By Lori Lines

Hopefully, you have taken some time to reflect on your connection to and embodiment of your higher self and role as sovereign creator. Often, when we first accept this position of power, we focus on what future experiences we wish to manifest, reflect on the present and how to improve current circumstances, and sometimes in our more introspective moments, we question how things could have been different had we assumed the authority of creator sooner.

The past, present, and future of this lifetime are too minute to illustrate the vast nature of your power as a divine being. The higher aspect of who you are, your soul, has designed infinite lifetimes, some of which you are living concurrent to this one! With boundless wisdom, you chose what people, opportunities, challenges, blessings, and lessons you would encounter over your lifetimes to manifest your greatest good and highest purpose, enlightenment. Although free will can’t be disregarded, your higher self’s plans play a huge role in who you are, the life you lead, and your journey of personal development.
 
“Even the bad things?” you might ask. “Bad” things happen for several reasons, a pre-orchestrated decision made by the higher aspect of your being to further your growth, your contemporaneous free will, or the consequence of your experiences and actions over lifetimes. 

Let’s use chronic migraines as an example. Your higher self may have decided migraines would guide you towards meditation, teaching you the value of mindfulness, inner stillness, and balance. They could result from the free will you exercised to stay up late and drink espresso shots throughout the day to stay up. Karmically, you could have experienced a head wound during a fight with a lover and must now heal the deep-seated emotional wound it caused in order to trust again. In this way, your sovereignty as divine creator is exponential, to the nth power!
 
From this perspective, one can never be a victim of their circumstances. Let’s use another example…If you keep attracting partners who lie and cheat, this could be a path you choose in your highest state to learn self-respect and self-preservation, an unfortunate use of freewill to choose partners without discernment, or karmically it can be a pattern you will repeat until you decide to heal the wound of being abandoned in a past life. Meaning, any way you frame it, your circumstances are a result of your choices. Fortunately, you have the divine authority to change both your inner and external experience whenever and however you choose.
 
Of course, this can sometimes be easier said than done. When the root cause of your undesired circumstance is unconscious or inaccessibly linked to past or parallel lives, it can be hard to identify, acknowledge, and release the blockages that impair your influence as a creator. This is where Quantum Healing Hypnosis can help. QHHT can reconnect you to the higher aspect of yourself, where your soul’s memories are stored. But, more than that, your higher self is also connected to the collective unconscious. By accessing all wisdom that has ever been and ever will be, your higher consciousness provides insight regarding your chosen life path, karma, challenges, wounds, and healing.

Yet, before you can genuinely benefit from a QHHT session, you must accept the fundamental truth that despite any perceived distance or separation, you are your higher self! A QHHT facilitator is just that. They are meant to facilitate the connection. With hypnosis, one can clear the noise of limiting beliefs, temporal restraints, and conditioned “logic” to promote profound, discernable messages from your highest consciousness. 

It is not up to the practitioner to tell you what is "wrong" with you, that is your sovereign duty and privilege.

Through QHHT and the alignment it promotes with your higher self, you can reclaim your divinity and creator power, learning to heal yourself, provide for your own needs, and fulfill your higher purpose. As long as you are willing to cast off the shackles of victimhood, stop waiting to be “healed,” don the mantle of creator and victor as your divine birthright, and heal yourself!

In the next installment, we will discuss the systemic dis-ease of laziness and irresponsibility, how it is sustained on a societal level, and breaking free of the self-imposed imprisonment.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines 

By Lori Lines

Depression, anxiety, heart disease, muscle pain, are all scientifically proven symptoms of lack of forgiveness. A lack of forgiveness significantly hinders spiritual growth and the ability to enjoy life. Unforgiving people walk around numb and emotionally disconnected, with a pervasive sense of self-loathing making it impossible to be alone and they possess a profound distrust of others, making it just as challenging to be with others. 

There are a few more telltale signs that someone is struggling with a lack of forgiveness. First, they are often so hyper-focused on the transgression that they cannot be fully present. This tendency to live in the past leads to a lack of direction or purpose, contributing to mental, emotional, and spiritual inertia. The lack of progression often perpetuates a cycle of depression and anxiety that hinders the building of meaningful, enriching relationships.
 
