By Lori Lines
Free will is a divine gift that endows each and every one of us with our own inner divinity. While a great endowment, the freedom to choose means every day we must choose between conscious and unconscious acts, positive vibrations and negative, right and wrong.
Inevitably, some people will choose unconscious or willfully hurtful behavior, leaving you feeling hurt, betrayed, angered, or disappointed. Since free will is their divine birthright, you can do nothing to change them or their hurtful actions.
Don’t be mistaken! This does not mean you have no power and are left with no recourse. You have the same birthright of choice. Whether these painful circumstances were pre-destined, to help you learn and grow, or they are weaponized use of someone else’s free will, you get to decide whether you will build a staircase to ascension on them or let them drag you down like an anchor in a sea of emotions.
Though not the easiest path, the most constructive is to choose to cast off the mantle of victimhood and don the armor of victory. However, understand when you remain the victim, you are just as responsible for your path as choosing to be a victor. The hurt, helplessness, disempowerment of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own healing is their burden to carry. While it may seem like an injustice, there comes the point when the person who wounded them is no longer held accountable for the impact on the injured person’s life path.
The Road to Healing
If you choose to take back your power, bravo! Although it may be challenging spiritual work, you are more than capable of realigning yourself with your path and purpose. Keeping in mind that healing looks different for everyone, the following guide may help shape your journey of empowerment.
The first step in your healing journey is to accept that the other person may never acknowledge they’ve done anything wrong. Accepting that painful truth is essential because it gives you back your power. If you can’t rely on them to right the wrongs, you will seek your own resolution.
In the “light and love” society we live in, there tends to be a lot of spiritual and emotional bypassing. You must give yourself permission to feel all your feelings, including anger. It is only by facing your hurt that you will be able to release it- you can’t clean out the basement without unpacking it first!
Once you have explored your pain, there is no need to linger there. Focus on the present. That is where your healing takes place, after all. You may want to come up with a healing affirmation to reorient you to your present and purpose, such as “I am present, I am powerful, I am progressing” or any other easy-to-remember positive declarations.
Above all, be gentle with yourself! Perhaps you will find release in journaling, discussing (not dumping!) the events with a trusted friend or counselor, or seeking therapies like QHHT to dive deeper into the wisdom underlying your pain. Treat yourself like a dear friend, showing yourself compassion because we are all works in progress.
Remember, “you can be a work in progress and a masterpiece simultaneously!”
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
As children, we are told we are athletic, or intelligent, rambunctious, or precocious. We are also taught what beliefs are good and what beliefs are bad, what careers are admirable, and which aren't, who to trust, and who we can't. Ultimately, we are taught what labels to apply to ourselves, our lifestyle choices, principles, and others'. As we mature, we adopt these beliefs as our own. These perceptions are often reinforced in subtle yet constant ways depending on what media we subject ourselves to and the people we surround ourselves with.
In some ways, labels serve us, helping us to process things quickly, navigating life with greater expediency. Yet, in many more ways, labels perpetuate the limiting beliefs that negatively impede our potential, growth, understanding, and most importantly, our ascension.
The concept of conscious creation suggests that our external experience is dictated by our internal experience, particularly our thoughts. Many people walk the world unconsciously, not knowing how they perceive the world is not as it is but as they have been conditioned to see it. For example, if we have been indoctrinated into believing that the world is frightening, we manifest a terroristic human experience. If we have been conditioned to view ourselves as vulnerable and helpless, we will perceive ourselves as victims and attract experiences in which we are victimized. Makes the adage, "what you think, you create" even more poignant, doesn't it?
Don't mistake this wisdom for admonishment. We are not to blame for our unconscious beliefs. From birth, we are conditioned by parents, teachers, peers, and the media. This programming we are subjected to is unconscious because it is such a universal experience. The unconscious nature means these limiting beliefs quickly become "just the way things are," a deeply ingrained part of who we are. Whether they serve us or not, are true or false, they go unnoticed and therefore unchecked.
