By Lori Lines
We all know that person who fails to take responsibility for anything that goes awry in their life. They’ll lament and shovel heaps of blame on others and when that does not work, they will have a laundry list of excuses to soften the blow.
Bad things can happen to good people. Not everything that goes awry is due to someone’s fault, directly. Yet, people who play the victim have an M.O. They weigh themselves down so heavily with the mantle of victimhood that they render themselves powerless through their own negative self-talk and self-sabotage. To the awakening person, it’s common to see this behavior in others, which begs the question, “how am I at cause for the effects in my own life?” “What role, big or small, have I played in my own life situations and outcomes?”
Those of us who have or still play the role of the hapless victim, unable to assume responsibility for the bad and ultimately the good that takes place in our lives, often end up experiencing a life that is akin to being tossed in the waters of a tumultuous sea. Anger, depression, frustration, anxiety, compromise the matrix of the 3rd-dimensional experience and 5th-dimensional projection.
While some portray themselves as victims to manipulate and control others, most people do not intentionally burden themselves with the archetype. Victims are often born of trauma and betrayal. It is then they are taught that the world is a dangerous place, with dangerous people. After repeatedly experiencing traumatizing or hurtful situations, they begin to believe that bad things are bound to happen and keep happening, the result being a fractured individual. At its core, victimhood is a sense of disempowerment that goes unaddressed and unhealed, affecting the “victim’s” personality, worldview, and way of life.
The state of perpetual victimhood is associated with the theory of learned helplessness. This is when an animal or individual is forced to face painful, hurtful, or otherwise undesirable stimuli or experiences and becomes incapable of escaping or avoiding the same situations in the future due to a learned or adopted belief their circumstance is inescapable and beyond their control. Even when solutions and opportunities become available, they are unable or unwilling to adapt to the changing events, sometimes due to fear of losing a part of their identity.
Pause for a moment and ask yourself what things would look like if all of society, or at least a majority, struggled with learned helplessness. We would be in a continual state of decline, allowing ourselves, our homes, our jobs, our communities, our nations to fall into a state of disrepair because no one can be bothered to strive for better. We would cease to pursue more love, unity, advancement, growth. Vaguely familiar?
There is light at the end of the tunnel for those who struggle with learned helplessness and perpetual victimhood! People with a genuinely optimistic worldview are less vulnerable to falling into the rut of perpetual victimhood. Meaning, assuming the mantle of victimhood is often a choice, and instead, we must choose to look at life with hope and faith, as opposed to fear and distrust.
What most awakening souls understand is that the first step is to reposition ourselves as creators of our own lives and experiences. For better or worse, we must take accountability for the cause of the effects we encounter. When we confront circumstances beyond our control, for instance, being sideswiped by an errant driver or laid off due to company cutbacks, we must still view ourselves as possessing the wisdom, strength, and tenacity to be the cure of a changing, more positive effect.
As creators of our lives, we may fear picking up the brush and palette out of dread that our creation will fall short of our expectations or the expectations of others. When we are fully responsible for the life we create, we fear a mistake or stumble could make us look foolish or lesser-than. This is the ego talking. Our higher-self knows there is no shame in failure. There are lessons and wisdom, as long as we are humble, willing to admit our role, and willing to learn. When we are receptive to the inherent wisdom in defeat, we no longer need to fear responsibility. Instead of thinking about the misstep, we begin to focus on the next opportunity to show what we have learned.
Where we lose a person, an opportunity, a material asset, or a perspective that upheld our beliefs that taint our worldview, we must learn to find peace with the loss. By viewing these losses with a healthier attitude of gratitude for having even had them to begin with or for an opportunity to embrace new things, we are less likely to sink into a sea of despair and view the world as unjust and malevolent. When suitable, accepting responsibility for our defeats empowers us to generate new mental, physical, and spiritual abundance.
Spiritual growth and abundance are the greatest reasons to cast off the mantle of victimhood and instead pick up the painter’s brush, the sculptors chisel, or the writer’s pen. By accepting your role as the creator and source of the outcomes you experience, you can learn how to prune and shape who you are, fostering enormous growth.