When these people find themselves in new relationships or circumstances, their view is often obscured by fear, bitterness, and distrust. This is because they have so profoundly assumed a state of victimhood that they are in a constant state of disempowerment. Constantly reliving the hurt mentally or unknowingly attracting a series of similar circumstances.
 
What forgiveness Isn’t

Before we address what forgiveness is, we must first discuss what it is not. It is best to forgive because it is healthier and more loving than harboring resentment, which misaligns us with the Divine. Forgiveness shouldn’t be done to foster reconciliation or manipulate someone into changing. Because although forgiveness can lead to reconciliation, it isn’t guaranteed. In fact, it is possible to forgive someone without ever speaking to them about it! And even if forgiveness can be the chance needed to change one’s behaviors and find redemption, some may take advantage of kindness becoming more emboldened to offend, believing they will inevitably be forgiven.
 
Most importantly, despite forgiveness being essential to spiritual growth, it does little to serve self-actualization if it is not preceded with a healthy dose of accountability. Forgiveness does not excuse or erase the harm done. It simply means you are choosing to find peace with it.

The Choice of Forgiveness

Forgiveness doesn’t just happen. It is a powerful intention that liberates you from the dominion of the person or circumstance that pained you. Deciding to forgive means although the heartache may yet persist, your ties to the events that precipitated it will not.

Forgiveness, no matter the circumstance, is an act of self-love and self-care. When it comes to forgiving others, you don’t do it because they deserve it. You do it because you do! You deserve to live a life free of resentment, vengeful thoughts, victimhood, and bitterness. Ultimately, choosing forgiveness means choosing wholeness, happiness, and healing.
 
Healing Benefits of Forgiveness

Physically, forgiving can lower blood pressure, strengthen the immune system, and improve heart health. It has also been found to contribute to mental health by increasing self-esteem, lessening symptoms of depression, and decreasing stress and anxiety.
 
Spiritually, it cuts the karmic cords that hold one back from pursuing our greatest good and honoring our higher purpose. In a state of unforgiveness, one cannot align with our most authentic self and elevated consciousness. Resentment forms an anchor that keeps us tethered to base motivations, perceptions, and existence, holding us back from the heights of ascension. If you are struggling with forgiveness, it is time to break the chains to achieve true awakening! 

How to Forgive

The first step to forgiveness is acknowledging the healing nature of forgiveness and recognizing that letting go sets you free. From that realization, you can seek acceptance. Understand, what is done is done, and no fretting over it can change past events. Accept that the only time to heal is now, not rewriting the past or getting redemption in the future.

From a perspective of acceptance, you will have the perfect vantage point to see what wisdom can be gained from your pain. In life, there are no real mistakes or failures. When you come from a place not of ego but spirit, you can find illumination along your spiritual path even in your darkest moments.
 
Empathy is a very effective way to find forgiveness. Ask yourself why that person acted in such a way, take yourself back to times when you received or needed forgiveness, or put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself, given their life experience, what you would do in their situation. Once again, it isn’t about making excuses. These reflections are meant to help you see someone’s humanity, the imperfect humanity we all share. 

Meditation and mindfulness are great ways to heal unforgiveness. One powerfully transformative yet simple meditation, derived from the Hawaiian practice Ho’oponopono, involves envisioning yourself or the person who hurt you, repeating and embodying the emotions of these words, “I am sorry, please forgive me, I thank you, I love you.” Through these affirmations, you can reconnect with your higher self and realign with the unconditional love of the universe.
 
Unconditional love means infinite love. It is based not on merit but also on the understanding that as a spiritual being, you are not just loving, you are love itself! This spirit of undying, unending love unearths inherent wisdom regarding what serves your highest good and the highest good of others. You will soon discover the act of forgiveness does precisely that.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

If only we treated our spiritual, emotional, and mental bodies as well as our physical bodies. When most people sprain an ankle or pull a muscle, they immediately tend to it. Why do we do that? Because we know if we don’t, the injury can seriously impact our ability to function.
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Emotional, mental, and spiritual wounds are much the same. When we don’t tend to these wounds, they can become aggravated – like an old injury, at seemingly random moments in our lives.... A simple disagreement with a co-worker, a perceived rejection from a partner or friend, emotions like sadness or fear elicited by a movie or a social media post.
 
