By Lori Lines

As I awaken spiritually, I've come to observe that many people have misconceptions about what equality in a relationship is. Some think equality means matching every little thing that one gives another such as the expectation that if one puts a quarter in a shared jar, the other is expected to put a quarter in that same jar, for example. When both place their quarters in the jar, the perception is both are being equal.  This is an unrealistic expectation where relationships are concerned. This is not what is meant by equality.  In reality, equality in a relationship means balance.  A balance of energy exchange and effort that is meaningful for both parties involved.

So, how do we get to a point of balance in a relationship?  

It begins with the self first.  It's about finding your own sense of value and worthiness, within yourself, and knowing what that is and being able to communicate it to your partner.  When we understand who we are we have a sense of our own worth and therefore, anything our partner (who also knows their value and who they really are) gives has meaning for the good of the relationship.  It's as if you stand in your true self saying, "this is who I am and this is what I offer" and then authentically BEING what you offer. It's a place of meeting toe-to-toe and eye-to-eye.  This is balance.

No longer will it work to seek for love that is so unapologetically contrived in our society. True love exists in the time and space of being who we really are and the only way we are actively being who we really are is when we are standing in the presence of ourselves - because being in the present moment is being in a space of love. 

It is the only way true love can be expressed for when we are standing in presence, love will use us to experience itself. Deep?  I know, but it's true.

Now, more than ever, we are encouraged to let go of anything we believe to be true and just be present.  Meaning, in allowing life to live you, life will become much easier because in each moment, we are reborn and we tune in to a very enlightened state of be-ing.

Being who you really are (love) is a constant stripping away of the beliefs of what you think you are.  Think about it.

Wishing you many blessings as you practice presence,

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Over the last year, I have noticed something. I'm not really sure what to call it.  It's not a trend, for that implies it's not been there before. Let's suffice it to say I woke up to it recently.  

I have a few friends, colleagues, and acquaintances.  More of which I've been in contact lately because of the many spiritual and physical changes that have been manifesting in my life.  With that said, when normally speaking to friends, colleagues, and acquaintances about the issues of the day, I noticed some (not all!)  speaking at me instead of listening and speaking to me.  I realized I would throw out a sentence or two, barely able to complete the thought, when it would trigger one to run with it, assuming all kinds of stories and attaching their own filtered meanings and judgments to what I had to say. 

This has, in the past, left me feeling abandoned, holding the bag, wondering, "what just happened?"

I would then stop, wait for them to finish as their rhetoric continued on and on and on.  As I was allowing them the floor, and searching for the opportunity to get my word in edgewise, I could feel my energy draining from my whole being as their dialogue was morphing into their own problems, their own internal chaos spewing, their own perceptions projected onto the issues (now forgotten) I brought up that exist in my own life.  To an empath, the absorption of all this energy can be heavy and transmuting it can be cumbersome to say the least.

In my world, there is truth in the quote by Stephen R. Covey, "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” 

Which begs the question, "where have I done this to others?" Yes, I have done this! And, I can remember specific times I've done so.  I have awakened, thank you very much, Universe!

As I continue to practice mindfulness (the art of staying present) these types of issues come to the surface. I have noticed so much that has not been seen or felt before as truth begins to seep out from all over the place. One thing is for sure, this mindfulness thing really works as I realize there's less need to complain or to commiserate with others when things are not quite going the way I might like them to go.

I have found, when I settle into my deepening connection to the still and quiet places within and listen, it knows and speaks the truth.  And, the more I listen, a gentle calm cradles me. I am now less inclined to participate in the soul-stealing idle drama of chatter (that has diverted me from so much) as the practice of presence has allowed me to maintain my connection as an extension to my higher-self.  I love watching meaningful moments unfold with my clients rather than trying to have a ready-made answer for them. The best anyone can do is to share their wisdom without attachment to whether the other understands or takes the lesson. When one is ready.

This, my friends, is where the good stuff is. This is the energy I conserve for my clients who are serious about their own awakening times. 

