By Lori Lines
Growing up, our parents or primary guardians seemed larger than life. They could tackle any task, answer any question, and do no wrong. In a child’s eyes, the adults that nurse them when they are sick, help them navigate the world, and shower them with love, are perfect. As we grow out of the ages of innocence, we may start to perceive of the humanity of our guardians. Imperfect, questioning, wounded, and in need of healing. It is difficult for some when they realize that their parents are human and fall short of their ideal of what a parent should be.
It is often not until we are older or parents ourselves that we can fully embrace the fallibility of our parents with grace and compassion. Though for some, this understanding is hard to find, and no matter how pure and well-meaning their parents’ intentions are, their children feel resentment, heartache, or spitefulness towards the people they once so idolized.
This manner of viewing elders and caregivers from childhood is often encouraged. Viewed as respectful and considered a sound way to model qualities that children should aspire to, putting our parents on a pedestal is a dynamic that we are conditioned to accept.
As we grow, we may adopt the same way of viewing all adults, superiors, and advisors. In school, we may idolize our teachers and coaches. We emulate and aspire to be like our more successful counterparts, managers, and bosses in the professional world. When we seek guidance and healing from counselors, therapists, and lightworkers, we also raise them up on a pedestal of reverence and admiration.
In fact, the more spiritual an individual’s purpose or vocation, the more we tend to revert to the conditioned response of idolization. Just as we did with our parents in our youth, we encumber our spiritual teachers, healers, and mentors with high expectations based on our own idealized versions of who we think they should be. This idealized version is often a projection of who we think we should be or who we believe these lightworkers are supposed to help us become.
Some believe there are benefits to viewing lightworkers and spiritual healers in this way. Often, by painting the mentor with the brush of projection, it enables us to better visualize who we wish to become. The idealized guide can serve as an inspiration, motivating transformation, because “if they can do it, so can I.”
Yet, like our parents, lightworkers are fallibly human. They are their own works in progress, seeking healing from wounds and trauma and illumination along their path of enlightenment. Unfortunately, this humanity is often overlooked. Then again, who can see it when they are so high aloft the pedestals they have been placed on. Sadly, when they fall short of our projections of perfection, they are villainized. This villainization is rooted in the same resentment, heartache, and disappointment of our youth when confronted by our parents’ imperfection. Instead of being a reflection of our hopes and dreams, the lightworker becomes a projection of our unhealed wounds.
As unfortunate as the whole dynamic sounds, it can serve as an opportunity for healing. When these wounds rise to the surface to be slung resentfully at our parents, healers, guides, mentors, and leaders, we can instead use them to reawaken to our divine purpose of release, renewal, and enlightenment. When these people “let us down,” it is often because they “fail” to possess qualities that we wanted to see in others or manifest within ourselves. It is essential to ask ourselves how we can be the embodiment of who we long for others to be, how can our journey of self-actualization help us grow into the people we have always needed.
We are on the precipice of transformational times and ascending the matrix. It is more critical than ever that we must be who we need for ourselves. While it can be encouraging to grow with others and motivating to be inspired by others, we must learn to follow our own path, trust our own intuition, and manifest our own growth.
It is time to embrace your own sovereignty! Shake free from the doubt and the fear of not having all the answers. The time is now to turn the same faithful trust you held in your parents, or the lightworkers you’ve encountered, inward. Trust yourself and the journey even if you don’t have all the answers because no one does. After all, the whole reason for your journey is to discover them!
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
Four principle bodies define our personhood. The wholeness of your existence can be parsed into our physical body, mental body, emotional body, and spiritual body. The classifications are self-explanatory. The physical body governs sensory experiences, bodily needs, and desires. The mental body encompasses the cognitive processes and frameworks through which you experience your existence, such as value systems, world views, and beliefs. Comprising your emotional experiences and states is the emotional body. Finally, your higher self, inner divinity, and authentic ascended essence is the spiritual body.
When we are balanced and aligned, our spiritual, mental, and emotional essence inform and are informed by each other. Our physical body is the embodiment and expression of mind, heart, and soul - an elaborate orchestration of chi. While the physical body is essential as our means of self-expression and transportation during this lifetime, of the four, it is the lowest common denominator.