How do these triggers come to be? During dangerous, painful, ego or life-threatening experiences, the body and mind go into survival mode, shutting down certain physiological and mental states like digestion and memory while heightening others like the circulatory system and sensory awareness. Keep in mind, this doesn’t have to be as extreme as a fatal car wreck. This can be as seemingly commonplace such as a breakup or parental reprimand.
  
When we neglect to address these traumas and painful experiences, the mind and body remain in a state of readiness, as though we are at perpetual risk of being wounded again. Due to this heightened state of awareness, experiences that are in any way similar – even to a small degree, can trigger the same feelings of fear, hurt, anger, guilt and shame that the initial event caused.
 
Identifying Triggers & Their Root Causes

The initial step of healing the wounds is to identify the triggers. Of course, each persons’ life experience is different, so everyone’s triggers are not the same. Although, there tend to be two pervasive categories of triggers, internal and external. Internal triggers involve flashbacks, memories, intense emotions, and even physical cues like muscular tension, fatigue, or heightened physicality brought on by exercise, for instance. External triggers involve environmental cues such as the people involved in the actual event or people reminiscent of them and related sights, sounds, scents, or circumstances.

An essential aspect of healing is to define your specific triggers and the associated behaviors. Don’t judge; just observe. Ask yourself, what happens when you feel triggered? What are your reactions? When you can articulate what the problem is, try and discern when these behaviors started. If you have someone you trust, you can ask them when they noticed you started displaying these behaviors. Be ready to dig a bit deeper to uncover the root causes of your triggers. What are the specific circumstances that lead to these unhealthy responses? Who is usually around? What environment do they occur in? What negative beliefs do they elicit? Are there any associated flashbacks?

How QHHT Can Help

Sometimes with mindfulness, time, and determination, we can get a clearer picture of the root causes of our triggers. However, when the wounds are repressed, painful, or beyond our understanding, we can reach an impasse in our healing.

This is when a Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique practitioner can help. Whether your wounds originated this lifetime or a previous life, QHHT allows you to explore all that has ever been imprinted on your subconscious, your essence that endures eternally. All memories and experiences that would be too difficult to recall in your conscious state can be safely explored during a session with the permission of your Higher Self.
 
QHHT is a profoundly transformative practice, achieving healing at the deepest depths of your root trauma. Facilitated by your Higher Self and a skilled practitioner, you can gain greater awareness regarding past trauma and the physical, mental, and emotional ways it currently manifests in your life. You can also gain invaluable understanding of the wisdom extending from your suffering, whether pre-destined and chosen by your Higher Self or an unfortunate result of free will.
 
Choosing Healing Instead of Blame

One caveat of Quantum Healing is that we can only receive healing if there is an authentic desire to be healed. To foster this sincere intention, we must first take responsibility for our behavior and our growth. We must consciously accept that while the person or circumstances that wounded us may be unjust, we are solely accountable for achieving our higher purpose and the outcome of our life path. Personal power is the exercise of free will. You can reclaim your power by choosing healing, love, and forgiveness.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines 

By Lori Lines

Navigating your way through the daily rigors of life, it is easy to become bound to the ticking hands on the clock and the finite existence they represent. Unfortunately, the demands of modern life make taking a pause for reflection seem like a luxury many can’t seem to afford.  What if you took this moment as a gift? A moment to release the shackles of chronological time and reflect on your timeless nature. You are more than your name, job, and to-do list…You are your consciousness, which is infinite.
 
With no name other than the great “I am,” it can be challenging to conceive of, let alone define consciousness. So, let’s begin with what it isn’t. Your consciousness isn’t your anxious, fearful, angry, doubtful, or ever-chattering thoughts. It does not live in the past, or project into the future. The only time you can fully embody your consciousness is the present. Consciousness is now and exists on an infinite spectrum of “nows”.
 