Accountability is the first step of self-actualization and crucial to understanding the role we play in the universal balance of cause and effect. This understanding is key to shifting the matrix and ascending to the 5th dimension. A cause and effect most are sure to stand behind.
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
"Dark Night of the Soul" sounds ominous, doesn't it? In many ways, it is, yet, like your first real heartbreak or significant failure, many believe it is a standard part of spiritual growth and development - a major growing pain as seekers on the road to higher consciousness will pass through this rite of passage, an initiation of sorts, before the seeker is admitted into a regular connection with higher consciousness.
The Dark Night of the Soul is described by some as similar to mild depression or general sense of malaise. You feel lost, stuck in a rut, wistful, and sleeping and eating are disrupted. Others describe it as a soul-crushing deeply depressed state, at times so profound people may believe they are truly dying. Having gone through this journey myself, it felt deeper than a depression and most certainly, "soul-crushing." To me, it felt as if my light had been extinguished and all hope was lost.
Interestingly, we can undergo similar times of storms and stress socially. During these times, life can feel bleak, the inequity and hate paints a dystopian society, and the current social structures lose their meaning. The sense of meaninglessness is a feature of the dark night. On the communal or personal level, nothing seems to make much sense, including life itself.
Many things can trigger a Dark Night, a loss, a death, a disaster, an injustice, an ego-assault, and an ego-death. Socially or individually, it can come when we can no longer explain maladaptive systems and structures, dysfunctional perceptions and thought patterns, and low vibrational automatic behaviors. By profoundly examining the frameworks of life, those that govern society, and those that shape our values become so askew that they collapse.
On a personal level, this collapse may cause you to lose touch with who you are. This is called ego-death. It is symptomatic of the Dark Night. As your world loses meaning, so does your place in it. You can't fit in as you had before. You know on some level the reality of higher consciousness and yearn to be more deeply in communion with this part of yourself, yet you somehow can't fit in or feel at home in the company of those who you usually relate to, let alone yourself. The ego thrives on comparison and judgment, when existing measures are no longer sustainable, the ego's voice dies away.
This can lead to feeling lost. During the Dark Night, the veil is lifted, and you begin to see what an illusion your old reality was. It is here we find ourselves in a state of suspended animation with no 'new' reality to cling to. At this stage, people often feel as though they live in a void of emptiness in which nothing is real. Days, weeks, months and years can drone on and the part that's so difficult to accept is there's no finite time we can cling as to the duration of this experience.
Your motivation may plummet. Work, education, success, esteem, and popularity no longer drives you. Some people experience the need to rid themselves of material possessions, relationships, and pursuits that no longer fulfill them. Initially, this cleansing may seem like just what you need. In the end, it can trigger feelings of worthlessness. Your ego may start to press you, "who are you without your things or your people?"
At some point during your Dark Night, memories and old traumas may rise to the surface. From your current realm of emptiness, these flashbacks can elicit an intense emotional reaction. In fact, everything you encounter may garner a more visceral response. This results from the ego falling back, and the subconscious (higher self) taking the helm, reactivating parts of yourself that have been long denied and repressed.
As your subconscious awareness rises, you may feel like you are thinking with two brains. The subconscious mind sitting back with pen and paper jotting down notes as the conscious mind darts back and forth from one fearful thought to the next. When you are aware of your thoughts, this state of higher consciousness can be unsettling, to say the least. At worst, some people believe they are losing touch with their sanity. But, in reality, one going through this process is gaining their sanity.
Another symptom of the subconscious taking the lead is the ego will wave a distress signal. "I'm dying! SOS!" Many who walk their path during the Dark Night of the Soul start to become profoundly aware of their mortality. This awareness can be so stark, some even believe it is they, themselves, who are dying, not the ego.
The Dark Night can be a lonely time of isolation regardless of who may be around you. During this phase you must confront the fears and insecurities that emerge from the shadows. At times people's sleep is dysregulated, causing one to sleep too much or not enough. The same can happen with food and physical activity.