​And as I write that, I'm thinking, perhaps, things are progressing just the way they are intended.

Wishing you love, blessings, and peace.

Lori Lines

By Lori Lines

Many times when you are moving to a significantly higher ascension level you will find you have to let people go from your life who are no longer moving in the same direction beside you.  Just like one of my earlier posts suggests, you needed that person (or those people) to walk beside you on your journey to help teach you something or to help you heal something within.  Once you've completed your karma with them, you will know because they will no longer seem to have anything in common with you or you no longer see things in the same way as they do. Sometimes, no matter how hard you both try, it still doesn't work out to anyone's satisfaction. When this happens, we allow ourselves to get mired in feelings of low self-worth, judging ourselves as "failures."  Of course, this is an illusion that our society has set up for us to believe.  But, in reality, you have just completed something that you were meant to complete and now it's time to move forward. In other words, you are changing your vibrational frequency and they are no longer on your radio station.

Some of us go into denial when we stay in relationships too long.  Often, I have seen in cases such as this, when the relationship begins to get very toxic to both parties and real damage can be done to one's health and well-being.  These are relationships in which we are not meant to stay because we've probably outgrown them, in one way or another, and this causes more karmic pain to build up for both parties. Or, sometimes, the inherent foundation of the relationship needs to change, for example, you could have been romantically involved with someone and, when you both no longer felt the same way about each other, you can change the foundation of the relationship to a platonic friendship.  There are many reasons we are drawn to certain people in our lives, only to realize it has served its purpose for one reason or another.

The best way to handle these situations to mitigate your karma is to: 

1.) ACKNOWLEDGE and sit still in the uncomfortableness of the situation - feel it fully. That tightness in your heart or that sick feeling in your stomach or that fogginess in your brain  is a message that stuck energy is getting ready to purge itself.  This is where most people reach for their addictions. They don't want to accept the reality of WHAT IS and so they numb the feelings with sex, drugs, alcohol, food, work, exercise, etc.  It's obviously best not to reach for your addictions and to face WHAT IS NOW.

2.) EVALUATE yourself.  Who were you when you began this relationship? How much have you grown and how far have you come? What have you been through with this person in your life?  Where were you when you met?  Were you angry and vulnerable? Were you sad?  Perhaps this is where they were, too, and they are still stuck in that but you've moved on.  On what foundation was this relationship built?  How did this relationship help you?  And, how is this association hindering you now?  Do you get sad or angry when you see them?  Do you feel anxious? Drained?  Take your time with this one.  You might want to meditate on these questions, and more, and just see what answers bubble up from within you.  To help you see things more clearly, write the answers to these questions, and more, in a journal so that when you go back to read it, you can gain some clarity about how you feel and what steps to take next.

2.) GO INTO LOVE.  Most people do not want to hurt others intentionally. But what most people do not understand is that this belief is also an illusion. Now, you may not agree with me here, but if your intention is to be loving and to not be hurtful, whether they choose to be victimized and hurt is their issue to deal with, not yours.  We have no control over how others feel or react.  The best way to handle the situation is to face your own fears, move into love, and get truthful about where you are at that moment.

3.) COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS, HONESTLY. Consider letting the other party know you are in a different place in your life and you want to move on.  A lot of people I've known in the past have a really hard time with honesty. I've seen people looking for an out (through duplicity, affairs, etc.) or they even create a dramatic event placing themselves in a victim role to make someone else wrong. This is very painful and damaging to everyone and creates bad karma. Staying in your own power of love and just telling the entire truth is always better. It sets both of you free to move forward without shame or guilt.

4.) MOVE ON AND STAY OPEN.  Take responsibility for your own decisions and actions. If you say you've moved on, then move on. However, I always tell my clients in this situation to "NEVER say NEVER."  After a period of separation from an ex-friend or ex-lover, there is always the possibility that you are a vibrational match again. Sometimes old friends, old lovers, ex-spouses, can come back together in a stronger way, and build a new foundation based on who they are NOW after they've experienced certain lessons that have changed their outlook and self-awareness that did not work in the original relationship dynamics.  

