How to Protect Yourself from the Energy Vampire.

By Lori Lines

Life is full of ups and downs and it’s important to be aware that there are different kinds of people among us. I tend to subscribe to the belief that most people are good but life has handed them challenges designed to recognize, acknowledge, take responsibility for, heal and let go of their beliefs and behaviors rooted in fear.  The problems arise when we meet up with an energy vampire. Usually these people, in one way or another, are not taking responsibility for their own energy and they appear to think that the whole world is revolving around them and, at this time, they only care about themselves. They don’t care about other’s emotions because they seem to be self-involved and these are the kind of people that I refer to as energy vampires.  They might be your friends, family members, colleagues.
In our society, especially if you are a highly sensitive person, it is difficult to keep your own energy and vitality up and it is important to prepare yourself for these vampires in order to move forward - otherwise you can make your life more difficult. In looking back on my own experiences, I can see how the Universe has brought energy vampires into my life and I can see how they have been tests for me to see how committed I am to my own self-worth, the work I’m called to do in this lifetime, my own self-love and self-respect.  These people have been challenging for sure, but, in the end it seems that I have either transcended the challenges with or without those people in my life.  In this article I am going to explain how you can generally protect yourself from the energy vampires I spoke about in my first article, “How to Recognize the Energy Vampire in Yourself and Others.”

• Take A Deep Breath – If you are in a situation when there are many energy vampires around you (I see many in work situations where you might have to interact with many), or just one energy vampire, take a deep breath, stay detached yet aware, and let them to do their thing. If you are in the presence of the Overly Suspicious Vampire, it is best to NEVER argue with them.  Refrain from making eye contact with them. I have found they usually put a lot of emphasis on eye-to-eye contact and this is detrimental to the sensitive person. If you can stay in a state of witness and not allow them to pull you in to their drama, you will be better off. Don’t lose your confidence despite their behavior and attitude; don’t give them even a single chance to take you down a level. And, lastly, try to change the subject to something pleasant and do not raise your voice. Speak softly to them, otherwise you will have surrendered your innate power, within yourself, to them.
• Make Yourself Aware- This is very crucial step to rid yourself from being a victim of energy vampires. For, without having awareness, you can’t take the next steps. There are some major signs which can alert awareness about energy vampires.  Do you notice when you are in their presence or shortly after leaving them, you feel a lack of motivation? Do you feel depressed? Is there a pattern of headaches, tiredness, weakness, exhaustion, fatigue, fuzzy thinking, sickness?  If you feel any of these signs then you are being victimized by an energy vampire.  Staying aware of your internal dialogue and feelings is crucial here.  Especially if you are in the presence of one of the Zombie-like vampires.  These are the vampires you can’t quite get validation from, no matter how hard you try or how “good” you are.  These people are great teachers in teaching you what your expectations are. Are you one of those who seeks validation from outside yourself?  If so, maybe it’s time to go within, identify the origin which makes this belief true to you.  Work on your own self-worth by learning how to access your own inner compass.
• Stay Calm And Cool- Let them do what they do.  It’s important not to take on what they are dishing out, even if they are yelling at you, blaming you, or attempting to demotivate. Just stay calm and cool and do not become emotionally reactive, otherwise they will come in with an extra force. Do your best to stay in a state of  happiness and confident in this energy.  Tip:  For the Passive-aggressive type energy vampire - these are the ones who ask for advice but never take it to heart - is to just stop giving them your energy and advice.  Detach from the need to help them because these are the ones who expect you to take over and fix them…which, of course, you can’t.
• Be in Good Company- Instead of wasting your time around energy vampires it is better to find the company of positive, motivated, and energetic people with whom you feel comfortable sharing your views and ideas. One of the best ways I’ve dealt with the energy vampirism is to join a group of like-minded people. Then, when I felt a need to go in a different direction, I began my own group. The best way to find these kinds of people is through your friends and social media. Once you meet like-minded people in person, it will surely give you a boost.  Tip: If you are dealing with an Insecure-type energy vampire, try not to stand directly in front of this person. Do not make eye contact with him or her, if possible. Encourage them with words, but do not offer to do things for them. Remember these individuals live in constant fear of rejection and abandonment. Do not let your pity for them be a basis for you being their next victim.
• Make Use Of Crystals/Jewelry-  There are many people who don’t believe in this kind of stuff but according to studies it is shown that special kinds of pendants, rings or just the stones can detour negative rays. Two that I like are Red Carnelian, Pyrite, or Agate.  Any of these stones will help you to protect yourself from the negativity energy vampires project. They can help provide an energetic boundary between you and the person in question.
• Hire A Consultant- If you are being victimized by any energy vampire and, if after reading this article, you are not clear on what to do, then I suggest you hire a consultant who is experienced and good at clearing negative energy.  In my practice, if you choose to hire me, I will consult with you about your specific case and offer recommendations that will empower you to do this for yourself or, if need be, I will partner with you to dissolve it.

These were some major ways to transcend or protect yourself from energy vampires. it is not really difficult to deal with them if you are willing to make changes within yourself by making solid decisions on an action plan and sticking to it.

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