Supported by automatic cognitive processes, the best way to rid ourselves of deleterious beliefs is to stop the mind's unconscious, ceaseless chatter. Even if this break in idle thoughts is momentary, when we can practice presence, we can observe our thoughts. By attending to our thoughts, we reawaken to the realization that we are not our thoughts, just as we are not our bodies or our emotions. You see, what makes you unique, what invigorates your eternal essence is your soul, and what gives this life significance is your soul's progression.
By acknowledging this otherness from our thoughts, we have already begun the process of changing them. By simply being more mindful, we develop the ability to perceive the beliefs that align with us and our higher purpose and those that do not. When we interrupt the automatic thoughts fed by conditioned beliefs, we experience a glimpse of the world as it is, beyond the veil, outside of the matrix. With time, these brief moments of clarity become more expansive until you view life as it is in totality as opposed to what you've been programmed to believe it is.
How Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique Can Help
Given the precept of conscious creation, each individual must hold themselves accountable, not for having conditioned beliefs but for freeing themselves from them. Because whether we choose to remain imprisoned by our limiting beliefs or not, we are each responsible for the outcome of our individual life paths and the choices we make along the way. Ultimately, taking the road of freedom, enlightenment, and ascension is a choice.
Once you have made that choice, QHHT can facilitate a deep dive into your subconscious, exploring depths that would otherwise be inaccessible. This is done by bypassing the nattering of the "conscious" mind. With the assistance of your higher self, which has an omniscient understanding of who you are and who you are meant to be, a practitioner connects you to your subconscious, enabling you to confront your conditioning and social programming.
A parable tells of a baby elephant tethered to a stake and chain that he is too small to break free of. Over his juvenile years, he tries to break free to no avail. In adulthood, he is strong enough to break free but no longer attempts it as he has been conditioned to believe escape is futile. In this way, a QHHT practitioner can help liberate you from a prison you never knew existed, helping you find a way of BEING that you always hoped did. It is time to break free!
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Depression, anxiety, heart disease, muscle pain, are all scientifically proven symptoms of lack of forgiveness. A lack of forgiveness significantly hinders spiritual growth and the ability to enjoy life. Unforgiving people walk around numb and emotionally disconnected, with a pervasive sense of self-loathing making it impossible to be alone and they possess a profound distrust of others, making it just as challenging to be with others.
There are a few more telltale signs that someone is struggling with a lack of forgiveness. First, they are often so hyper-focused on the transgression that they cannot be fully present. This tendency to live in the past leads to a lack of direction or purpose, contributing to mental, emotional, and spiritual inertia. The lack of progression often perpetuates a cycle of depression and anxiety that hinders the building of meaningful, enriching relationships.
When these people find themselves in new relationships or circumstances, their view is often obscured by fear, bitterness, and distrust. This is because they have so profoundly assumed a state of victimhood that they are in a constant state of disempowerment. Constantly reliving the hurt mentally or unknowingly attracting a series of similar circumstances.
What forgiveness Isn’t
Before we address what forgiveness is, we must first discuss what it is not. It is best to forgive because it is healthier and more loving than harboring resentment, which misaligns us with the Divine. Forgiveness shouldn’t be done to foster reconciliation or manipulate someone into changing. Because although forgiveness can lead to reconciliation, it isn’t guaranteed. In fact, it is possible to forgive someone without ever speaking to them about it! And even if forgiveness can be the chance needed to change one’s behaviors and find redemption, some may take advantage of kindness becoming more emboldened to offend, believing they will inevitably be forgiven.
Most importantly, despite forgiveness being essential to spiritual growth, it does little to serve self-actualization if it is not preceded with a healthy dose of accountability. Forgiveness does not excuse or erase the harm done. It simply means you are choosing to find peace with it.
The Choice of Forgiveness
Forgiveness doesn’t just happen. It is a powerful intention that liberates you from the dominion of the person or circumstance that pained you. Deciding to forgive means although the heartache may yet persist, your ties to the events that precipitated it will not.