Imbalances can lead to systemic disruption. For some, physical needs and self-serving desires take precedence. In this case, when the mind, heart, or spirit needs healing, the drives of the temporal body block progression and growth. An illustration of this is when two people feel a strong corporeal attraction that feels so novel and strong it can be falsely attributed with karma.
Granted, there are many pre-destined connections with labels such as "soul mates," "twin flames," and "karmic connections" scripted in the book of life. However, we can only discern them when spirit informs the body. When body informs spirit, we can be misled to hang on to destructive circumstances, energies, and behaviors, obstructing the intended flow of energy throughout the four bodies. This limits our mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and expansion, keeping us stuck, unable to move into the direction of our highest good.
This is when it's necessary to take a moment, at this point, to reconnect to our soul purpose. We have come to this lifetime to self-actualize, achieve enlightenment, and ascend. Every experience and every relationship that has been placed on our path is meant to facilitate this practice. It may not always be clear how to navigate the situation or why a particular person or circumstance was placed on our path, yet we are still accountable for trusting the process and learning. If you are resistant or allow yourself to be distracted by physical desires, you can manifest negative karmic ramifications by blocking your soul's progression.
The highly marketed and pervasive notion about the Twin Flame connection, for example, is so profound and meaningful that we must pursue it at all costs, never faltering along the journey, is an example of blocking our spiritual progression. This notion can contribute to the tendency to use fate as an excuse to resist spiritual advancement, fail to fight physical desires, and refuse to release destructive energies, people and situations that may be hurting us. While unique in many ways, the Twin Flame connection is like every other relationship in that it is meant to serve our path towards individual alignment with the higher self. When a relationship, Twin Flame, soulmate, or otherwise, fails or ceases to support our journey, we are responsible for either healing or releasing it.
Divine wisdom dictates that even in our "failures" or "missteps," we can still find growth and empowerment. Revisiting the example of the Twin Flame connection, when things don't work out, instead of seeking "healing" through dogged fidelity and destructive tenacity WITH that person, we are meant to learn independence, release, and self-preservation leading to freedom and liberation. We are not intended to live co-dependently. We are designed to honor our own personhood so that we are filled with light and radiate this light out to others within our sphere. Even when we are not in relationships, independence and liberty to pursue enlightenment on our own terms are vital. While our spiritual partners can support and inspire our progression towards completion, they are not meant to complete us. As discussed in a recent article, it is crucial to show up whole to all relationships, sans our baggage, to avoid lowering our individual and mutual vibration.
There are many ways people can be unavailable; emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or due to previous or current attachments. Fundamentally, whenever we stubbornly pursue a relationship that serves neither our own nor our partner's soul growth any longer than is necessary, one or more of the four bodies will be misaligned or unavailable. For a connection to fulfill your needs, both parties must be present in all four bodies. This is the only way to elevate the associated vibrations and support the delicate balance of chi that breathes life into your holistic self that sustains the four bodies it is founded upon.
Keep in mind, letting go of someone we love who is emotionally unavailable may erroneously feel like a lack of fidelity or commitment, yet it is a revealing sign of dedication and loyalty to your life purpose and soul mission.
Always stay true to yourself without exploiting another.
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
Everything is energy, the emotions this article elicits, the thoughts it invokes. Your energy is an amalgamation of all the subtle energies you are made up of. Have you ever noticed that your annoying neighbor or irritating co-worker always seems to find you when you are having a bad day? That is because universal order is based in part on like attracting like. We naturally attract the energies we manifest.
Polarity is another universal law. The balance of oppositional forces is represented by light and dark, yin and yang, feminine and masculine, positive and negative. Within each of us exists light and shadow. Enlightenment is realized not in the absence of our shadows but when our light illuminates all that exists within them.
Spiritual growth is not a linear, quantifiable path. Viewing energy as a spectrum, some people's energy is more burdened by their darkness (lower vibrational frequency). In contrast, other people's energy is elevated by their light (higher vibrational frequency).
Every interpersonal dynamic, platonic or romantic, has its own energy. It is the sum of both parties' energy. When two people who radiate more light are paired up, we admire their connection – "two peas in a pod," "meant to be," "soulmates." When two people who generate more darkness come together, we often dissent – "misery loves company," "match made in hell."