Of course, in instances where severe emotional, spiritual and physical abuse were the norm, it would be advisable to proceed with caution, discernment and strict boundaries.

In the realm of Karma, the key is to live in a state of harmonious balance between polarities, always in love. 

By Lori Lines

Life on Earth is shaking everything down and shifting. Big time. Why? Because we are shifting individually. Individual shifts ripple out to shift the collective.  One thing I've become very clear about is that my intention, through my work, is to help people connect within, to their innermost selves. Their soul. Their true hearts desire.  WHO THEY ARE.  To inspire others to live from that place, within themselves, that is true and authentic, which is the marriage between the heart and the head.  

Just as I have been learning to do all my life, this is the path I am walking, which is unfolding before me in each moment, from the soul rather than attempting to force life from a wounded and fearful place. It is beautiful and intense and I wouldn't change my path for the world because this is why I'm here: To empower other people to do the same. 

Those who come to me looking for the more mundane answers which keep one stuck in old patterns and the past such as, "will she come back to me and will we ultimately be together?" "When will my career take off?" "Who is my soulmate?"  "Should I be with this one or that one?"  "Will my marriage last?"  "When will I have children?" And, the proverbial, "What's the lottery numbers?" It's very challenging for an AWAKENED psychic to support this thinking in their work. Sure, I can answer some of these questions, and I will be happy to do so but most who have these sort of questions have not yet awakened to who they really are.

Many of you have heard me say, "You are the one you are looking for." YOU ARE THE ONE and, if you remember nothing else, remember this: The love from another comes in harmony with the love that you realize you are. It's a question of how committed are you to your own path? How committed are you to being who you really are?  My mission, who I really am, is to want for you to know who you really are, and that is love. You are LOVE.  And, the sooner you recognize this, the better off you will BE.  THAT comes first. So, learn to BE with yourself in any moment, being love, being willing to dig deep within yourself and live in your complete surrender, faith and truth, in the moment.

So, in these times, I want to convey to you that you have no control over outward circumstances, you cannot force anything and, let me tell you, if you think you are in control you are living an illusion. Destiny has its own unfolding and where you can exert your will is how you choose to perceive it and move through it. How you perceive what is in front of you will make all the difference in your life.  Again, I will ask, how committed are you to being who you are in this moment? How committed are you to making the best of right where you are, right now? Also, if you KNOW something in your heart, do not allow someone else to talk you out of what's in your heart. Just let it be, do not hold onto it too tightly, but know it's there for a reason. You cannot control cycles of destiny but you can choose who and how to be during these times.

​There have been cycles of shedding and purging for most of us.  There are layers to this, in and of itself. For those of you who are carrying predominantly masculine energy (we all carry feminine and masculine energy within ourselves) and you are wanting that great love, you must find that love within yourself.  Any need for control and any need to rationalize things...the shift that's happening for the masculine energy dominating the planet and suppressing the heart, emotions and the soul, are bigger than the mind can ever comprehend - which is extraordinary and beautiful and, well, messy.

The mind must become the servant of the heart and that means letting go of control. Surrender this cycle and just enjoy the ride by staying present within it. You do not have to KNOW what is going to happen and stand in defensive alert. These warlike energies have been within you for eons (many past lives) and you are now being called to put down those defenses. Part of the shedding for the masculine that wants to "figure out the heart with the mind" is now happening in the collective.  Your hearts are asking to lead you through the veil of the unknown.  It is understandable to want safety in the attempt to understand things, yet, a greater experience  in love is on the other side of surrender.  

What I see in this is the collective masculine saying, "OK, the way I've been doing life in the past no longer works so I'm going to do this" to one degree or another. 

