately, and it took all I could muster, I had the presence of mind not to take my anger out on her. But I was LIVID, to say the least. And, I felt loss. It took a bit of time to recover my equanimity but of course, I did. Once again, I recognized the irony of my attachment to an image that that sofa portrayed. I had to remind myself, as the Buddha said, "All compounded things are impermanent." This leather sofa was most certainly a compounded thing as was clear by the vision of graffiti by my then 3 year old. Sometimes we give away possessions, say, to a friend, that we are attached to and we feel loss. But that is different. I had given away that possession voluntarily. But, this time, the loss came against my will. When giving something way, we have the time to relinquish an attachment before letting it go. The leather sofa, however, was gone before I was prepared. And. It. Hurt. Now I had to relinquish my attachment after the fact. In other words, I had to grieve.
Grieving is the process of coming to terms with loss in our lives. Almost from the very moment we are born, we are having to deal with loss. Newborns come into the world having to deal with the loss of the warmth and comfort of the mother's womb. And, from that instant onward, life can seem like a stream of losses. Some losses, of course, are greater than others. Losing a loved one to death is more significant and more distressing, for most people, than losing a mere material object like a leather sofa. But, the loss of anything can cause suffering and can require the process of grieving to help us to adjust.
I invite you to take a moment to reflect on the losses in your own life. Almost certainly you've lost someone close to you to death. You may have lost a parent, a grandparent, a spouse, a friend, a relative. My own grandmother died a few years ago at the age of 94 and I wondered how many people she lost in her lifetime. Certainly the difficult aspects of a long life would have to be witnessing and coping with the loss of so many loved ones.
We endure loss through other means than death, of course...
Author Lori Lines
Disclaimer: Lori is a high-level channel. The information contained on this site is intended for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis or treatment by a licensed physician. You should seek prompt medical care for any health issues and consult your doctor before using alternative medicine or making a change to your regimen.