Forgiveness, no matter the circumstance, is an act of self-love and self-care. When it comes to forgiving others, you don’t do it because they deserve it. You do it because you do! You deserve to live a life free of resentment, vengeful thoughts, victimhood, and bitterness. Ultimately, choosing forgiveness means choosing wholeness, happiness, and healing.
Healing Benefits of Forgiveness
Physically, forgiving can lower blood pressure, strengthen the immune system, and improve heart health. It has also been found to contribute to mental health by increasing self-esteem, lessening symptoms of depression, and decreasing stress and anxiety.
Spiritually, it cuts the karmic cords that hold one back from pursuing our greatest good and honoring our higher purpose. In a state of unforgiveness, one cannot align with our most authentic self and elevated consciousness. Resentment forms an anchor that keeps us tethered to base motivations, perceptions, and existence, holding us back from the heights of ascension. If you are struggling with forgiveness, it is time to break the chains to achieve true awakening!
How to Forgive
The first step to forgiveness is acknowledging the healing nature of forgiveness and recognizing that letting go sets you free. From that realization, you can seek acceptance. Understand, what is done is done, and no fretting over it can change past events. Accept that the only time to heal is now, not rewriting the past or getting redemption in the future.
From a perspective of acceptance, you will have the perfect vantage point to see what wisdom can be gained from your pain. In life, there are no real mistakes or failures. When you come from a place not of ego but spirit, you can find illumination along your spiritual path even in your darkest moments.
Empathy is a very effective way to find forgiveness. Ask yourself why that person acted in such a way, take yourself back to times when you received or needed forgiveness, or put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself, given their life experience, what you would do in their situation. Once again, it isn’t about making excuses. These reflections are meant to help you see someone’s humanity, the imperfect humanity we all share.
Meditation and mindfulness are great ways to heal unforgiveness. One powerfully transformative yet simple meditation, derived from the Hawaiian practice Ho’oponopono, involves envisioning yourself or the person who hurt you, repeating and embodying the emotions of these words, “I am sorry, please forgive me, I thank you, I love you.” Through these affirmations, you can reconnect with your higher self and realign with the unconditional love of the universe.
Unconditional love means infinite love. It is based not on merit but also on the understanding that as a spiritual being, you are not just loving, you are love itself! This spirit of undying, unending love unearths inherent wisdom regarding what serves your highest good and the highest good of others. You will soon discover the act of forgiveness does precisely that.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
If only we treated our spiritual, emotional, and mental bodies as well as our physical bodies. When most people sprain an ankle or pull a muscle, they immediately tend to it. Why do we do that? Because we know if we don’t, the injury can seriously impact our ability to function.
Emotional, mental, and spiritual wounds are much the same. When we don’t tend to these wounds, they can become aggravated – like an old injury, at seemingly random moments in our lives.... A simple disagreement with a co-worker, a perceived rejection from a partner or friend, emotions like sadness or fear elicited by a movie or a social media post.
How do these triggers come to be? During dangerous, painful, ego or life-threatening experiences, the body and mind go into survival mode, shutting down certain physiological and mental states like digestion and memory while heightening others like the circulatory system and sensory awareness. Keep in mind, this doesn’t have to be as extreme as a fatal car wreck. This can be as seemingly commonplace such as a breakup or parental reprimand.
When we neglect to address these traumas and painful experiences, the mind and body remain in a state of readiness, as though we are at perpetual risk of being wounded again. Due to this heightened state of awareness, experiences that are in any way similar – even to a small degree, can trigger the same feelings of fear, hurt, anger, guilt and shame that the initial event caused.
Identifying Triggers & Their Root Causes
The initial step of healing the wounds is to identify the triggers. Of course, each persons’ life experience is different, so everyone’s triggers are not the same. Although, there tend to be two pervasive categories of triggers, internal and external. Internal triggers involve flashbacks, memories, intense emotions, and even physical cues like muscular tension, fatigue, or heightened physicality brought on by exercise, for instance. External triggers involve environmental cues such as the people involved in the actual event or people reminiscent of them and related sights, sounds, scents, or circumstances.