For eons, the masculine and the feminine have been at odds with one another, collectively. Our society has supported this and actually makes tons of money from the perpetuation of this paradigm.  Now, the masculine is being called to merge with his feminine, within himself, so as to unionize with the collective feminine.  His masculinity has a very important role to the feminine (as so does she to him).  And, for those of you asking, this is not going to take away your manhood. It will help you be stronger within your SELF! Because, let's face it, you guys have been in identity crisis for a long time.  When we let go of the need to control and learn to understand that which is greater than us (call it God, the Universe, the Divine, etc.) then we can enter into service of THE GREAT LOVE. That which is bigger than us. It's an expansion that's happening that merges us with the great love by moving into our individual hearts.

​A lot of times, we want the comfort of knowing what's going to happen.  Especially if we have felt our hearts have been broken, we have attempted to protect ourselves from feeling like we've had swords through our hearts.  This journey is asking us to pull the swords out of our hearts and to allow our hearts to bleed. The loss of blood allows room for the light.  There is no way out but through this journey. If you feel the call from your heart, from something bigger than you are, then you have to commit to the heart. Should pain come, let it be and allow the heart to break open instead of attempting to patch it together with your distractions.  When we resist and struggle, in this way, we just bring on more pain within ourselves.   If you have swords in your heart, you are encouraged to take those swords out, and just go through the experience because it is in the experience that you will heal and become much stronger in love and more of who you really are. Your foundation will become more solidly based.  When we do not allow this experience, we are distracting ourselves from who we are and our experience of true love. 

​So, for both the masculine and the feminine, where is your integrity? Do you choose to stand in your inner knowing? Do you choose to defend your experience and your knowledge of love?  Or, do you choose to compromise?  You are asked to really examine, whether you are being fair in all ways especially to yourself.  There are many of you out there who, partly because you're trying to figure things out with your mind and things may or may not be working out for you and those you love, are cautioned to check in with your integrity. You are being strongly encouraged to check in with what you really know and what you really believe and to only have the purest intentions in terms of who you are with.  If your heart knows one thing and you are choosing to be with someone else, it's not fair to anyone and it erodes the psyche. It delays personal growth and your own happiness.  One must have the patience to allow the heart to lead and to ride out the dilemma while feeling out your integrity.  The heart, the knowing within, will get you where you want to go. We are encouraged to get courageous enough to move into radical honesty.  What is your heart telling you?

The harmonizing with the masculine and the feminine is the realization that the broken heart opening is the path to freedom. Allowing the heart to break open and to allow yourself to heal is the commitment to the faith that you are on the path to BEING THE LOVE HERE ON EARTH. We cannot run from something that we think may break our hearts, for the willingness to risk heartbreak is the willingness to be alive and to feel deeply and to be opened more powerfully to a stronger lasting love.  Needing to know the exact map of the journey, is where we get into trouble. Not knowing and being in the now allows life to open us up to all we desire and it comes in incredible and remarkable ways.

The Divine is shaking everything up. We need to be looking at how we have operated in the past and to understand how it will no longer work. We are seeing how we've been lying to ourselves. So the question begs, what are you going to do now? 

The commitment to understanding who you are, through the path of love, is the key to creating a new world where we all are supported and nurtured in an authentic way. It's called Unity.

By allowing our need to control (our egos) to die and moving into the unknown, surrendering to the path of the heart, is creating something beautiful.  It already is.

May peace, love, and blessings be with you on your journey to oneness.

Lori

By Lori Lines

Divine Soul connections (Soul Mates, Twin Flames) of all shapes and sizes have assisted in breaking down barriers to soul truth and love.  Everything we've built up to provide for our comfort zones, that is not in alignment with our soul truths have begun to fall away.

Higher vibrations cannot co-exist with the lower vibrations.  We are now experiencing this clash.  It's only a matter of time before our higher vibration comes in to stay, creating new beginnings, rapidly.   Ultimately, this is for our highest good.  We are aligning ourselves to the higher vibration of love from the inside-out.

Monumental change must occur within, first, for it to manifest in the physical reality.  This clash can be a frightening time but know all structures within must change and grow for them to change without.