Then there are relationships when opposite energies attract and a positive vibration is entwined with a negative one – "toxic," "enabling," "codependent." Think back to when you or someone you know was in such a relationship. Do you recall watching the "positive" person becoming increasingly focused on the "negative" person's wellbeing? Did their energy fade? Did their spark diminish? That's because the person filled with light was being pulled down into the other person's darkness.
It's important to remember neither party is inherently good or bad based on this dynamic. We often glorify people who are self-sacrificing as heroic, compassionate, and kind. In turn, we paint people with lower vibrations as malevolent, "energy vampires," and "toxic." It is the dynamic that is toxic. What many don't realize is this type of dynamic is damaging to both people. It's as dysfunctional to pour all your light into someone else's darkness as it is to allow another's light to chase your shadows. It deters from your higher purpose by either distracting from your growth or undermining the need for growth altogether.
While it may be easier to spot imbalances in others' relationships, there are some hallmarks you can look for in your own relationships. Does the relationship leave you feeling increasingly run down? Has your own growth become stagnant? Do you find yourself reverting to unhealthy, unserving mindsets or behaviors? Do you maintain this relationship out of love and affinity or concern over how the other party will fare without you?
It's never too late to become aware of these unserving dynamics and regain balance! We often feel a commitment to people based on how long they've been in our lives. "I've known her since grade school," "we have been together for 10 years". The calendar is not always a good measure for a good, balanced relationship. It's about how people show up within the relationship dynamic, whether you've known them 50 years or three months, doesn't really matter. Ask yourself, if a food you have eaten since you were a child was making you sick, would you keep eating it because you had been doing so your whole life? What if you found a new food? Whenever you ate it, you felt satiated, refreshed, and nourished. Would you disregard it because you only knew of it for a brief time? That's because what matters most is how good it made you feel. Relationships are the same. The length of the relationship is not important. What is essential is how well it nourishes both parties' spiritual bodies, serving the greater good.
If you find yourself in a chronically imbalanced dynamic, it's imperative to set boundaries. Focus on boundaries that make yourself a priority again, that stymie the energy vortex you have unknowingly been sucked into, and clearly delineate where your energy ends, and theirs begins. If someone refuses to honor these energetic boundaries, you may consider cutting them loose so they can no longer serve as an anchor that prevents you from taking flight on the wings of change.
It isn't a complicated relational perspective. When you break it down, the principles are founded in simple math; a negative will always diminish a positive, and the sum of two positives is always greater than the parts!
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
"Why does this always happen to me?" "How do I always attract the wrong people?" "Why me?!" Most of us have either heard or have even said something like this at some point in our romantic lives. Our tendency is to blame bad luck or the "losers" we meet when things go south in our relationships.
Just because we do it doesn't make it right! To find the love, devotion, and unity we seek in healthy relationships, we must challenge ourselves to consider our role and the underpinnings of our belief systems, that drive us, in what went wrong. In other words, we need to examine what we did, or the energy we brought to the relationship to begin with, to cause the undesirable effects.
Asking yourself what role you played in the distrust, betrayal, frustration, disconnection, or ultimate breakdown of your relationship is a hard question to ask when it is framed in a way that is self-deprecating and guilt-ridden. It doesn't have to be this way. By asking yourself why you have chosen a sequence of cheaters, ignored red flags, didn't speak up when a boundary was crossed, or keep being drawn to the "work-in-progress" type, you will gain self-knowledge and empowerment, breaking these toxic cycles.
It can be a hard pill to swallow, yet we manifest an undesirable reality when we lack self-awareness. By allowing unserving belief systems and world views framed by trauma and heartache to go unchecked, unhealed, and unchanged, we end up with the same adverse results. Yet, when we understand the causal role we play, we are empowered to choose a different path, assume a different perspective, and choose different actions. By engaging in shadow work, release work, and accepting appropriate accountability, we can release the past, achieve a higher perspective, overcoming our self-imposed limitations and the confines of our comfort zones.
The issue with comfort zones is they are made to fit where we were, not where we are going. Remaining within our comfort zones leaves us doing the same things, with the same people or archetypes, in the same ways, limiting our spiritual growth and personal development. When we enmesh ourselves in situations or connections with a lower vibration than our own, they inevitably pull down our vibration. This drains our energy and creates stagnation. When we find connections and circumstances that match our vibration, we are uplifted, the shared energy is amplified.