An essential aspect of healing is to define your specific triggers and the associated behaviors. Don’t judge; just observe. Ask yourself, what happens when you feel triggered? What are your reactions? When you can articulate what the problem is, try and discern when these behaviors started. If you have someone you trust, you can ask them when they noticed you started displaying these behaviors. Be ready to dig a bit deeper to uncover the root causes of your triggers. What are the specific circumstances that lead to these unhealthy responses? Who is usually around? What environment do they occur in? What negative beliefs do they elicit? Are there any associated flashbacks?
How QHHT Can Help
Sometimes with mindfulness, time, and determination, we can get a clearer picture of the root causes of our triggers. However, when the wounds are repressed, painful, or beyond our understanding, we can reach an impasse in our healing.
This is when a Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique practitioner can help. Whether your wounds originated this lifetime or a previous life, QHHT allows you to explore all that has ever been imprinted on your subconscious, your essence that endures eternally. All memories and experiences that would be too difficult to recall in your conscious state can be safely explored during a session with the permission of your Higher Self.
QHHT is a profoundly transformative practice, achieving healing at the deepest depths of your root trauma. Facilitated by your Higher Self and a skilled practitioner, you can gain greater awareness regarding past trauma and the physical, mental, and emotional ways it currently manifests in your life. You can also gain invaluable understanding of the wisdom extending from your suffering, whether pre-destined and chosen by your Higher Self or an unfortunate result of free will.
Choosing Healing Instead of Blame
One caveat of Quantum Healing is that we can only receive healing if there is an authentic desire to be healed. To foster this sincere intention, we must first take responsibility for our behavior and our growth. We must consciously accept that while the person or circumstances that wounded us may be unjust, we are solely accountable for achieving our higher purpose and the outcome of our life path. Personal power is the exercise of free will. You can reclaim your power by choosing healing, love, and forgiveness.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Think of the last time you selflessly gave of your time or resources. It could be helping a co-worker finish an overdue project, gifting a neighbor or friend, or taking time to plan an extra special evening for your partner. It felt good, didn’t it? When you do things for others, it boosts your self-esteem. You feel accomplished and perhaps skilled, and you reinforce your belief that you are ultimately a “good” person.
Kind acts boost self-esteem, which fluctuates, at times becoming very low and others soaring very high. Self-esteem is based on personal evaluations and, for some, comparisons to others. Like the ego-self, self-esteem is often fueled by how you feel you measure up to others. So, when we give to others, we feel good, in part because we feel someone else in our shoes may not do the same.
Constantly needing to reaffirm their virtue as a “good” person, some people give to a fault, neglecting their own needs and desires. People who do this often have poor boundaries and act from a place of trauma or heartache. Whether they were abandoned, betrayed, abused, or otherwise led to believe they were a “bad” person, they give to ease the ache of the wounds within them. Yet, due to the impermanent nature of self-esteem, they must give incessantly to try to keep a pervasive and painful lack of self-worth repressed.
That is an important distinction to make; self-esteem is not self-worth! Self-esteem is based on doing and feeling. Self-worth is based on being. It is unwavering and untouched by your latest loss or most recent gain. This more profound personal estimation is based on your intrinsic worth as a part of the delicately interwoven universal network and the collective unconscious. When you have self-worth, you innately know you are enough based solely on the unique role only you can play in unfolding the divine plan. Keeping this divine plan in mind is essential to understand how people who incessantly take compromise their own self-worth.
It feels great when people make time for you, going out of their way or taking from their resources to make your day easier or your life better. It tells you that you are a “good” person, and because you must somehow merit this behavior, you are a virtuous person. But, just like the flip side of the coin, due to the unstable nature of self-esteem, you’ll need to keep taking to maintain the sense of worthiness you gain. This ultimately damages your self-worth by negating your unique contribution to the divinely orchestrated plan.