The ground is leveling.  Difficulties on our individual paths will transform as Divinely Inspired relationships heal and expand throughout the collective so as to ground the higher vibrations onto the earth grid for ultimate unity to take hold.

It is time to take positive action toward your goals and your dreams.  Make sure your attitudes and your beliefs are in alignment with what you already have thought you want to accomplish.  Release what no longer fits into the puzzle of what you want to accomplish as it will begin to feel like dead weight.

Writing down the limiting beliefs you've discovered, within you, helps to release this out of your be-ing and puts it in a concrete language for you to better understand.  Then, work on letting them go.

Peace,

​Lori

By Lori Lines

When placing blame on another, ask yourself how this is a reflection of you. How are you, deep down, judging yourself?

Within any relationship, energy vampires judge and blame others to keep us off balance (pushing the buttons of the belief we are unworthy) in order to impose their will and control. The ego likes to blame and project onto others. If your self-esteem has become low because of the judging and blaming of another, you are with an energy vampire who is trying to control you.

The energy vampire distracts themselves by focusing on you and wanting YOU to change, because they are not aware of how they need to change by providing love and stability for themselves. So, someone who is being critical and judgmental is just projecting the fact that they are internally being self judgmental and critical.

Take nothing personally by recognizing the deeper deception they are doing within themselves. Before you can heal others, you have to heal yourself. This is a situation that cannot be healed unless you heal yourself.

​Peace,  Lori

By Lori LInes

Did you know that if you are in relationship with a sensitive (empathic) person and you are not aligned with your true self, being connected with the empath is very draining and hurtful to them?

Why? If you're not in alignment with self-awareness, your emotional body is in pain due to a deep-seated lack of self-worth. So, you draw your feelings of self-worth from the positive energy the empath emits, feeding off and draining the energy from the empath.

If the empath is unaware of this imbalance of energy exchange, they can become very ill. This is an underlying form of co-dependency, therefore, it's important to become aware of what you carry in your pain body.

​Just like alcohol, drugs, food, sex, etc., it is an addiction, albeit covert, to another person for your own gain. Address your codependency to become more self-contained, contain your energy by focusing on the self, and you will find more lasting and fulfilling relationships. 

​ Peace, Lori

By Lori Lines

Message from Spirit:  Love is irrational and cannot always be mentally understood and we are asked to drop into our hearts and the wisdom of our soul.

We all have different wounds that are acted out and activated in our love relationships.  Many of you, who are wounded and who live and respond from your wounds, may feel triggered by those you love.  Fears may arise from wounds of the past and you may perceive and experience rejection, abandonment, etc.  Many may feel it is not safe to be in a love relationship any longer.

There is light seeping in from the heavens into you, whether you feel it or not at this time.  Believe me when I say, you will begin to feel it soon.  It is now safe to give and receive love as we are called to live from our soul rather from our minds, if we allow ourselves to do so.  All it takes is intention and then dropping down into our hearts to FEEL.

If you are feeling a purity of love for someone else that you just can't deny, it's more than probable that this is usually not one-sided.  We are called to accept the journey of the soul connection knowing that PURE LOVE is present.

Through your choices and perceptions, you will come to see that never have you been the victim but always the creator.  Sometimes we create wounding experiences (consciously and unconsciously) for our deeper self for our soul to learn and grow from experience.  

Know that, now, we are stepping into a time where we can really create beautiful things and an extraordinary amount of power is available to us to create ultimate fulfillment, if this is your hearts desire.

May we uncross our arms of ego and enjoy the love and joy that is now here. 

I am you, you are me, we are ONE.

By Lori Lines

Father's Day. I have to admit it's not easy to revere my own father. Many do not know this but when my mother was married to him and pregnant with me, he left us for another woman who bore two more of his children. Both girls. I'm convinced the stress of all this had to do with me being born 3 months early. And, I've heard there have been other children spawned from him somewhere in Texas. I'm sure by now he is no longer living.