Consciousness is authentic intelligence, and yet it is not the mind, an important distinction to make. You have been conditioned your whole life to believe the mind is the seat of intelligence. However, the mind is like a computer or smartphone’s artificial intelligence. The mind’s intelligence is based on schemas and conditioning, its own type of artificial intelligence. The mind can only know what it has been taught, whereas consciousness has innate wisdom and understanding.

Like a binary operating system that recognizes only 1’s and 0’s, the mind only recognizes what it can experience through the five senses. If the mind cannot see, touch, hear, taste, or smell something, it does not recognize it. The mind has been conditioned to dismiss non-experiential input, only deeming tangible experiences as factual, real, or meaningful.

Of course, your mind serves a purpose, helping you navigate through life, preparing food, driving a car, reading this text. Yet, like your car, it is a tool. Just because it helps you get from one task or location to another doesn’t mean it is you. People who become overly aligned with the mind are unknowingly led by the ego.
 
The ego, whose existence serves to protect only itself, is sustained by the chattering thoughts of the mind. When we align who we are with what we think, the ego is maintained. The comparison-loving, attention-seeking ego is misaligned with the stillness of consciousness. The ego feels a kinship with the busyness of the mind. The ceaseless prattle of the over-empowered mind swells the ego with importance. In a society where people wear busyness, no matter how superficial, like a badge, the more overthinking the mind does, the more secure the ego feels.
 
Ego-death is instrumental in the process of spiritual growth because while the ego portrays itself as who you are, it is an impediment to connecting with your true self. Your mind’s idle chatter distracts you from confronting your pain body and shadow self, unearthing wounds and truths that allow you to ascend towards enlightenment, undermining your ego’s very existence!

Consciousness, on the other hand, is secure. It lies within you and is you. Pervading every aspect of who you are, yet so much more, consciousness is self-sustained. From this life to the next, your consciousness is the only enduring part of who you are. With nothing to prove and beyond any comparison, consciousness doesn’t yearn for attention and acknowledgment like the insecure ego. Therefore, unlike ego that constantly seeks your attention, you must seek consciousness out, searching for it in a world whose chaos can drown it out and obscure it with a vast accumulation of "knowledge."
 
Where is consciousness found? You can find it in the present moment, shining brightly through breaks in the mind’s noisiness. The more glimpses you get of consciousness, the more you will intuitively seek its peace, wisdom, and power. The source of infinite intelligence and irrefutable truth, all members of humanity must awaken to consciousness or be left behind, imprisoned by the walls of the mind that the ego so steadfastly guards.
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While many may feel lost and afraid when first encountering the stillness of consciousness, it is only the fleeting cries of the ego, fearful of its own demise! The ego will try to mislead you into believing that, because you are your mind, its silence belies your existence. That the end of the unceasing stream of thought is indicative of the death of your personhood. When in fact, it is the gentle stirring of your authentic self. The illuminating dawn of consciousness heralding a brand-new day and existence!

In love and truth,
Lori Lines
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By Lori Lines

There is a misconception that the ego-self sits upon our shoulders, urging us toward a selfish existence that is hedonistic and instantly recognizable as shallow. We don't often equate insatiable ego needs with spirituality. Though, it can be those who speak loudest about being a "spiritual person" that are deeply compelled by the voice of the ego-self.

The zealous New Age pursuit of enlightenment is not always driven by an  impending ascension. It can be motivated by the desire to remain current and appear superior to the "unawakened masses." When we ask how to become enlightened and fail to ask ourselves why we should seek enlightenment, we risk going down the perfunctory path of shallow awakening.

Shallow awakening or false enlightenment has several hallmarks. As mentioned, among them is a braggadocios manner of proclaiming one's spirituality. People who do this often have the deep-seated belief that their spiritual nature makes them better than others, viewing themselves as virtuous and others as debased. 

Another quality of those who have been led astray by false enlightenment is the tendency to spiritually bypass. They wish to manifest peace and harmony that comes from spiritual awakening, side-stepping the often painful shadow work, dark nights of the soul, the heart, humility and ego death. When the real work is avoided, the words and actions that follow rarely amount to more than an elaborate pantomime of actual enlightenment.