Each of us must follow our own path, gaining wisdom, building gifts, and becoming realigned with our authentic selves. When you give or take beyond measure or boundary, it damages self-worth by diverting you from your true purpose of learning, growing, and self-actualizing. The road to enlightenment necessitates dignity built on self-reliance and self-respect. This dignity will remind you of the irrefutable truth that you are inherently deserving of the hope, happiness, and unconditional love the ascension will bring and serve as a guiding light along your spiritual journey.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Anger is often perceived as erratic and unpredictable when in fact, anger is a process. It can be both adaptive and maladaptive, but either way, there is a formula. It all begins with an event that trigger’s the anger, something that could be inconvenient, frustrating, hurtful, disappointing…the list goes on. We’ve all been there before.
Next, there is the mental response, how the occurrence is perceived. For some, it is pretty simple, “they keep cutting me off when I am speaking, and I feel disrespected." For others, negative and at times irrational thoughts are elicited, “they cut me off because they think I am stupid,” “They don’t love me enough to hear me out.”
The emotional response follows. Once again, there are two primary courses anger can take. The more objective response, “that hurt me,” “I’m annoyed,” or an emotional reaction activated by the negative thoughts. These emotions tend to be intense and out of proportion, like shame, guilt, fear, rage, panic, and depression.
These intense emotions often influence both the spiritual and physical body. Leading to bodily tension and spiritual disconnection from divine purpose and universal harmony. This disconnection from the higher self and stabilizing force of the physical plane detract from the path of self-actualization and ascension.
This type of fury leads to what is known as open aggression, expressing itself as screaming, accusations, blaming, harsh criticisms, and emotional manipulation. In the worst-case scenarios, it can lead to property damage or violence against the self or others. It puts those in the immediate environment at risk and can threaten the infuriated individual’s health, mental stability, career, and relationships depending on the context and extremity of the rage.
Open aggression is typically what we think of when we say someone has “anger issues,” but there are those whose anger issues are rooted in not being able to express anger at all. This type of maladaptive coping falls under the umbrella term passive aggression. Passive anger can look like sulking, subtle digs at others, and shutting down. What many don’t realize is it can also look like grief and depression.
Frequently, people have been punished for displaying anger, struggle with abandonment, or suffer from emotional disconnection fall into such patterns.
Whether outwardly volatile or passively despairing, anger is often rooted in trauma. Going back to the negative and irrational thoughts that a triggering event can evoke, these thoughts are elicited from the inner child and wounded self. When emotional responses lead to maladaptive anger, either grief or rage, we are not reacting to the event itself. We are responding to the traumatized parts of ourselves that are triggered by the event. Disproportionate sadness masks anger, and that anger disguises trauma.
As such, anger and grief persist as long as there is trauma to repress. To heal excessive ire, we must uncover, acknowledge, heal, and release the trauma that necessitates it or risk being trapped in a toxic cycle of grief and rage. But how? When we encounter an anger-triggering event, we must explore the thoughts that arise between the event and the emotional response. What is the source of the anger, what automatic thoughts are aroused, who comes to mind, what circumstances does your memory recall? The answers to these questions will help you uncover any wounds the event is dredging up and the associated trauma that needs to be released. This can easily be done through a QHHT session, when one is ready to squarely face the underlying, core trauma rather than repressing it.
Does this mean you’ll never get angry again? Hopefully not! Healthy displays of anger are adaptive, empowering, relationship strengthening, and beneficial. Healthy anger is balanced, proportional to the event, and expressive. There is no screaming. Everyone involved feels heard and listens, allowing all sides to be acknowledged, no “my way or the highway” energy. All parties can be impassioned while remaining patient and, above all, non-aggressive in word and gesture. Healthy anger, in short, means you may express your irritation, frustration, hurt, or disappointment with someone or a situation without losing control or sight of the real issue at hand. Interestingly, healthy anger can often play a pivotal role in healing and releasing trauma.