It's important to trust that we will find the right connections and not begin desperately seeking them. Desperation is a bullet train to disempowerment. When we convince ourselves we need a partner as a source of love, well-being or affirmation outside of who we are, we give away our power. We ignore red flags, settle for less, and sacrifice pieces of our personhood because we are so distressed over the thought of being alone.
We must remember, we can be whole and happy alone. In fact, we must find inner completion and contentment before we can be part of a healthy relationship. When we cling to another for personal fulfillment, the result is neither will be fulfilled. No one other than you can validate, affirm, or complete your existence, meaning you will be unfulfilled, and so will your partner when faced with a task where success is unattainable.
Accountability is crucial in this instance as well. We must assume responsibility for our personal development, happiness, and sense of completion. This is foundational to self-actualization, empowerment, and well-being, yet there are also secondary benefits. When you are at one and at peace with yourself, you will be more attractive, particularly to like-minded individuals. No more low-vibrational energy drainers! Relationships where two complete individuals who love themselves and accept accountability for their lives unsurprisingly foster more growth, happiness, devotion, and fulfillment. Because these two people are not trying to make gains from a deficit, they are building up from a solid foundation on which to grow.
Too many people look at love as something to acquire, retain, and exchange, like a possession. Love is actually a state of being and a way of relating to each other and the world. As they say, love is a verb. Without action, it is merely a word. It is a series of behaviors, communicating, nurturing, supporting, connecting, trusting…
Of all the things we must do to love, trusting is vital. We've all been hurt. No matter the depth, the manner, or how long it's been since it occurred, these hurts can linger. Our hearts are like bruised or broken limbs. Even after the bruises have healed, we are sometimes still defensive and protective of them. We project judgment on to those who want to be in our lives, finding fault and making them wrong in order to protect ourselves. Memories of the pain linger and as they do so, we project our own wounds onto people, until we look within and completely heal ourselves and take accountability for our own sabotage. Yet to be in love, we must move beyond the fear of being hurt and be willing to stretch out of our comfort zones.
While we may not be able to forget, we must be willing to trust. As we embrace our vulnerability, the ego that rejects accountability, refuses change, and finds refuge in casting blame, is silenced. Vulnerability softens your heart, allowing love to flow inward and outward, a life-giving wellspring. Of course, there are risks in opening your heart to the potentiality of hurt and pain, but the reward of learning to first trust yourself is well worth the inner work!
In love and truth,
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By Lori Lines
Projection is the subconscious act of transferring your own unwanted traits, emotions, and behaviors on to someone else. Projective identification, sometimes referred to as projection as well, is the subconscious act of taking feelings from one interpersonal, connection, situation, or relationship and place it on to an unrelated one. Finally, externalization is when we blame others for our circumstances and problems, falsely assuming a victim mentality.
It can all seem a little confusing to someone who isn't familiar with these terms, so here are a few examples. An example of projection is feeling bad about not giving your all at work. Subconsciously you feel guilty that you've been disinterested and unfocused at work. Instead of assuming responsibility for not giving your all, you lash out at a blameless co-worker for being lazy and inconsiderate for not doing their fair share. You took your negative feelings and placed them on your co-worker.
An example of projective identification is having left a relationship where you were undervalued and felt unheard, and you go to a skilled therapist and counselor. You get frustrated with the therapist because they never hear you and often treat you with a lack of respect, unconsciously painting them with the same brush as your ex.
An example of externalization would be poor money management and thoughtless spending having you in a financial crunch. Instead of assuming responsibility for your carelessness, you blame your innocent partner for always suggesting expensive activities.
Now that you know what these terms are, you may ask why we do them. They are coping mechanisms to help us deal with uncomfortable and unwelcome emotional and mental experiences. The above are examples of maladaptive coping. There are different reasons why we engage in these particular maladaptive coping techniques. They can be a means to avoid shame and damage to the ego-self. Some people are trying to prevent fearful or unpredictable outcomes. For others, it is merely a consequence of trying to block these unwanted thoughts, feelings, or behaviors out of their mind. By deciding not to think about them, our quirky brains focus on them even more. We have all engaged in this type of coping at some point in our lives, they are unconscious mechanisms after all, but a chronic or contentious tendency towards projection and blame can be very damaging to others, our relationships, and our spiritual path.