The trend arising is the unappeasable pursuit of spiritual information mass-produced by those who have found or claim to have found enlightenment. Amassing and regurgitating other people's words and experiences without personal experience or perspective.
 
Seeking guidance from mentors you trust should always be encouraged, but the truly enlightened never intended for you to substitute your personal journey for theirs. Their intention is to inspire, not influence, to guide, not lead. Unlike their seminars and books, enlightenment cannot be bought and sold.
 
When one follows the "just-add-water-and-stir" brand of spirituality, it is devoid of any soulful nourishment. It's like waking up with the flu, putting on your best clothes and jewels, making yourself up, and expecting to feel better. The behaviors and words of false enlightenment satisfy the ego, bolstering a sense of worthiness and pride but abandons the higher self and the process of self-actualization altogether.
 
This is in stark contrast to actual awakening, when many are harshly judged, friends and family may walk away, and concepts like self-worth and personhood are very fragile. At the beginning of the path to enlightenment, we have to turn a blind eye to others' opinions. Towards the end, ego death means we no longer give much thought to these opinions at all, turning our intensified awareness to our higher-self.
 
A fragile sense of self and losing the relationships that no longer serve are just parts of the price we pay for enlightenment. The process of authentic enlightenment can be likened to the education process. Making our way through primary, middle, high school, and university, we are given lessons and assignments, cumulating in proving our mastery to progress to the next level. 

The Divine timing of our spiritual growth is much the same, though you could say even more painstaking! We are given lessons and assignments, but there are never easy passes. We must repeat the same lessons over and over again until we get it right. Divine timing dictates when and where the tests will be administered and if we are ready for the next chapter. As hard as it can be to surrender to Divine timing and Divine order, we must accept it as the only "administrative" body accredited to appoint our degree in enlightenment. 

What does true enlightenment look like? It can't be chalked up to changes in speech and behavior. This can easily be faked. True enlightenment leads to significant transformation in how we interact with the world through meaningful lifestyle changes, understanding who we truly are, and perception shifts. More importantly, this transformation speaks to the profound changes our spirit is undergoing.
 
Through all the wounds, cracks, and scars that have been uncovered through your journey, the light of awakening will begin to shine, illuminating your truths, your values, and your intentions. The way you care for your mind, body, and spirit will become a priority, not for the sake of how you are perceived or for the sake of vanity, but as a measure of how you FEEL as you align with and navigate your world - all the while taking responsibility and accepting accountability for your choices and their outcomes. You will live a life that honors not just yourself but all you meet, uncovering a deep sense of peace, regardless of where others are on their life journey.
 
The greatest gift and perhaps the biggest dichotomy of enlightenment is the freedom that comes from the connection you will feel with all sentient beings, the Divine, and your existence. Liberation and oneness at once? Yes! When we align ourselves with pure love, compassion, empathy, and harmony, we are unencumbered by judgment, invulnerable to the judgment of others, and unburdened by the competitive ego that thrives on comparison.

Enlightenment is the freedom to be exactly who you are intended when removed from the shadows and illuminated by the dawn of awakening.

In love and truth,
​Lori Lines 

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By Lori Lines

"Why does this always happen to me?" "How do I always attract the wrong people?" "Why me?!" Most of us have either heard or have even said something like this at some point in our romantic lives. Our tendency is to blame bad luck or the "losers" we meet when things go south in our relationships.
 
Just because we do it doesn't make it right! To find the love, devotion, and unity we seek in healthy relationships, we must challenge ourselves to consider our role and the underpinnings of our belief systems, that drive us, in what went wrong. In other words, we need to examine what we did, or the energy we brought to the relationship to begin with, to cause the undesirable effects. 

Asking yourself what role you played in the distrust, betrayal, frustration, disconnection, or ultimate breakdown of your relationship is a hard question to ask when it is framed in a way that is self-deprecating and guilt-ridden. It doesn't have to be this way. By asking yourself why you have chosen a sequence of cheaters, ignored red flags, didn't speak up when a boundary was crossed, or keep being drawn to the "work-in-progress" type, you will gain self-knowledge and empowerment, breaking these toxic cycles.
 