Mom and I struggled significantly when I was growing up - the law deemed him a "deadbeat" dad. And, while this is true, the effects of not growing up with a father, who was loving and present, fragmented my life quite considerably. My past has been sprinkled with me loving men who were unavailable, who lied, who cheated, who took advantage, and who were wounded to the point of being unable to have healthy relationships. Of course, now I know this had little to do with me though I have been the common denominator.

But, even though I can't honestly revere my father (he never gave me the chance to call him Daddy) like many can, I have to say thank you to my father, not only for his DNA, but for the strength, wisdom, and empowerment I have found as a woman through such adversity. 

Almost seven years ago, I found myself in the same situation, as my mother and I, when I was growing up. I am now raising a daughter by myself with NO biological family, to speak of. And, it's been extremely difficult raising a child without a "daddy" who is willing to make sacrifices to be present for her in the way our society deems appropriate but most importantly, in the way my daughter would love him to be.

Isn't it ironic?

Although I have no idea why this father's day holds significance or is any different from the rest - for the first time in many, many years I've given thought to my father this weekend. I forgave him long ago in order to move forward, to heal myself from the pain and loneliness a girl can feel who never got the chance to know what it's like to experience that first love- of -her- life who unconditionally accepts her for who she is.  

And as I ponder my past and my father, it dawns on me that the significance of this moment is sort of a death. It is a death of old ways of being. It is a death of attaching my identity to who I am with anymore.  Like the older generation, many women found their power by identifying with who they were involved with. I got to see this many times when I lived in an affluent neighborhood where the women bragged about their husband's successes, all the while they appeared to me to be empty and devoid of any recognition of who they really were, their own love, their own innate gifts, their feminine power, and their intelligence.  As long as their husbands did well, they seemed to give their power away. At the time, I was no different. 

The tides have been turning for the feminine and the masculine in our culture. Relationship paradigms are changing and we can't help but change with them.

It took a man, whom I really loved, to hook into the wounds of my father and abandon our relationship so suddenly.  He possessed all the intelligence, the light, the love, the sense of humor - the absolute brilliance - that connected with me on every level of my being.   The sad thing is, just like my father, he didn't love himself very much at the time.  He didn't possess the foundation it took to recognize true love because he just couldn't receive out of self-love.  He couldn't see what I saw in him.  The timing was wrong but I know there's a reason we met.   He was mirroring me.  I saw myself.  And it took me four years of blaming myself, asking the wrong questions, and living under such a dark cloud to understand.

So, to my father and to the, then, love-of-my-life who hooked into my wounds only to help me heal them once and for all, I hope you have healed and have forgiven yourself by now...I hope you have found love and peace within yourselves...wherever you are. I know I've forgiven myself and I've forgiven all that you represented in my past.

Thank you for the lessons, for I turned out better than anyone expected and I love who I've become, despite your absence.

And to my late, beloved mother, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY. I love you for pulling double duty when it was hard and I couldn't fill your loneliness or quell your fears and frustrations because you didn't always know how on earth we were going to make it to payday.

To those of you men who are my awakened spiritual brothers  who have stood by me during my dark night of the soul, Happy Father's Day. You represent such love while straddling the balance of your masculine power and your feminine understanding until I was able to do this for myself.  You are amazing.  You've been my rock to hold on to when I just wanted to be swept away by the tides.

To the Magician who holds sacred space for me, you know who you are and so do I. Happy Father's Day. I love you, too.  

To those significant loving, healthy male mentors in my life who are no longer living: my Grandfather (with whom I had a very special connection) and my childhood neighbor who lent his time and attention to me while he raised his own children and who became a valued consultant when I needed advice only an evolved man could give a scared and vulnerable teenage girl...HAPPY FATHER's DAY to YOU TOO. 

You are all in my heart. You are all a part of me now.

And I allow the death of the old to go back to God.

I am whole, happy, healthy.  But, more importantly, I am balanced.

Lori Lines