As I'm sure you can imagine, when someone is projected upon or blamed when they are not guilty of the perceived offense, it can damage their self-esteem and self-worth, if they choose to take it on. Over time, when someone is met with a constant barrage of projection, it can build a toxic shame within them. This toxicity can spill over into all areas of life. This is why it is essential to consider and shape our interactions, our reactions with empathy and compassion.
The truth is, the avoidance of negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors thwart our own healing and spiritual growth. We cannot walk in the light if we don't first acknowledge and accept the dark or shadow components of our past and who we are. If we project that which is undesirable in us onto others, we never get the chance to open it to the light and to correct ourselves. By projecting and blaming, we damage our sense of empowerment, our strength, and our self-worth. We assume the role of victim and, by doing so, we cease striving to surmount our challenges and our traumas so that we can move forward in our lives in a healthy way.
Finally, the path to enlightenment is one of love, love of the self and love of others. When we project and blame, it is a victimization and a rejection of who we really are, there is no room for self-love in this chronic pattern of denying our truth. Also, as mentioned, by casting unwarranted guilt on others, we can do damage to their spirit, which wrongfully impacts their path and their ability to fulfill their purpose, love cannot be sustained in this circumstance, either.
Psychological projection, projective identity, and blame all stem from judgments. Judgements of ourselves that are manifested as judgments projected onto others. The first step in breaking the toxic pattern of maladaptive projective coping is to release judgment. The ego-self is sustained by judgments, when you can observe your thoughts, your feelings, and your behaviors with awareness, and without judgment, you are on the path to negative ego-death and enlightenment.
It is exciting to see a trend in my QHHT practice that many of my clients are beginning to recognize, and to take responsibility for, their own role when they are projecting their own wounds into situations and relationships. As the article states, we all do this from time-to-time, but when it becomes a habit of deflecting the underlying issues, projection can take a very dysfunctional turn.
This trend is showing me that the collective is allowing these underlying wounds to float up to the surface so that we can finally have the opportunity to deal with these shadow parts of ourselves in order to finally make the changes needed and put them to rest.
In love and truth,
By Lori Lines
Sometimes we meet someone, and there is an instant and intense magnetism. Occasionally, this magnetism is more than just attraction and immediate rapport. This may have happened to you already, or you could be in the throws of attraction right now. These connections can become relationships that begin with sheer bliss, love bombing, and a wonderful sense of innocence but then they sometimes end in shattering heartbreak. If you have experienced heartache such as this, you may be surprised to know it turned out exactly how you planned it!
This instantaneous, powerful pull we feel toward someone may mean we are experiencing a karmic connection. This is also known as a soul contract or agreement. It is a commitment we made on the Other Side to teach/help one another achieve a certain level of enlightenment and spiritual awakening. Whether or not each person chooses to go within and take the lesson for what it is is up to each relationship participant.
There are specific telltale signs that help identify a karmic connection. The first was already discussed as an intense, undeniable draw toward a person at first sight. This immense allure is followed by a honeymoon period of happiness, delight and attachment. Afterward, the intensity of emotion and connection to that person will remain, but, more often than not, the passion's fire may become too hot to handle. These relationships are recognized by how challenging, frustrating, and rocky they can be. The highs are high, and the lows are the pits!
If we are observant and aware, throughout these highs and lows, we will notice the same issues will keep presenting themselves, perhaps under a different cover or in a different relationship, but the insult usually adds to the same injury again and again.
Whether we need to learn self-love, self-worth, humility, empowerment, or to release what no longer serves us, we will keep being pulled through the relationship tests and patterns until we have learned the original lesson we are meant to learn about ourselves.
Another telltale sign of a karmic connection are all the mixed emotions and angst we feel while in relationship to another. "I love them; I can't stand them," "I'm done; I can't walk away." Karmic connections are full of interpersonal and intra-personal conflict as well as compatibility. That is because our spirit doesn't feel right walking away (the pull) before the lesson is learned, but it is quite painful to have to keep reliving the same hurts, which can be quite confusing especially if there is a level of compatibility. Until the karmic contract is fulfilled, and the lessons are learned, we will always feel like we have unfinished business that will weigh on us until our spirit deems it's finished.
