Healing is our Individual Responsibility

By Lori Lines

Free will is a divine gift that endows each and every one of us with our own inner divinity. While a great endowment, the freedom to choose means every day we must choose between conscious and unconscious acts, positive vibrations and negative, right and wrong.
 
Inevitably, some people will choose unconscious or willfully hurtful behavior, leaving you feeling hurt, betrayed, angered, or disappointed. Since free will is their divine birthright, you can do nothing to change them or their hurtful actions. 

Don’t be mistaken! This does not mean you have no power and are left with no recourse. You have the same birthright of choice. Whether these painful circumstances were pre-destined, to help you learn and grow, or they are weaponized use of someone else’s free will, you get to decide whether you will build a staircase to ascension on them or let them drag you down like an anchor in a sea of emotions. 

Though not the easiest path, the most constructive is to choose to cast off the mantle of victimhood and don the armor of victory. However, understand when you remain the victim, you are just as responsible for your path as choosing to be a victor. The hurt, helplessness, disempowerment of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own healing is their burden to carry. While it may seem like an injustice, there comes the point when the person who wounded them is no longer held accountable for the impact on the injured person’s life path.
 
The Road to Healing

If you choose to take back your power, bravo! Although it may be challenging spiritual work, you are more than capable of realigning yourself with your path and purpose. Keeping in mind that healing looks different for everyone, the following guide may help shape your journey of empowerment.
 
The first step in your healing journey is to accept that the other person may never acknowledge they’ve done anything wrong. Accepting that painful truth is essential because it gives you back your power. If you can’t rely on them to right the wrongs, you will seek your own resolution.

In the “light and love” society we live in, there tends to be a lot of spiritual and emotional bypassing. You must give yourself permission to feel all your feelings, including anger. It is only by facing your hurt that you will be able to release it- you can’t clean out the basement without unpacking it first!

Once you have explored your pain, there is no need to linger there. Focus on the present. That is where your healing takes place, after all. You may want to come up with a healing affirmation to reorient you to your present and purpose, such as “I am present, I am powerful, I am progressing” or any other easy-to-remember positive declarations. 

Above all, be gentle with yourself! Perhaps you will find release in journaling, discussing (not dumping!) the events with a trusted friend or counselor, or seeking therapies like QHHT to dive deeper into the wisdom underlying your pain. Treat yourself like a dear friend, showing yourself compassion because we are all works in progress. 

Remember, “you can be a work in progress and a masterpiece simultaneously!”

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

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