It can be a hard pill to swallow, yet we manifest an undesirable reality when we lack self-awareness. By allowing unserving belief systems and world views framed by trauma and heartache to go unchecked, unhealed, and unchanged, we end up with the same adverse results. Yet, when we understand the causal role we play, we are empowered to choose a different path, assume a different perspective, and choose different actions. By engaging in shadow work, release work, and accepting appropriate accountability, we can release the past, achieve a higher perspective, overcoming our self-imposed limitations and the confines of our comfort zones.
 
The issue with comfort zones is they are made to fit where we were, not where we are going. Remaining within our comfort zones leaves us doing the same things, with the same people or archetypes, in the same ways, limiting our spiritual growth and personal development. When we enmesh ourselves in situations or connections with a lower vibration than our own, they inevitably pull down our vibration. This drains our energy and creates stagnation. When we find connections and circumstances that match our vibration, we are uplifted, the shared energy is amplified. 

It's important to trust that we will find the right connections and not begin desperately seeking them. Desperation is a bullet train to disempowerment. When we convince ourselves we need a partner as a source of love, well-being or affirmation outside of who we are, we give away our power. We ignore red flags, settle for less, and sacrifice pieces of our personhood because we are so distressed over the thought of being alone. 

We must remember, we can be whole and happy alone. In fact, we must find inner completion and contentment before we can be part of a healthy relationship. When we cling to another for personal fulfillment, the result is neither will be fulfilled. No one other than you can validate, affirm, or complete your existence, meaning you will be unfulfilled, and so will your partner when faced with a task where success is unattainable.

Accountability is crucial in this instance as well. We must assume responsibility for our personal development, happiness, and sense of completion. This is foundational to self-actualization, empowerment, and well-being, yet there are also secondary benefits. When you are at one and at peace with yourself, you will be more attractive, particularly to like-minded individuals. No more low-vibrational energy drainers! Relationships where two complete individuals who love themselves and accept accountability for their lives unsurprisingly foster more growth, happiness, devotion, and fulfillment. Because these two people are not trying to make gains from a deficit, they are building up from a solid foundation on which to grow.

Too many people look at love as something to acquire, retain, and exchange, like a possession. Love is actually a state of being and a way of relating to each other and the world. As they say, love is a verb. Without action, it is merely a word. It is a series of behaviors, communicating, nurturing, supporting, connecting, trusting…

Of all the things we must do to love, trusting is vital. We've all been hurt. No matter the depth, the manner, or how long it's been since it occurred, these hurts can linger. Our hearts are like bruised or broken limbs. Even after the bruises have healed, we are sometimes still defensive and protective of them. We project judgment on to those who want to be in our lives, finding fault and making them wrong in order to protect ourselves. Memories of the pain linger and as they do so, we project our own wounds onto people, until we look within and completely heal ourselves and take accountability for our own sabotage.  Yet to be in love, we must move beyond the fear of being hurt and be willing to stretch out of our comfort zones.
 
While we may not be able to forget, we must be willing to trust. As we embrace our vulnerability, the ego that rejects accountability, refuses change, and finds refuge in casting blame, is silenced. Vulnerability softens your heart, allowing love to flow inward and outward, a life-giving wellspring. Of course, there are risks in opening your heart to the potentiality of hurt and pain, but the reward of learning to first trust yourself is well worth the inner work! 

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

PS. Through hypnosis, we can explore and  help with relationship issues including but not limited to:
Bringing love into your life
Inner Child
Fear of Abandonment
Co-dependency to Independence
Divorce
Emotional Security
Forgiving Infidelity
Ending A Relationship
Forgetting or letting go of an Ex-Love
Possessiveness
Jealousy
Rebuilding Trust
Unrequited Love
Stop Controlling
Stop Cheating
Insecurity

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By Lori Lines

We all know that person who fails to take responsibility for anything that goes awry in their life. They’ll lament and shovel heaps of blame on others and when that does not work, they will have a laundry list of excuses to soften the blow.