They say, for every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness. Unhealthy anger blocks the blessings joy, presence, and love can create. On the path to self-actualization, anger is a towering gnarled tree in the middle of the road. You must remove it by the roots to ensure it never again casts a shadow on your light.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Think of destiny as a sightseeing tour around a city. Every major event like the birth of a child, death of a loved one, meeting with a soulmate, dark night of the soul are major attractions that can’t be missed. Imagine for a moment, there was a specific order in which you had to view the attractions, yet no definitive course you must walk. In its most foundational terms, this is what destiny is. Your free-will is the path you choose as you progress throughout all the milestones. As you may realize, the route you choose dramatically impacts your experience of the city!
Your free-will is influenced by what you are thinking, feeling, and your level of spiritual maturity. This is why “wrong” turns rarely merit regret because we exercise our free-will based on who we are, what we know at any given moment, and what we anticipate as the outcome. As they say, when you know better, you do better. Unless what you know is based on falsehoods, and you are misled regarding what outcome to expect.
In this way, people who lie violate free-will. When people say they will do something they know they won’t, feel something they know they don’t, or otherwise try and convince you of something they know to be untrue, liars rob you of your ability to make the best choice in the given situation by not presenting the present actualities.
The pervasively harmful nature of lying is often overlooked. Of course, lying hurts the one being lied to, corrupting free-will, causing heartache, damaging trust… What is often underestimated is how destructive dishonesty is to the liar. Everyone knows lying is wrong, and yet almost everyone is guilty of it at some point in their life. Why do we do it?
People lie to protect their ego, the false self who is vitalized by judgments. These judgments may be positive or negative, imposed on others or ourselves. The artificial self either elevates itself by devaluing others or devalues itself by elevating others. The trouble with ego is it chatters so loudly to mask its insecurity and fear that it drowns out the voice of spirit. Unchecked, the ego promotes habitual lying, and slowly but surely, the liar begins to believe the lie.
Whether you are lied to or are lying, when you believe lies, you become disconnected from your inner truth. When you fail to use your gifts of discernment and intuition to examine the information you receive from the media, social platforms, those around you, or your ego, your inner truth becomes clouded in misinformation, and its vitality is smothered.
Those who meet this fate temporarily appease the ego but ultimately lose connection to the authentic self. No longer capable of discriminating that which is aligned with their path to ascension from that which is misaligned, they lose faith and trust and become susceptible to depression, anxiety, and chronic inertia.
How do you protect yourself against falling into a tangled web of lies? You must remain grounded in your truth. Foster a connection to your higher self through meditation, mindfulness, or other means of profound reflection. To build a trusting relationship with yourself, regularly “fact-check” your own intuition, world views, and schemas remaining willing to let go of all that no longer resonates or serves your highest good. This trust will empower you to cut off the sources of false information, which is integral.
It’s important to highlight that a lie isn’t limited to making a false assertion in an attempt to deceive. There are passive lies created through omissions, such as purposefully leaving out information that doesn’t suit the end to someone’s means. Half-truths are similar, only giving the facts that serve the liar or the lying bodies’ interests. Then there is the tendency of disinformation that seems to be most prevalent and damaging today.
In an attempt to sway public opinion, hide the truth, or gain power, disinformation is purposefully spread. While power is temporal and artificial, disinformation is deleterious because its low-vibrational energy pollutes the pool of the collective unconscious. The best way to counteract this pollution? Maintain the purity of your inner wellspring! The more diligent each of us is, our collective cup will run over with the waters of truth, purifying the pathway to our collective ascension.
In Love and Truth,
Author Lori Lines
Disclaimer: Lori is a high-level channel. The information contained on this site is intended for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis or treatment by a licensed physician. You should seek prompt medical care for any health issues and consult your doctor before using alternative medicine or making a change to your regimen.