Similarly, when we experience a Dark Night in the social context, we can be afraid to challenge old detrimental perspectives and social mores. Our daily foundations become dysregulated, and so can the unity we extend to all members of humanity.
So, why must we endure it, for some more than once, this long, dark, difficult night of suffering? Because, as with most nights, when it is complete, we awaken. Awaken into a higher state of consciousness, if we will just allow ourselves to do so. In this transformed state of consciousness, we are set free to ascend to merge with our higher self.
It is important to point out that not everyone goes through the above mentioned intensity of the Dark Night of the Soul. But, if you are, understand that this is YOUR way. And, once on the other side of it, it is a rite of passage that should be honored, as you will be completely transformed.
This experience of being reborn is one of greater unity, love, peace and understanding of one's self and others on a very intimate level. Yes, it is a very dark night, but the sunrise is breathtaking.
Stay tuned for Part 2. The Night is What Makes the Dawn So Bright.
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
The late great Dolores Cannon used to ask her ailing clients, "are you willing to give up what is making you sick?" She would ask this question in the wake of a QHHT® hypnosis session. While this question may seem harsh to some, it's simplicity gives rise to our own empowerment as more of us awaken to our responsibility tending to our thoughts, actions and emotions that block us and make our lives...well..."sick."
The majority of the people in the world are living mechanical lives based on social conditionings and false beliefs instilled in us since childhood and beyond.
Our inharmonious thoughts and feelings, our desires and our compulsive behaviors create major blocks which densify our bodies and lower our vibrational frequency so that we become vulnerable to the negativity (or our created negative energy) around us. Consequently, individuals attract situations and people of similar energies based on the cosmic principle of "like attracts like."
Mental blocks are nothing but dark energies stagnated in our consciousness over long periods of time. These blocks can unconsciously be held within parts of our bodies, too. When we cling to our negativity and appropriate our woes and sadness, we unwittingly trap them into our subconscious being, where they gradually crystallize into mental, physical and emotional blocks that affect us adversely at all levels. These blocks obstruct the divine flow of energy into our being and can shift us out of alignment with our Source, so that all our thoughts and emotions are tainted with pessimism.
Our conscious-awareness is a sentry that guards our thoughts and feelings from straying away from the Source Light of Love and Peace. When some outside situation provokes us to anger, fear, hatred and the like, we must be aware of our emotions and our inner dialogue that expresses those emotions. It's important for us to be in control of our emotions before they overwhelm us.
How to take control? Take a pause, watch your negative emotions as a passive spectator. Acknowledge each emotion that comes up, with: I am feeling "anger"...or I am feeling "fear" and so on. Observe your emotions without allowing them to ruffle your feelings. Your quiet vigilance prevents the discordant emotions to take possession of your heart, mind, even your body, and keeps them under control. Do not be tempted to resist and analyze them or reason with them, but simply be with them until they subdue and dissolve into stillness.
With the power of presence we can get rid ourselves of mental/emotional blocks and choose to lead a wholesome life, free from the compulsions of our negative thoughts.
It's helpful to challenge our fears that pose as obstructions to our success and well-being, and dare to break free from our comfort zone for a more enterprising life. Know that fears are illusory by nature, and appear real only as long as we give it our energy to dominate over us. Fears enfeeble the mind and cripple the spirit.
Similarly, it helps to be conscious of our mental activity at any given time. It is typical of the mind to drift off to its shady haunts of dismal memories, bringing with it the dark remnants of pain and sorrow which cloud our present moment of sunshine and happiness and steep us into our own misery. Your conscious-awareness repels untoward thought, allowing only those which are in keeping with our health and well-being.
When you catch yourself drifting down the bleak memory-lane, stop your thoughts right dead in their tracks and immediately replace it with that which uplifts your spirit and evokes joy in your heart. If the thought hangs on, I affirm, "I nullify this thought so that it does not enter into my subjective mind." It is helpful to engage in constructive activities that are instrumental in increasing mental cheerfulness and better concentration.
Life is not meant to be taken so seriously. If we learn to laugh in the face of our trials and tribulations, we can understand that hardships are merely the lessons of life that we need to go through for our own spiritual progress. These are transient - here, one minute and gone the next.
