That "Undeniable Pull" in Relationships

By Lori Lines

Sometimes we meet someone, and there is an instant and intense magnetism.  Occasionally, this magnetism is more than just attraction and immediate rapport.  This may have happened to you already, or you could be in the throws of attraction right now.  These connections can become relationships that begin with sheer bliss, love bombing, and a wonderful sense of innocence but then they sometimes end in shattering heartbreak.  If you have experienced heartache such as this, you may be surprised to know it turned out exactly how you planned it!

This instantaneous, powerful pull we feel toward someone may mean we are experiencing a karmic connection. This is also known as a soul contract or agreement.  It is a commitment we made on the Other Side to teach/help one another achieve a certain level of enlightenment and spiritual awakening.  Whether or not each person chooses to go within and take the lesson for what it is is up to each relationship participant.

There are specific telltale signs that help identify a karmic connection.  The first was already discussed as an intense, undeniable draw toward a person at first sight.  This immense allure is followed by a honeymoon period of happiness, delight and attachment.  Afterward, the intensity of emotion and connection to that person will remain, but, more often than not, the passion's fire may become too hot to handle.  These relationships are recognized by how challenging, frustrating, and rocky they can be.  The highs are high, and the lows are the pits!

If we are observant and aware, throughout these highs and lows, we will notice the same issues will keep presenting themselves, perhaps under a different cover or in a different relationship, but the insult usually adds to the same injury again and again.
Whether we need to learn self-love, self-worth, humility, empowerment, or to release what no longer serves us, we will keep being pulled through the relationship tests and patterns until we have learned the original lesson we are meant to learn about ourselves.

Another telltale sign of a karmic connection are all the mixed emotions and angst we feel while in relationship to another.  "I love them; I can't stand them,"  "I'm done; I can't walk away."  Karmic connections are full of interpersonal and intra-personal conflict as well as compatibility.  That is because our spirit doesn't feel right walking away (the pull) before the lesson is learned, but it is quite painful to have to keep reliving the same hurts, which can be quite confusing especially if there is a level of compatibility.  Until the karmic contract is fulfilled, and the lessons are learned, we will always feel like we have unfinished business that will weigh on us until our spirit deems it's finished.

According to the Vedic philosophies, there are seven relationship types.  Each relationship type corresponds to one of the seven primary chakras.  Relationships relating to the lower chakras, the root, the sacral, and the solar plexus are full of challenges and result in more unhappiness than the higher chakras.  As such, karmic connections often arise when one needs to heal the lower chakras.

The root chakra represents our sense of security, stability, and provision.  Root chakra relationships are wrought with issues of the unhealthy ego, jealousy, insecurity, and survival.  The emotional instability within one or both partners leads to intense highs and lows in the relationship bringing up selfishness, and emotional barriers. Karmic connections that are intended to heal the root chakra are meant to teach us inner balance, the ability to provide for the self, and the need to develop a secure sense of belonging within...regardless if the relationship is meant to be healed or not.

The sacral chakra is our pleasure center.  It is the home to our creativity, our passion, our emotions, and our desire for creature comforts.  Karmic sacral chakra relationships are laden with issues surrounding selfishness, greed, self-preservation and worry.  The self-serving nature of one or both partners leads to alienation, self-centeredness, obsessiveness, compulsion and a lack of passion and balance. These karmic connections that are designed to heal the sacral chakra are meant to foster emotional maturity, empathy, patience, and an appreciation for life's pleasures.

The solar plexus chakra is what feeds our self-worth and our self-confidence.  Solar plexus connections are generally the happiest of the lower chakra relationships, though these connections are not without trials.  These karmic connections are affected by issues surrounding shallowness, false appearances, lack of authenticity and the desire for admiration.  The lack of humility and a compulsive need to keep up appearances (even when the relationship has outlasted itself) can lead to a tendency toward "one-upmanship" and an absence of partnership equality.  Ultimately, resentment and anger can develop if there is a perception of being held back or outshined.  Karmic connections designed to heal the solar plexus chakra are meant to foster a stable sense of self-worth, personal integrity, motivation for higher purposes, and responsibility for one's own fate.

A cosmic spiritual love and a deeply spiritual purpose of enlightenment is what brings karmic partners together.  In my own past life regressions, I was able to experience and witness a life-between-life where a very intense karmic connection and I were planning this current life to be intensely drawn together for the shared purpose to incite triggers and provide opportunity to heal ourselves, within, after the relationship was sabotaged.  The challenges that presented themselves in the relationship caused me to learn very painful lessons that I chose to acknowledge and to transcend.  Though the physical loss of the eternal spiritual partner can be devastating in this lifetime, it does not mean karmic relationships should last.  In the end, the polarities of energies will reveal themselves, and just as the two were magnetized to one another, they can also be repelled. It is rare, in one lifetime, for these partners to return and fully integrate into a physical spiritual partnership, unless both find themselves on the same page of enlightenment, learned through their individual experiences,  at a later time.  

I often go back to the memory my regression provided, with my spiritual attachment, at our time of planning. I remember his presence and our cosmic conversation while we were in the ethereal realm,  and I feel such a satisfying love that his soul provided me to feel within myself. There is no greater sacrifice of the self and for the other, to incite such transformative pain. And, after the pain is transcended, when the uncovering of that spiritual truth of love is felt once again, there's nothing greater or more satisfying when you know you've passed the test.  The test leading to experience oneself as fully whole and balanced without the same triggers that the partner once incited. There is no greater love, between souls, such as this.

The danger of the karmic connection is to cling to the familiarity, the intensity, and at times, the codependency. As heartbreaking as it can be, know when it is time to walk away.  It's important to do so in peace, knowing you and your karmic connection share such a profound sacred love that you decided it was a journey worth traveling and a loss worth enduring for the sake of mutual enlightenment.

In love and truth,
​Lori Lines

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