According to the Vedic philosophies, there are seven relationship types. Each relationship type corresponds to one of the seven primary chakras. Relationships relating to the lower chakras, the root, the sacral, and the solar plexus are full of challenges and result in more unhappiness than the higher chakras. As such, karmic connections often arise when one needs to heal the lower chakras.
The root chakra represents our sense of security, stability, and provision. Root chakra relationships are wrought with issues of the unhealthy ego, jealousy, insecurity, and survival. The emotional instability within one or both partners leads to intense highs and lows in the relationship bringing up selfishness, and emotional barriers. Karmic connections that are intended to heal the root chakra are meant to teach us inner balance, the ability to provide for the self, and the need to develop a secure sense of belonging within...regardless if the relationship is meant to be healed or not.
The sacral chakra is our pleasure center. It is the home to our creativity, our passion, our emotions, and our desire for creature comforts. Karmic sacral chakra relationships are laden with issues surrounding selfishness, greed, self-preservation and worry. The self-serving nature of one or both partners leads to alienation, self-centeredness, obsessiveness, compulsion and a lack of passion and balance. These karmic connections that are designed to heal the sacral chakra are meant to foster emotional maturity, empathy, patience, and an appreciation for life's pleasures.
The solar plexus chakra is what feeds our self-worth and our self-confidence. Solar plexus connections are generally the happiest of the lower chakra relationships, though these connections are not without trials. These karmic connections are affected by issues surrounding shallowness, false appearances, lack of authenticity and the desire for admiration. The lack of humility and a compulsive need to keep up appearances (even when the relationship has outlasted itself) can lead to a tendency toward "one-upmanship" and an absence of partnership equality. Ultimately, resentment and anger can develop if there is a perception of being held back or outshined. Karmic connections designed to heal the solar plexus chakra are meant to foster a stable sense of self-worth, personal integrity, motivation for higher purposes, and responsibility for one's own fate.
A cosmic spiritual love and a deeply spiritual purpose of enlightenment is what brings karmic partners together. In my own past life regressions, I was able to experience and witness a life-between-life where a very intense karmic connection and I were planning this current life to be intensely drawn together for the shared purpose to incite triggers and provide opportunity to heal ourselves, within, after the relationship was sabotaged. The challenges that presented themselves in the relationship caused me to learn very painful lessons that I chose to acknowledge and to transcend. Though the physical loss of the eternal spiritual partner can be devastating in this lifetime, it does not mean karmic relationships should last. In the end, the polarities of energies will reveal themselves, and just as the two were magnetized to one another, they can also be repelled. It is rare, in one lifetime, for these partners to return and fully integrate into a physical spiritual partnership, unless both find themselves on the same page of enlightenment, learned through their individual experiences, at a later time.
I often go back to the memory my regression provided, with my spiritual attachment, at our time of planning. I remember his presence and our cosmic conversation while we were in the ethereal realm, and I feel such a satisfying love that his soul provided me to feel within myself. There is no greater sacrifice of the self and for the other, to incite such transformative pain. And, after the pain is transcended, when the uncovering of that spiritual truth of love is felt once again, there's nothing greater or more satisfying when you know you've passed the test. The test leading to experience oneself as fully whole and balanced without the same triggers that the partner once incited. There is no greater love, between souls, such as this.
The danger of the karmic connection is to cling to the familiarity, the intensity, and at times, the codependency. As heartbreaking as it can be, know when it is time to walk away. It's important to do so in peace, knowing you and your karmic connection share such a profound sacred love that you decided it was a journey worth traveling and a loss worth enduring for the sake of mutual enlightenment.
In love and truth,
Awakening & Isolation. My Friends and Family Think I've Lost My Marbles. What's up with that? You Asked...
By Lori Lines
Entering the realm of higher consciousness is spoken about with positive intentions, however, the spiritual journey of expanding consciousness can be gritty and painful as we are bombarded with truth about the way we have been living under a type of spell or dream in an unconscious way.
