By Lori Lines
As I awaken spiritually, I've come to observe that many people have misconceptions about what equality in a relationship is. Some think equality means matching every little thing that one gives another such as the expectation that if one puts a quarter in a shared jar, the other is expected to put a quarter in that same jar, for example. When both place their quarters in the jar, the perception is both are being equal. This is an unrealistic expectation where relationships are concerned. This is not what is meant by equality. In reality, equality in a relationship means balance. A balance of energy exchange and effort that is meaningful for both parties involved.
So, how do we get to a point of balance in a relationship?
It begins with the self first. It's about finding your own sense of value and worthiness, within yourself, and knowing what that is and being able to communicate it to your partner. When we understand who we are we have a sense of our own worth and therefore, anything our partner (who also knows their value and who they really are) gives has meaning for the good of the relationship. It's as if you stand in your true self saying, "this is who I am and this is what I offer" and then authentically BEING what you offer. It's a place of meeting toe-to-toe and eye-to-eye. This is balance.
No longer will it work to seek for love that is so unapologetically contrived in our society. True love exists in the time and space of being who we really are and the only way we are actively being who we really are is when we are standing in the presence of ourselves - because being in the present moment is being in a space of love.
It is the only way true love can be expressed for when we are standing in presence, love will use us to experience itself. Deep? I know, but it's true.
Now, more than ever, we are encouraged to let go of anything we believe to be true and just be present. Meaning, in allowing life to live you, life will become much easier because in each moment, we are reborn and we tune in to a very enlightened state of be-ing.
Being who you really are (love) is a constant stripping away of the beliefs of what you think you are. Think about it.
Wishing you many blessings as you practice presence,
Author Lori Lines
This blog represents messages through and from Lori Lines.