If we refuse to internalize other people's aggressive behavior towards us, we rise to the understanding it is nothing personal - it is just their way of releasing their inner turmoil and pent-up frustrations.
So, go ahead and dare to laugh when ordeals compel you to cry; dare to love and forgive your enemies when they provoke you to anger and hatred; dare to be resilient when the blows of life bear down on you so that you are able to bounce back good and strong once they are through with you; dare to remain anchored in the Light of Peace when fears threaten to close in on you and jeopardize your happiness.
Shadows and sunshine are a part of one's spiritual journey. You have to allow yourself to move on and enjoy the ride. Keep moving onward and upward, and look forward to new changes that bring with them surprises and opportunities.
Cast burdens onto your Higher Power and live free like a child who is filled with hope and wonderment. Find joys in the simple things in life. A happy heart is a healthy heart. Afflictions and maladies can cease to exist in a body that resonates with true peace and joy.
Though easier said than done, practicing presence and vigilance over our hearts and minds requires persistent effort and a sense of responsibility on our parts. It is a pre-requisite in order to gain mastery over self and to live by the power of our souls so that we become a source of attraction for Universal Peace, Abundance, Health, and Prosperity.
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
It is the human experience when life is fraught with difficulties. Perhaps even more so when we are on a focused and determined spiritual path of growth and enlightenment. It’s as if we bring in a manifold of problems in our lives to sit with us while we face the special challenges of awakening.
But, I believe we should do more than to just expect difficulties and sit with them, we should welcome them. The problems we all face, on this path, are precisely the means that will help us to progress along the way. Facing life’s difficulties, today, will give us practice in confronting the problems in the rest of our lives and beyond. In time, we see what we thought were problems turn out to be stepping stones to greater awareness.
The real key in facing our problems is the attitude we take toward them. Often our approach to life’s difficulties is avoidance of suffering. Rather than confront the deeper fears of our lives, we often attempt to mask or evade them in one way or another.
To accept suffering, rather than to flee from it requires courage. Courage requires determination to take a look at our inner and outer difficulties straight in the eye and to finally deal with how we have dealt with our difficulties. Courage is the fundamental attitude for facing problems. Although we sometimes equate courage and fearlessness, courage is not the absence of fear. In fact, fear is an essential component of courage. One cannot be truly courageous unless we can feel our fear fully. One can be trembling in fear and still be courageous.
If we are able to stand our ground, rather than averting our gaze or taking flight - THAT is courage.
I often reflect on my QHHT clients’ experiences. When one chooses to undergo a full QHHT session, it appears that most, if not all, come to the session willing to look bravely into whatever their minds have churned up without implementing their usual exit strategy they have unconsciously used in the past. Most clients have come to understand (consciously or unconsciously), by the time they have arrived, that a session will help them keep their place when a difficulty arises, knowing that running away will ultimately cause more suffering than staying put and gazing deeply within to face challenges they innately hold. Courage, indeed.
It always helps me to know that fleeing from problems and facing them can both be fearful. But, experience has made me more afraid of the consequences of evasion. To me, courage has become the matter of choosing the thing I fear less, but it hasn’t served my growth in that moment.
Facing difficulties is made easier by viewing them as opportunities to grow in awareness, to deepen our self-knowledge and our skills of compassion. We progress farther by courageously meeting our difficulties than by not having them at all.
For those of you who have bravely faced yourselves, I applaud your courage and your willingness to end certain patterns in your lives.
So, I invite you to reflect on the history of your lives. You can see that the things that have contributed most to your personal development have been the trials you have faced and passed through. If you have not had a QHHT session or a Past Life Regression session yet, and if you are interested, you may be in the process of marshaling your courage. And there’s always progress in that one thought.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Critical thinking is glorified from early childhood. Children are encouraged to make sense of given circumstances, based on verifiable information.
Children are rarely asked why they feel something happens. Instead, they are asked why they think it happens, or why they think something comes to be. The children who live up to these expectations can go on to become skilled critical thinkers and logicians.