Bad things can happen to good people. Not everything that goes awry is due to someone’s fault, directly. Yet, people who play the victim have an M.O. They weigh themselves down so heavily with the mantle of victimhood that they render themselves powerless through their own negative self-talk and self-sabotage. To the awakening person, it’s common to see this behavior in others, which begs the question, “how am I at cause for the effects in my own life?” “What role, big or small, have I played in my own life situations and outcomes?”

Those of us who have or still play the role of the hapless victim, unable to assume responsibility for the bad and ultimately the good that takes place in our lives, often end up experiencing a life that is akin to being tossed in the waters of a tumultuous sea. Anger, depression, frustration, anxiety, compromise the matrix of the 3rd-dimensional experience and 5th-dimensional projection.

While some portray themselves as victims to manipulate and control others, most people do not intentionally burden themselves with the archetype. Victims are often born of trauma and betrayal. It is then they are taught that the world is a dangerous place, with dangerous people. After repeatedly experiencing traumatizing or hurtful situations, they begin to believe that bad things are bound to happen and keep happening, the result being a fractured individual. At its core, victimhood is a sense of disempowerment that goes unaddressed and unhealed, affecting the “victim’s” personality, worldview, and way of life.

The state of perpetual victimhood is associated with the theory of learned helplessness. This is when an animal or individual is forced to face painful, hurtful, or otherwise undesirable stimuli or experiences and becomes incapable of escaping or avoiding the same situations in the future due to a learned or adopted belief their circumstance is inescapable and beyond their control. Even when solutions and opportunities become available, they are unable or unwilling to adapt to the changing events, sometimes due to fear of losing a part of their identity.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself what things would look like if all of society, or at least a majority, struggled with learned helplessness. We would be in a continual state of decline, allowing ourselves, our homes, our jobs, our communities, our nations to fall into a state of disrepair because no one can be bothered to strive for better. We would cease to pursue more love, unity, advancement, growth. Vaguely familiar?

There is light at the end of the tunnel for those who struggle with learned helplessness and perpetual victimhood! People with a genuinely optimistic worldview are less vulnerable to falling into the rut of perpetual victimhood. Meaning, assuming the mantle of victimhood is often a choice, and instead, we must choose to look at life with hope and faith, as opposed to fear and distrust.

What most awakening souls understand is that the first step is to reposition ourselves as creators of our own lives and experiences. For better or worse, we must take accountability for the cause of the effects we encounter. When we confront circumstances beyond our control, for instance, being sideswiped by an errant driver or laid off due to company cutbacks, we must still view ourselves as possessing the wisdom, strength, and tenacity to be the cure of a changing, more positive effect.

As creators of our lives, we may fear picking up the brush and palette out of dread that our creation will fall short of our expectations or the expectations of others. When we are fully responsible for the life we create, we fear a mistake or stumble could make us look foolish or lesser-than. This is the ego talking. Our higher-self knows there is no shame in failure. There are lessons and wisdom, as long as we are humble, willing to admit our role, and willing to learn. When we are receptive to the inherent wisdom in defeat, we no longer need to fear responsibility. Instead of thinking about the misstep, we begin to focus on the next opportunity to show what we have learned.

Where we lose a person, an opportunity, a material asset, or a perspective that upheld our beliefs that taint our worldview, we must learn to find peace with the loss. By viewing these losses with a healthier attitude of gratitude for having even had them to begin with or for an opportunity to embrace new things, we are less likely to sink into a sea of despair and view the world as unjust and malevolent. When suitable, accepting responsibility for our defeats empowers us to generate new mental, physical, and spiritual abundance.

Spiritual growth and abundance are the greatest reasons to cast off the mantle of victimhood and instead pick up the painter’s brush, the sculptors chisel, or the writer’s pen. By accepting your role as the creator and source of the outcomes you experience, you can learn how to prune and shape who you are, fostering enormous growth.

Accountability is the first step of self-actualization and crucial to understanding the role we play in the universal balance of cause and effect. This understanding is key to shifting the matrix and ascending to the 5th dimension. A cause and effect most are sure to stand behind.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

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