Stuck on the Unavailable?

By Lori Lines

Four principle bodies define our personhood.  The wholeness of your existence can be parsed into our physical body, mental body, emotional body, and spiritual body.  The classifications are self-explanatory.  The physical body governs sensory experiences, bodily needs, and desires.  The mental body encompasses the cognitive processes and frameworks through which you experience your existence, such as value systems, world views, and beliefs.  Comprising your emotional experiences and states is the emotional body.  Finally, your higher self, inner divinity, and authentic ascended essence is the spiritual body.

When we are balanced and aligned, our spiritual, mental, and emotional essence inform and are informed by each other.  Our physical body is the embodiment and expression of mind, heart, and soul - an elaborate orchestration of chi.  While the physical body is essential as our means of self-expression and transportation during this lifetime, of the four, it is the lowest common denominator.  

Imbalances can lead to systemic disruption.  For some, physical needs and self-serving desires take precedence.  In this case, when the mind, heart, or spirit needs healing, the drives of the temporal body block progression and growth.  An illustration of this is when two people feel a strong corporeal attraction that feels so novel and strong it can be falsely attributed with karma.  

Granted, there are many pre-destined connections with labels such as "soul mates," "twin flames," and "karmic connections" scripted in the book of life.  However, we can only discern them when spirit informs the body.  When body informs spirit, we can be misled to hang on to destructive circumstances, energies, and behaviors, obstructing the intended flow of energy throughout the four bodies.  This limits our mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and expansion, keeping us stuck, unable to move into the direction of our highest good.

This is when it's necessary to take a moment, at this point, to reconnect to our soul purpose.  We have come to this lifetime to self-actualize, achieve enlightenment, and ascend. Every experience and every relationship that has been placed on our path is meant to facilitate this practice.  It may not always be clear how to navigate the situation or why a particular person or circumstance was placed on our path, yet we are still accountable for trusting the process and learning.  If you are resistant or allow yourself to be distracted by physical desires, you can manifest negative karmic ramifications by blocking your soul's progression.

The highly marketed and pervasive notion about the Twin Flame connection, for example, is so profound and meaningful that we must pursue it at all costs, never faltering along the journey, is an example of blocking our spiritual progression.  This notion can contribute to the tendency to use fate as an excuse to resist spiritual advancement, fail to fight physical desires, and refuse to release destructive energies, people and situations that may be hurting us. While unique in many ways, the Twin Flame connection is like every other relationship in that it is meant to serve our path towards individual alignment with the higher self.  When a relationship, Twin Flame, soulmate, or otherwise, fails or ceases to support our journey, we are responsible for either healing or releasing it.

Divine wisdom dictates that even in our "failures" or "missteps," we can still find growth and empowerment.  Revisiting the example of the Twin Flame connection, when things don't work out, instead of seeking "healing" through dogged fidelity and destructive tenacity WITH that person, we are meant to learn independence, release, and self-preservation leading to freedom and liberation.  We are not intended to live co-dependently.  We are designed to honor our own personhood so that we are filled with light and  radiate this light out to others within our sphere.  Even when we are not in relationships, independence and liberty to pursue enlightenment on our own terms are vital.   While our spiritual partners can support and inspire our progression towards completion, they are not meant to complete us.  As discussed in a recent article, it is crucial to show up whole to all relationships, sans our baggage, to avoid lowering our individual and mutual vibration.

There are many ways people can be unavailable; emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or due to previous or current attachments.  Fundamentally, whenever we stubbornly pursue a relationship that serves neither our own nor our partner's soul growth any longer than is necessary, one or more of the four bodies will be misaligned or unavailable.  For a connection to fulfill your needs, both parties must be present in all four bodies.  This is the only way to elevate the associated vibrations and support the delicate balance of chi that breathes life into your holistic self that sustains the four bodies it is founded upon.

Keep in mind, letting go of someone we love who is emotionally unavailable may erroneously feel like a lack of fidelity or commitment, yet it is a revealing sign of dedication and loyalty to your life purpose and soul mission. 

Always stay true to yourself without exploiting another.

In love and truth,
Lori Lines

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