Of course, we are not aware we've been living in a dream world until we experience a series of catalysts that wake us up. Some of us wake up like a bandaid ripped off, exposing our wounds, while we are left to deal with the aftermath of pain, disappointments, guilt, remorse, fear, and even depression. It is where the dark night of the soul can enter, encountered with our darker side, where exposure of traumas and fears are commonly felt.
Some of us wake up over a period of time and its subtleties are barely perceptible when one day, we are compelled to look back at our life progress and see, really see, how we have evolved from where we began to where we are now in our souls evolution.
Suffice it to say that waking up is a journey to a new reality that's based in truth we've never perceived before. And, when that time comes, those who are near and dear to us may or may not be on that same path as this new reality we suddenly find ourselves living.
To be supported and encouraged by those we love and trust would be a wonderful aid in the process of waking up, yet you may find yourself feeling alone and isolated. At this crucial time in one's spiritual evolution, one may feel judged and mocked by those once thought would champion you. In fact, this is very common. Yet, this sense of isolation can be a side-effect and a further catalyst for awakening. However, all is not lost. Interpersonal relationships can still be navigated during awakening, once we come to understand and accept certain principles.
One principle is you will lose people. People come into our lives for a variety of reasons. Even close friends may decide your notions, your belief systems and your new paradigms to be too "far fetched" for them. They may even determine that you aren't the person they have come to know. Or, as you ascertain new truths that change your vibrational frequency, you may decide that they no longer resonate with you and, sadly, may have to let them go.
Once you accept that everyone is responsible for their own spiritual journey, even if they do not understand you or they haven't figured out they are on one yet, you will be more at peace when others walk away, eventually.
Another perspective you may want to consider is that you aren't here to change anyone's mind. When we try to do this, it becomes a waste of energy, especially when others are not ready to hear you out. Some people that seemed so reasonable before you began awakening, suddenly judge you or dig in their heels when you try to express yourself while their paradigms are challenged. There will be people who will be dismissive and disagreeable no matter what you have to say. And, you know what? That is OK!
My suggestion is not to argue with people who are committed to disagreeing with you or who are committed to misunderstanding you. Because they will. Believe me. In no longer attempting to sway others to your new way of thinking is not spiritual bypassing; this is acknowledging that it is not your duty to change a closed mind. There will be people who will be open to have these discussions with you, to open to hearing what you have to say, all the while checking into their own triggers. And if there is not, then it's not time...even more reason to go within, to journal, to meditate, to explore your new reality on certain matters, and to connect to your newly-found higher consciousness.
An important distinction to make is your spiritual itinerary is your own. It does not need to align with anyone else's until you have integrated your newly found self and have become more confident in who you have become. As you expand your consciousness, coming to new realizations and connecting the figurative dots like never before, you will want to share the invigorating and revitalization energy with those close to you! But, I would not recommend it unsolicited. Not everyone has the same timetable of spiritual awakening. You could present frightening ideas, that challenge another's reality and their ego. This doesn't make these people unevolved or "lesser-than," it simply isn't their time. And, it may never be their time. I always try to err on the side of being respectful of that.
What's important to remember is you are not alone. Even if your friends and family don't see eye-to-eye with you, there are people and communities that you can become a part of when you are ready, there is spiritual literature you can read and mentors you can learn from. Just be prudent and discerning of the information you ingest and the people you trust, as during a spiritual awakening process one can feel disoriented, vulnerable and unclear, therefore, one might attract those whose vibration is the same, rendering them to be untrustworthy in the long-term. And, it must be said, that not every philosophy warrants credence.
There are a lot of credible, loving people who may not have experienced your unique journey but have experienced the highs and lows of spiritual awakening, when they, too, felt alone. Your journey is as unique and personal as you are, yet it is communal. Know that many people have walked a path of awakening that have become self-realized and even more enlightened. Those are the people to seek out, of course, with an eye toward discernment. And rest in the knowing that the collective consciousness is awakening overall.
In love and truth,
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Author Lori Lines
Disclaimer: Lori is a high-level channel. The information contained on this site is intended for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis or treatment by a licensed physician. You should seek prompt medical care for any health issues and consult your doctor before using alternative medicine or making a change to your regimen.