Being able to deduce and induce logically can solve a lot of problems. Most people engage in a logical deduction at some point in their day. However, when the critical thinker favors logic to the point that they neglect intuition, very valuable forms of knowledge and true understanding are lost. The risk the overly critical thinker is presented with is to grow dull to their truth, personal experience, and instinct.
In the last few decades, there has been a new appreciation for the sacred wisdom from within. Children are being taught meditation in school and at home. They are learning to still the monkey mind and hear the whisper of their inner wisdom more clearly. It is important for children to become familiar with such practices young because what the overly critical thinker is often missing is confidence. As such, the critical thinker relies on facts. A fact is just a succinct term for a notion that is widely accepted as true. This is evident in this day and age when we find facts are not always facts due to the rampant disinformation that's churned out by most of the larger media outlets.
In a world where the collective consciousness is stirring from its slumber, facts are not as trustworthy as they once appeared to be. There is a communal spiritual awakening to the wisdom of the universe, spiritual truths, and multi-dimensionality. Finally, the shifting of realities can be perceived. Facts are becoming outdated as the potential biases of “reality” are revealed.
In a world where everything changes and old “truths” can hinder and hurt, what can be trusted? The sacred wisdom of the universe, spiritual truths, and personal truths. An individual's experience is what matters, not what others can confirm they have also experienced and is therefore deemed fact. The unresolved critical thinker must get off the fence now or risk being lost in an ocean of old truths, confusion, and antiquated "facts."
Yet, the exclusively critical thinker often finds comfort on the fence. They fear commitment to their truths and the risk of being wrong. These fears can trigger either the ego’s insecurity or arrogance. The insecure ego is apprehensive about being responsible for their truth and will want to avoid looking or feeling foolish. Whereas, the fear of being wrong can be dissonant with an arrogant ego and the notion that they don’t make mistakes, when in fact, there is no eternal version of right and wrong. The human experience is always in flux. Naturally, so is everyone’s perspective and truth.
The overly critical thinker would be wise to find courage, make a choice, and overcome their fears. If they are capable of reconnecting to their intuition, instinct, and spiritual insight, they will gain a compass of truth, integrity, and wisdom. This compass will have a true north, no matter what reality they perceive.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Spending copious amounts of time alone in reflection and meditation provides the space to feel and hear the language of the soul.
It is when we acknowledge how we feel that we access the highest truth within. One cannot access truth when in a state of overthinking, overanalyzing and frantic daily actions that society has indoctrinated us. The key to all truth is to discover how you FEEL.
It is digging through the layers of societal conditioning and mind-control. It is the set-point to accessing your power. It is your springboard to action that is in alignment with your soul, your true self, your essence, your purpose, and, ultimately, true happiness.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
I’m a truth seeker. Truth about our world is uprooting from its deep earthly tentacles and truth is exposing itself. Finding out the truth, even if it’s negative, brings me a sense of relief because it helps me align with what my soul knows and what’s playing out in real time. My soul does not rest until I feel that sense of peace in the knowing. There was always a kernel of fear in my naïveté, in the past. I would become outraged when a truth would come out that went against the grain of my soul. Now, I rarely become outraged when I find out the truth. I think it's important to endeavor not to ignore truth, especially when it's staring us in the face, because it is in ignoring that gut feeling that we find ourselves in fear.
There are people who can just go on about their daily lives, believing the lies we are told, and think nothing of it. I'm not one of those people. Someone I truly respect once told me I have a, sort-of, x-ray vision into the energy of people, situational dynamics, the connections of all things. It's the only way she could explain it to me and I now understand what she was talking about. It can be a blessing and a curse at the same time, but I digress...
Lies and omissions stir my soul and cause discomfort. When I come across a harsh truth I now recognize the discomfort and choose to see it as "It is what it is" now. The way I see it, it's from the "is what it is" of acceptance, that I find my power. In that power, I have choices I can make in my own life that help me stay in my personal integrity and authenticity. Outrage is fear. When I know the truth, regardless if it's negative or positive in my mind, the fear subsides. It is what it is. And I can lay it to rest, for it was there to show me my judgements.
In love and truth,
Author Lori Lines
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